Outgrowing the people around you.

[CamiKaze]

Everyone experiences this in their lifetime. It seems like you are the one that is always going to them?

Why dont you let them come to your place? Bring them into your world. Sooner or later they will start to understand or see a different world, This will sub consciously change their mindset to one that better fits yours. It takes some time but it will happen.

When you are by them, then it is their culture that you left behind. When they are by you, it is your culture that they will try to accommodate.

 

[Nicodeamus]

I go through this regularly, I have about 2 friends left from high school, 3 from Varsity, others I will chat with every now and then on facebook. I expected to lose my friends during high school, but it was kinda unexpected to part massive ways with the ones that I studied with at varsity (we were a lot closer and it was sad to go ''apart'').


We are luckily a close family so my sisters and brother, their BFs and Wives are like real friends to me. Other than that I do enjoy some pals while doing a hobby or two, but I wouldn't really call them my friends.

The problem once you leave school and University is that you have a lot less time on your hands and you need to really make an effort to stick with your friends.

I also do regard some people that I met on the internet as friends.

 

[zippy]

Lycanthrope just leaves the country when he has this issue.

That actually works btw

 

[KleinBoontjie]

I found that seeing friends and family once a year makes it easier for me. For some of them, 1 year is still not enough.

In any case, I found a job in another town and moved away. Best thing that ever happened to me. Like a new life opened for me. Now I decide who I wanna see. :twisted:
I live about an hour and a half drive from the closest one, so no more "just popped in" kinda thing. ow they phone and ask if I'm gonna be home.

 

[RoboJedi]

I find allot of friendships are based on a bad crutch like partying or booze... When you grow up and move on those friendships die quickly.

Other friendships develop around a life stage such as having kids of the same age or a hobby like a sport.

The more i talk to people especially in cape town and joburg i realize how many people are looking for deeper meaningful friendships. Most of the world is quite lonely. My best mate is my wife, but yes long for that deep child like buddy that was just your buddy with no agenda.

 

[3WA]

Borrow money from each person you wish to cut ties with.....then slowly cut back on communication but don't ignore them entirely. Eventually they will discard you and have the joy of righteous indignation to keep them happy.