"Okay, but who is the female"

[faniebraai]

Only You would ask.

My reply to them, "I tried bending but it wasn't for me, so I rather do the sending"

remind me of this joke i once heard...

guy goes to jail. big dude looking to get frisky asks him "do you want to be the wife, or the husband?"
guy thinking he would rather send it, then bend it so he says "i'll be the hubby"
so big dude says "ok, now get over here and suck your wife's d1ck!"

 

[Garson007]

They just curious about the sex.

This.

 

[Electric]

I am as straight as they come. And for someone that is very straight, and very uneducated about gays, I think the question arises from 'what you know'.

In a typical straight relationship, the female normally has a duty as the wife, and as the male, we normally have a duty. This is just the way we've been brought up. My wife doesn't expect me to clean the house or kitchen, but she does expect me to take charge of finances and make sure there is a food on the table and a roof over our heads. I expect her to be in charge of the kids, but don't expect her to fix things around the house or carry the heavy stuff around.Straight people tend to think these roles should exist in any relationship, where it's gay or lesbian.

So what they are basically asking you is - who makes the bed and who changes the bulb / plugs?

LOL WTF Fanie.

 

[USZA]

just looking at you and you will see you the tief in the relationship

So zewp ..im guessing you the female ..cause only a female will run and biets about things like this

Oooh, you're on a trip I see

 

[Compton_effect]

To be fair - most lesbian couples I've met has a one partner being more (for want of a better word) feminine.
Not really so with gay couples.

 

[faniebraai]

LOL WTF Fanie.

wat? its just the way we've been brought up. the man does man things, the woman does woman things. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, it's just they way things are traditionally.

Or are you just talking about the way I've put that sentence together, because reading it again it seems very much like a word salad LOL

 

[ShaunSA]

Only You would ask.

My reply to them, "I tried bending but it wasn't for me, so I rather do the sending"

You haven't bent for the right sender yet

 

[AstroTurf]

In a typical straight relationship, the female normally has a duty as the wife, and as the male, we normally have a duty. This is just the way we've been brought up. My wife doesn't expect me to clean the house or kitchen, but she does expect me to take charge of finances and make sure there is a food on the table and a roof over our heads.

Ha! I must be the girl in our relationship then

Wife has morning sickness so I am basically doing everything.

 

[faniebraai]

Ha! I must be the girl in our relationship then

Wife has morning sickness so I am basically doing everything.

exception to the rule, which isn't a rule. that's what i'm saying lol

 

[I.am.Sam]

Oooh, you're on a trip I see

Vern ...you look like the man

 

[Flip-Flop]

If they ask this question purely from a sexual perspective then they should be asking this of their straight friends also. Woman are bending their husbands over and taking control in bed.

 

[RazedInBlack]

just looking at you and you will see you the tief in the relationship

Rude!

 

[Garson007]

Interestingly enough. I normally bottom, but lately I've been interested in someone who is an out and out bottom. Confusing times. So I'd top with him.

As for the rest of the gender roles. Eh. I'm a man and I like other men. If either of us can't change a light bulb we might as well commit suicide.

 

[faniebraai]

If they ask this question purely from a sexual perspective then they should be asking this of their straight friends also. Woman are bending their husbands over and taking control in bed.

no way my wife is shoving something into my exit!!

 

[Garson007]

If they ask this question purely from a sexual perspective then they should be asking this of their straight friends also. Woman are bending their husbands over and taking control in bed.

They are?

 

[faniebraai]

They are?

norrafsk!

 

[I.am.Sam]

Rude!

i love that man ..he is like an aunt to me

 

[ant_man]

You haven't bent for the right sender yet

Well hell, how many does it take to find the right one??????
Maybe one day, I will try again.

 

[Nicci]

Do you know how many times I've been asked this question in the past two months that I've been in a relationship?

It seems many straight people, even liberal ones, simply cannot wrap their head around the idea of a relationship existing without a female in it. Even some of my friends who I would normally consider intelligent cannot seem to understand this. This past weekend they asked which one of us they should call 'him' and which one 'her.' When I said that we're both guys and thus both 'him', they said that that makes no sense. I was dumbstruck, because I was the one thinking their logic makes no sense at all.

I don't think most people mean it offensively, but it is actually rather offensive because there's this unspoken idea that a relationship cannot exist without a 'female' in it. If there was a female in my relationship, I would be straight. I really don't understand it. The entire point of a gay relationship is that it involves two men, so why is it so difficult to understand that it's a relationship between two men, in terms of the 'roles' played in it?

I've never heard someone ask the same thing of a lesbian couple, so why does the question come up so often when gay couples are discussed? I swear, I'm so tired of being asked this question by now that I really want to rip out my hair whenever someone asks me.

Hmm I don't think people mean to be offensive. It is more curiosity than anythingelse. Also, some gay men are more feminine (queen) and others are more manly like. It is however silly to say him / her as both are males, but maybe they are asking from a sexual point of view who is the impaler and who receives it?

 

[USZA]

Vern ...you look like the man

No Sam, I'm not gonna put it on you, you poof