"Okay, but who is the female"

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nightjar said:
Perhaps you're relying on Kinsey who was a hack that belonged in jail, and would be if he was still alive.
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wasn't a "who is gay" poll conducted here on mybb ?
seem to remember one - and it came out at around 10% or so
 
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Yeah, nothing wrong with preferences. But they can be misleading, and I don't only mean fake profiles (which there are lots of) - I mean you can fall in love with someone you'd never say is your type. For instance there is this girly boy I really like, but if it wasn't for a few raunchy cuddle sessions and intellectual conversation - I would never have gone for him at all. I'm as bottom as they come, and he has literally nothing to offer me sexually in what I think I prefer.
 
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genetic said:
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HAHAHAHA! I am so making that my avatar now!
 
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nightjar said:
Bluidy 'ell!

Nineteen pages of fighting over a perfectly reasonable question, considering that 97 - 98% of the world population is responsive to the opposite gender
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What's reasonable about asking two men which of them is the female? Say it out loud. "Which male is the female."

See how utterly retarded it sounds. Maybe from your limited, uninformed perspective you can find some way to justify that question, but to me it is utterly ridiculous.

A gay relationship involves two males and a lesbian relationship involves two females. In a gay relationship there is no female and in a lesbian relationship there is no male. I don't see any way how you can justify that question. If you have to ask, ask who is the more assertive in the relationship. Don't ask who is the opposite gender, because there is no opposite gender in the relationship.

Every relationship has its own distribution of power where one partner is usually more assertive than the other. In most heterosexual relationships, the male is the more assertive one due to the way many people still adhere to gender stereotypes. However, when we encounter a heterosexual marriage where the husband takes a more passive role and the wife takes a more assertive role, we don't call the wife the man and the husband the female because it's silly and makes no sense. Why should we then call one half of a gay relationship a female just because he is less assertive than the other half?

Maybe next time someone asks me this silly question I should grab them by the balls, twist it around and crush it until I hear something go -POP- and then say that I'm the female in the relationship.
 
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So why do some gays act more female than an actual female? Sit hulle nie aan nie? (Aren't they faking it?)

BTW Zewp, that's what people mean when they ask that question. Who fills the role of female, in other words, who is not the dominant partner, the subordinate
 
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Zewp said:
Maybe next time someone asks me this silly question I should grab them by the balls, twist it around and crush it until I hear something go -POP- and then say that I'm the female in the relationship.
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I like :D
 
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Zewp said:
What's reasonable ............
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Ouch! Such aggro!

RE - From your limited, uninformed perspective....

From MY perspective, if I meet a person who tells me that he/she is involved, it's a perfectly normal question to ask unless it it is obvious that the person bats for the other side.

All the people that I know appear perfectly normal although a tiny percentage are actually homosexual.
 
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nightjar said:
From MY perspective, if I meet a person who tells me that he/she is involved, it's a perfectly normal question to ask unless it it is obvious that the person bats for the other side.
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So when you meet someone and they tell you they're in a relationship, you ask them which one of them is the female?

I don't think you quite understand the OP...
This isn't about meeting a random person, hearing he's in a relationship and asking who his girlfriend is. This is about meeting a gay guy and asking him which one of the two men in the relationship is 'the female.'
 
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Zewp said:
So when you meet someone and they tell you they're in a relationship, you ask them which one of them is the female?

I don't think you quite understand the OP...
This isn't about meeting a random person, hearing he's in a relationship and asking who his girlfriend is. This is about meeting a gay guy and asking him which one of the two men in the relationship is 'the female.'
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OK. Point taken.
Reading the OP gave me the wrong impression.
Of the few couples I know, it has never occurred to me to ask who does what and to whom.
I must add that I only know one lesbian couple and I can guess what they do to each other - and I often wish that I could join in.
 
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