[Opinion] Reconciliation Day: Reconciling with the unrepentant

krycor

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[Opinion] Reconciliation Day: Reconciling with the unrepentant

OPINION / 16 DECEMBER 2019, 11:51AM / UNATHI KONDILE

She sits behind her computer all day. Has a mild twitch. Has worked for the same company for over 30 years. Has a dog. A cat too, most likely. Judging by all the fur on her work garments. At home she has a 67-year-old maid that has far more physical strength than her.

She works for one of the big four media companies in South Africa. For her work is routine and everything is methodical. When apartheid ended nothing changed for her. She clung on to her cushy managerial positions and watched the steady stream of young and old black professionals shuffle in an out of employment under her watch.

Her world never changed when apartheid ended. Instead, today she is told to play 'equal' with those she has known to be inferior to her all her life.

In fact, forget race. She does not see life through race lenses although she is prone to bandy about the occasional "those people", “cheeky black” and "ka****s" at family gatherings.

Two years ago she was tasked with managing a young black professional who had, until she came on board, professionally run a particular project single-handedly.

To her mind it was inconceivable for a young black to run a project for three years solid without a single incident of corruption or error. To her something was wrong. This black male would not accept her suggestions. Was able to question and bend her methodical approach to doing business in 2019.

She had to get rid of him by all means necessary. The easiest way was to use managerial processes to exhaust him out of the system; deny his expense claims, reject his travel requests, give preferential treatment to his subordinates and question all business expenditure... Afterall, when you have been doing the same job for over 30 years, you have all the time in the world to frustrate and work anyone out of their job. Until they resign or opt for voluntary retrenchment.

If you were that young black male, what would Reconciliation Day mean to you?

We live in a country where only one race is required to forgive. The strangest part of this forgiveness is that there is an expectation to forgive people who have never asked to be forgiven.

After all, how do you ask for forgiveness when in your mind you have never done anything wrong? That twitchy white woman does not for a second think that her actions were fuelled by race. Privilege and experience, surely, cannot be a wrong.

How do you reconcile with such people?

When we are asked to reflect on Reconciliation Day we have to be more explicit. We have to state, unapologetically, that such days of reconciliation, heritage or youth are meant to educate our former oppressors.

An onus must be placed on former oppressors and their children to actively participate on such days. Instead of bussing in the very same victims of our past to stadiums and preaching reconciliation to them, we should send those buses to suburbs to pick up the privileged and get them to those stadiums.

It cannot be that these days are meant to be observed by the very same people who endured them. What warped self-flagellation is that from this democratically elected government?

Days like Reconciliation Day should be set aside for white South Africans to perform sincere acts of repentance. Bus them to stadiums and townships for the day; let them listen to our banal leaders, take them to churches like ZCC, let them attend traditional ceremonies like imigidi, even attend a funeral or two on any given Saturday – in fact let them visit the grieving home the whole week so they can see the entire process.

I would even go as far as suggesting compulsory homestays, where white South Africans spend a week living with a black family in a township or in a shack.

Get to see the other side of a seemingly normal privileged existence in South Africa. Why are we pussyfooting around this? If one cannot see their privilege why not show them?

Simply saying we have 16 December to observe Reconciliation Day is not enough. Reconciliation Day should not be the duty of black people, it is the responsibility of white South Africans. Instead of surfing, towing caravans and braai'ing on such days I would encourage them to humble themselves and learn more about their forgivers.

We also have a duty to instil a sense of confidence in many blacks who still see themselves as inferior; those that shrivel and shrink to child-like mannerism whenever a white is present.

Those that say “yes!” to every white whim make it increasingly impossible to achieve this reconciliation project. They assert an expectation that to be black is to be subservient and compliant such that any black who does not behave in that manner is a problem.

I am as equally irked to be using terms like black and white in this piece but I also understand, firmly, that all is still black and white in this country and until true reconciliation is attained, we have to use race in our writings. Any request to not see race, at this stage, is to be that twitchy old white women with a 67-year-old maid.

 

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Make up some fantasy about what you think might be going in the mind of an imaginary person. Use your brain fart as the basis of an argument to target, stereotype and vilify a minority race group. Yeah, that’s reconciliatory and not indicative of a sick mind at all.
 

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Paradox 101:

Days like Reconciliation Day should be set aside for white South Africans to perform sincere acts of repentance.
I am as equally irked to be using terms like black and white in this piece but I also understand, firmly, that all is still black and white in this country and until true reconciliation is attained, we have to use race in our writings.


So, until somebody else (white people) does something that sufficiently meets your ever-shifting requirements, you'll continue to use race to separate? You'll continue with this us / them narrative? Because I can guarantee you nothing a white person ever says or does will ever be so perfectly crafted so as to please you or anyone else who requires such an offering before they move on with life.

You don't want progress. You want to hold on to this race conflict for dear life so that one day some white person who's a real dick is gonna say something to push you over the edge and you'll exclaim: "Aha! See - fking white people are racists bitches!". And you'll double down on your dislike for all white people and soon it becomes hatred and soon you're as racist & hateful as those whose ancestors you now require apologies from.
 
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Nope, sorry, I will not atone for the sins of the fathers. You are welcome to hold me accountable, and ask for repentance, for my actions if any of them should be worthy of such, but I am not guilty by virtue of by happenstance sharing a skin colour with those who acted reprehensibly in the past. Nor do I require your forgiveness, for I have not wronged you.
 

