Nothing quite beats the feeling of being lied to & ripped off by a "good" friend

[Grant]

I know, i know - we shouldn't lend money, but sometimes one has to.

lent a friend a thousand bucks 2 weeks back.
told her not to pay me back, but to give it to someone else who was bringing something back from the uk for me.
spoke to friend the other day - she mentions in passing, that she had given our mutual friend the cash.

spoke to our mutual friend in the uk - who tells me, she has not seen her (the person who owed me the money) and had certainly not received any cash from her on my behalf.

how rude !!


**sorry
had to get it off my chest
(needless to say) cant get hold of the friend who owes the money

we live - we learn

 

[satanboy]

people are rubbish

especially when it comes to cash

 

[PhireSide]

So one of the two might be lying...hmmm

 

[Arthur]

Give it a while. Maybe there's a perfectly good explanation. Don't shrink too soon.

 

[Grant]

So one of the two might be lying...hmmm

well, i spoke to the one who i lent the money to (who was supposed to pass it on) earlier, & mentioned i would be speaking to london.
since then, she is suddenly not answering calls - which is never the case.

but hey !!

 

[PhireSide]

well, i spoke to the one who i lent the money to (who was supposed to pass it on) earlier, & mentioned i would be speaking to london.
since then, she is suddenly not answering calls - which is never the case.

but hey !!

Warning bells, definitely. Have you known her for long? It could be she spent the money and is trying to earn it back before you catch on? I am being quite optimistic though - but then again you don't need thieves in your life

 

[Grant]

Give it a while. Maybe there's a perfectly good explanation. Don't shrink too soon.

i hope so - any explanation would do - the money is the least of the issue with me.

if i lend someone money, there is no time constraint - it's a case of whenever / if ever you can.

 

[Dolby]

Does that go for MyBB forumites?

 

[PhireSide]

I understand - it can be R5 or R5mil, it's the idea of being all sneaky and lying and thieving that hurts more (Well, if I lost R5mil I would be the moer in actually :erm: so bad example )

 

[Grant]

Warning bells, definitely. Have you known her for long? It could be she spent the money and is trying to earn it back before you catch on? I am being quite optimistic though - but then again you don't need thieves in your life

i'm trying to be optimistic - clutching at any reason that comes my way

 

[mintydroid]

If you lend money to someone expect it not to be returned.

 

[Stokstert]

If you lend money to someone expect it not to be returned.

That's especialy true for female friends.

 

[Grant]

If you lend money to someone expect it not to be returned.

i pretty much have that attitude - if it come back great, if not - well, not the end of the world.
this i have already written off, but the circumstances are a little different

 

[HavocXphere]

Personally I'd consider it a deep betrayal of trust. I'm cool with people telling me face to face "look Havoc I can't honour my commitment to pay you back...perhaps at a later stage". i.e. look me in the eyes and level with me.

But take my money in good faith & then lie...that will never be forgotten or forgiven.

More generally on the topic of friends & loans:

My old man always used to say...lend people money if you must but consider it a gift/write-off in your mind from the start. That has served me well so far.

Thankfully all the people I've loaned money to so far have been solid (eventually)...and those that were late volunteered to pay interest...obvious said no but it showed me they did take it seriously which is good enough for me.

if i lend someone money, there is no time constraint - it's a case of whenever / if ever you can.

Personally I try to enforce <1 month / next pay cheque. Usually to patch up a couple days cashflow crisis. Things can get out of hand if its more long term.

 

[Mystic Twilight]

A few bucks is cool, anything considered substantial then they can go to the bank. If the bank won't lend them money, odds are you won't see that money being paid back when given.

 

[Rocket-Boy]

I have a hard and fast rule with money and lending to friends.
If they return the money well and good, if they dont and you never see them again then it was money well spent...

 

[Kornhub]

I never expect my friends to pay me back but they either pay me back in cash eventually or in other ways. Just help each other out but don't ever lie to each other I mean rough times are rough times.

 

[Colin62]

If you lend money to someone expect it not to be returned.

Couldn't agree more. I basically don't lend money - I'll treat it as a gift, and if they return it, then that's an unexpected bonus. If I want the money back, then I can't afford to lend it in the first place, and I won't.

 

[Aghori]

I once lent a close friend from school days around 15k. In my book it was money well spent since I haven't heard from him yet.

 

[Electric]

Been there, done that.
A close friend of mine owes me R1000.
He is stinking rich but has decided to not speak to me, call me, braais have stopped, etc.
He has decided that R1000 is worth ruining our friendship over.

And as I mentioned, the dude is loaded.
I've decided that I don't need to have friends like that despite us being very close.
I'm quite annoyed about it but he seems to not give 2 shts.