Physically disciplining your child will soon be unlawful in South Africa

[konfab]

Some children are quite happy to go sit by themselves. Not everyone thrives on being a part of society.

If they are happy to go and quietly sit by themselves, then why would you want to hit them?

 

[Neuk_]

There is a big difference between abuse and a smack.

To be frank, a parent that beats the wife and children isn't going to stop because the law says so.

The article discusses physical discipline, abuse has always been illegal.

 

[ArmatageShanks]

You think any of those kids had strong parents to teach them right from wrong?

Yeah but that's as bad as things go, I think a lot more has to go into a child's psychology for that to happen.

 

[Aghori]

To be fair, some parents can raise kids without the need for corporal punishment.

A very small "some". The majority of brats are out of control impatient lil tykes.

 

[ArmatageShanks]

Good step, but I doubt whether it is actually enforceable.


The same way you discipline an adult. You exclude them from social interaction.

What if they are loners?

 

[ToxicBunny]

There is a big difference between abuse and a smack.

To be frank, a parent that beats the wife and children isn't going to stop because the law says so.

Precisely this..

Its legislating away a method of discipline because certain people take it too far... those people won't stop because the law says so, so all that has happened is the people who applied it correctly now legally won't be able to.

Although, in saying that, I was listening to some crap on the radio yesterday on the way home, and it seems that in certain cultures, beating your child senseless is possibly acceptable so it is potentially a bigger problem than most of us want to admit to.

 

[GoB]

I preferred a good beating to constant shouting.

 

[Neuk_]

I preferred a good beating to constant shouting.

In boarding school we almost always chose physical discipline over writing out school rules or early morning report.

 

[SmartKit]

If they are happy to go and quietly sit by themselves, then why would you want to hit them?

Because they may also be the type of child that sets the living room carpet on fire. So what we teach them is that arson is okay, as long as we go have some quiet time when we're done.

 

[cerebus]

We did smack our kids in the beginning, but the more time has gone on the less I'm convinced that it ever helped them. It's far more beneficial to train them how to share, how to behave in the shops, how to manage their emotions, how to handle conflict, and so on through emotional awareness. They just ended up being scared of me when I smacked them. Often they're just tired or overstimulated and they need you to come in and help them cope.

I think I gave a smack a few weeks ago the last time, and even that one I regret after the fact. I'm really thinking to just drop the whole thing.

 

[ArmatageShanks]

We did smack our kids in the beginning, but the more time has gone on the less I'm convinced that it ever helped them. It's far more beneficial to train them how to share, how to behave in the shops, how to manage their emotions, how to handle conflict, and so on through emotional awareness. They just ended up being scared of me when I smacked them. Often they're just tired or overstimulated and they need you to come in and help them cope.

I think I gave a smack a few weeks ago the last time, and even that one I regret after the fact. I'm really thinking to just drop the whole thing.

Seems like a good way to go about it, and you also have the threat of a smack which will be useful.

 

[konfab]

Because they may also be the type of child that sets the living room carpet on fire. So what we teach them is that arson is okay, as long as we go have some quiet time when we're done.

So why do you allow them access to matches as a parent then?

 

[Spizz]

We did smack our kids in the beginning, but the more time has gone on the less I'm convinced that it ever helped them. It's far more beneficial to train them how to share, how to behave in the shops, how to manage their emotions, how to handle conflict, and so on through emotional awareness. They just ended up being scared of me when I smacked them. Often they're just tired or overstimulated and they need you to come in and help them cope.

I think I gave a smack a few weeks ago the last time, and even that one I regret after the fact. I'm really thinking to just drop the whole thing.

I was a smacker as well at first but I realised I was doing it more out of my anger and frustration rather than as a punishment for them.

My 2 eldest are now in their 20s and didn’t get a smack probably since they were about 7 or 8. My youngest, nearly 13 has never been smacked that I recall.

It’s just not necessary and is all to often used as an alternative to developing parenting skills.

 

[Mista_Mobsta]

We did smack our kids in the beginning, but the more time has gone on the less I'm convinced that it ever helped them. It's far more beneficial to train them how to share, how to behave in the shops, how to manage their emotions, how to handle conflict, and so on through emotional awareness. They just ended up being scared of me when I smacked them. Often they're just tired or overstimulated and they need you to come in and help them cope.

I think I gave a smack a few weeks ago the last time, and even that one I regret after the fact. I'm really thinking to just drop the whole thing.

So in a sense I agree with you. The problem is we as parents can't always understand a kids emotions as we are a lot more developed that they are. In simple terms, we CAN'T always think the way a kid does. What we can do is to discipline bad behavior in the most appropriate manner in each scenario. Kids learn to respect their elders through both physicality and mentality, at least in my humble opinion. Your kid will respect you if you are smarter than they are and respect you if you are stronger than they are. Thing is, they will test you on both and it's your responsibility to teach them how to handle not being the strongest or not being the smartest.

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

We did smack our kids in the beginning, but the more time has gone on the less I'm convinced that it ever helped them. It's far more beneficial to train them how to share, how to behave in the shops, how to manage their emotions, how to handle conflict, and so on through emotional awareness. They just ended up being scared of me when I smacked them. Often they're just tired or overstimulated and they need you to come in and help them cope.

I think I gave a smack a few weeks ago the last time, and even that one I regret after the fact. I'm really thinking to just drop the whole thing.

I think the last time I gave either of my kids a smack was about 7 years ago. I prefer to talk to them and explain why what they've done is wrong. I never have any issues after that.

My wife on the other hand! I sometimes get the feeling that my kids are scared of her and will toe the line, not because they don't want to do wrong, but because they don't know what wrong is.

 

[marine1]

This liberal fktard world we live in So sick of this PC rubbish

 

[Jet-Fighter7700]

This liberal fktard world we live in So sick of this PC rubbish

and one wonders why we have people born without relevant skills and missing common sense.

this is how F8cked up kids grow up these days.

 

[Spizz]

This liberal fktard world we live in So sick of this PC rubbish

Yeah. Quick thump and more time for you to chill by the braai, huh.

 

[Ninja'd]

To be fair, some parents can raise kids without the need for corporal punishment.

"Why abuse your kids physically when emotional damage lasts longer?" - Ken Titus

 

[Slootvreter]

How are you supposed to discipline a child then?

Beg the child to please please listen and behave.