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Paradox 101:





So, until somebody else (white people) do something that sufficiently meets your ever-shifting requirements, you'll continue to use race to separate? You'll continue with this us / them narrative? Because I can guarantee you nothing a white person ever says or does will ever be so perfectly crafted so as to please you or anyone else who requires such an offering before they move on with life.

You don't want progress. You want to hold on to this race conflict for dear life so that one day some white person who's a real dick is gonna say something to you to push you over the edge and you'll exclaim: "Aha! See - fking white people are racists bitches!". And you'll double down on your dislike for all white people and soon it becomes hatred and soon you're as racist & hateful as those whose ancestors you now require apologies from.
Exactly.
But as I was told in the other post.

Its white people’s fault for not doing everything.
 

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The Battle of Blood River (Afrikaans: Slag van Bloedrivier; Zulu: iMpi yaseNcome) is the name given for the battle fought between 470 Voortrekkers ("Pioneers"), led by Andries Pretorius, and an estimated 10,000 to 15,000[1] Zulu on the bank of the Ncome River on 16 December 1838, in what is today KwaZulu-Natal, South Africa. Casualties amounted to over 3,000 of King Dingane's soldiers dead, including two Zulu princes competing with Prince Mpande for the Zulu throne. Three Pioneer commando members were lightly wounded, including Pretorius.

The year 1838 was the most difficult period for the Voortrekkers since they left the Cape Colony, till the end of the Great Trek. They were plagued by many disasters and much bloodshed before they found freedom and a safe homeland in their Republic of Natalia. This could only be achieved by crushing the power of the Zulu King, Dingane, at the greatest battle ever fought in South Africa, namely the Battle of Blood River, which took place on Sunday 16 December 1838.[2]
Four days after the Battle of Blood River, the Trekker commando arrived at King Dingane's great kraal UmGungundlovu (near present-day Eshowe), only to find it deserted and ablaze. The bones of Retief and his men were found and buried, where a memorial stands today. Afterwards the clash was commemorated as having occurred at Blood River (Bloedrivier). 16 December is a public holiday in South Africa;[16] before 1994 it was known as "the Day of the Vow", "the Day of the Covenant" and "Dingaan's Day"; but today it is "the Day of Reconciliation".[17]

Conflict with Voortrekkers

In November 1837 Dingane met with Piet Retief, leader of the Voortrekkers. In return for their recovering some stolen cattle, Dingane signed a deed of cession of lands (written in English) to the Voortrekkers. It is generally believed that Dingane knew what he was signing, although he could not have had any formal education, and could not have read the contents of the document, nor could he have understood the concept of permanent land ownership, since it was not a custom of the Zulus to permanently assign land to individuals.[5] On 6 February 1838, after two days of feasting, the chief had Retief and his diplomatic party killed.[6] They had been told to leave their firearms outside the royal kraal. Suddenly, when the dancing had reached a frenzied climax, King Dingane leapt to his feet and shouted Bambani aba thakathi! (Catch the wizards!). The men were totally overpowered and dragged away to a hill called kwaMatiwane, named after a chief who had been killed there. Retief and his men were killed. It is alleged by some that the reason why they were killed was that they withheld some of the cattle recovered from Chief Sekonyela. The general opinion is that Dingane did not wish to yield the land ceded to them in the treaty and mistrusted the presence of the Voortrekkers.[7] At the same time, Dingane's forces killed Retief's undefended trek party, about 500 Boers and native servants (250[4] or 252[5] Khoikhoi and Basuto that accompanied the Voortrekkers were killed) , including women and children. The Boers called this the Weenen massacre. The nearby present-day town of Weenen (Dutch for "weeping") was named by early settlers in memory of the massacre.

In a further act of war, Dingane ordered his army also to seek and kill the group of Voortrekkers under Andries Pretorius. The Zulu impis attacked the Voortrekker encampment, but they were crushingly defeated in the ensuing Battle of Blood River. An estimated 3,000 Zulus were killed, while three Voortrekkers were slightly wounded. Dingane's commander at the battle was Ndlela kaSompisi.

Days like Reconciliation Day should be set aside for white South Africans to perform sincere acts of repentance.
I am as equally irked to be using terms like black and white in this piece but I also understand, firmly, that all is still black and white in this country and until true reconciliation is attained, we have to use race in our writings.

I don't think reconciliation means what they think it means.
 

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This made up story shows exactly what is wrong with SA. Made up BS to push a race agenda.

My real world experience is quite the opposite. Black people in jobs come and go, either to better jobs or get fired for corruption. The whites remain and very often have to pick up the pieces. When it comes to any higher position though we will always be at the back of the queue.

10 more years and there are going to be a few whites left to fix the **** (no more whites appointed in government institutions for many years now).

Eskom already reached this point.

Before the fighters arrive, I am not saying that blacks are incompetent. I am saying that AA and BEE are pushing people into positions where they don't belong.
 

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This made up story shows exactly what is wrong with SA. Made up BS to push a race agenda.

My real world experience is quite the opposite. Black people in jobs come and go, either to better jobs or get fired for corruption. The whites remain and very often have to pick up the pieces. When it comes to any higher position though we will always be at the back of the queue.
This is no different from what the author has on that article.
 
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Holy. F**k.
The froggies' water temperature just went up a couple notches. Not long now till whitey gonna need to wear a yellow star, it seems.
 

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I came here for the comments and what a pity party it is indeed! :laugh:
 
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