Need some advice please

Mila said:
The boys on here is a bunch of moaners
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RustyPrincess said:
Mxit? She dumped you over mxit... ha ha ha. You are better off without her. Try to remember the things she did that you found unappealing and every time you think of her, think of those.... then she won't seem as appealing.

You shouldn't be dating someone new if you haven't gotten over your ex, as its not fair to the new girl as you are going to constantly compare her to something "better".

Also rebounds shouldn't last a year....
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This.

:D:p


porn$tar said:
alf called it. Always comes down to sex. Always.
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Interesting choice of words.
 
BrianStephan said:
Going to make this short. I went out with a girl for 3 years she dropped me for my best friend almost 4 years ago not in the best way u can imagine over mxit. Havent seen her in 4 years and broke off contact about a year ago. Now there is just something that is keeping me from letting this go I dont know what it is. I have a new g/f have been going out for a year now. Need some advice from ppl looking outside the box where I can only look from the inside.
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You'll find you won't ever let go, not entirely. If you don't have feelings for her anymore and you broke off all contact (which is the right thing to do/feel) it's still going to linger because of the way she did it.

Stuff like that you don't really forget. But now that you have a new gf, concentrate on making her happy. Let your issues be yours, don't make it hers as well.

Think 3x before you say 1 thing, just in case you'll slip up and go "YOU BITCH YOU JUST LIKE MY EX!" or something silly like that.

Don't worry too much about it. It's natural.
 
So i'm curious.. u still friends with the buddy? if not it might be more like alf said with a primal twist. You kinda questioning why she chose him over you and likely will only feel better about it, not if u shag her but that and her saying u were better. Either way i doubt it will last longer than that happening. :p Maybe u should save urself & current gf and just ask her upfront why.(assuming u can come across as not psycho and genuinely just curious and moved on)
 
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No I havent spoken to him in 4 years. I think Acid has hit the nail on the head something u carry with you for the rest of your life. I can say though from experience that you do learn allot of valueble lessons. Dont know how true it is but my father told me this that u get girls that arent your wife but prepare you for your wife 1 day so that you will know how to handle and care for her.
 
BrianStephan said:
No I havent spoken to him in 4 years. I think Acid has hit the nail on the head something u carry with you for the rest of your life. I can say though from experience that you do learn allot of valueble lessons. Dont know how true it is but my father told me this that u get girls that arent your wife but prepare you for your wife 1 day so that you will know how to handle and care for her.
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Hope your wife doesn't shag your friends
 
Mxit and SMS break ups are very sudden and low and leave a lot of unanswered questions. At least when I broke up with my last ex I had the decency to go to her, sit and cry about it with her for a while, explain my side, talk about it and see if there is an out or solution and see if she still had the need to keep it going and try work at it. Sadly but perhaps fortunately she agreed with what I said and it was never meant to be even though at a point we both thought we had something serious going.

My ex before that however was a sudden sms break up out of nowhere during her matric exams when I had saved money and planned so much for us soon after she would finish. It darn near drives a person insane and can do a lot of damage emotionally and mentally. You have to be a harda$$ or not care for the girl to feel indifferent about something like that.

Eventually you let it go. There will always be the odd moment you think of her and you may even get a little flustered when you find out she has a new boyfriend. You may meet an amazing woman after and still think of the previous one from time to time. But if time don't fix it then what it takes is a woman to put you in your place that makes you forget real quick :) or something that drives you more emotionally than before.

You will never forget those long relationships...each teach us a little something we shouldn't forget. If you just think of your ex as a reminder of how you should treat your new girlfriend then that's ok. Nothing wrong with that. What matters is where your heart is at. And it shouldn't be something you need to motivate yourself about either and make yourself believe it is what you want. If you are at odds with what you want best you take it easy for a while before you create your own regrets.

It is difficult to understand why you keep thinking back though if you say there is no more emotion there.
 
BrianStephan said:
I dont have any feelings for her no and I am not moaning I am asking for advice there is a huge diffrence.
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If you don't have any feelings for her then what exactly is your problem?

You clearly aren't over her. Don't string this other poor girl along if you're still obviously obsessed enough to post on a forum about it.
 
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akescpt said:
Grow a pair and forget about her. She screwed u over with your best friend then broke up with u over mxit! How many signs do u need?
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+1 wtf is wrong with blokes these days. I fear for the future of the human race.
 
I do believe you are having feelings of regret...

Possible regret that you may have gone much further with her in terms of a relationship...
 
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