Sex threads in HWLR

CathJ

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I agree with you 100% as you will note I have not taken part in most of the other discussions you are mentioning. I'm also a reserved kind of guy. I do however feel somethings need to be said for the greater good of man kind.
I'm not offended, but I don't think it was appropriate - if you understand the distinction? I also realise that your intentions were good :)

I also understand what you guys are saying about violence being allowed and sex not - but if someone posted a detailed description of how to kill someone, or a description of a dead body, that would be offensive.
 

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I agree with you 100% as you will note I have not taken part in most of the other discussions you are mentioning. I'm also a reserved kind of guy. I do however feel somethings need to be said for the greater good of man kind.

That was the reason for my thread.

I agree fully that the heading is intrusive and I appologise. As mentioned I don;t know what else to call it thus the heading. I have asked Bwana's master english knowledge to come up with a better heading. I hope he can.

I agree there is a huge influx of these threads but one needs to weigh up the relevance of these threads instead fo just putting down a ban across all of them. Our world is a messed up place because there is to much violence on TV and we're hiding sex away as a cardinal sin. We need to change this perception about sex being dirty and ugly. It needs to be discussed in the open but in a mature manner. And not be made out to be lusty and sleezy.

I tried that with the thread and I failed with some words but ther general feel of that thread is of clarity and understanding. It's not sleezy in the least.

And I do appologise if I offended you in any way.
And it can be discussed in that manner... elsewhere. If someone wanted to know how to do that they can just google it and come up with thousands of ways, pictures, video's etc etc.
 

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why can a person interested in the g-spot or anything sex related not go and find it themselves online somewhere.

i mean when i asked what a cricket score was i was told to go to the cricket website.

there are also social groups for the single people and maybe someone can open a moderated social group that handles sex questions or something.
 

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So cath dead bodies and how to kill someone is the same as talking about sex :)

Ok there we go, will wait for mods to have their say because that comment is just shocking.

Pooky 90% of the threads made on this forum could be solved by googling mate, yet they get posted instead of being google.

Plus googling is bad for the atmosphere bud, everytime you google your putting out more toxins than your car does in an hour. We are saving the planet by using myadsl :) and no pooky this is not a joke go google it.
 

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No, I'm not in the wrong place. No, I'm not a prude.

I think it's inappropriate for the forum. You're welcome to disagree, and the mods are welcome to evaluate the threads, decide I'm wrong, and leave them as they are.

But I'm free to say that while Pitbull's thread (as just one example) isn't porny or sexist, it is very explicit and just isn't appropriate.

And yes, I would just ignore the threads, but it's difficult when most of the threads on the first are sex-related, have sex-related topics, and I'm reading the forum at work. If we could "ignore" threads the way we could "ignore" users, there'd be less reason for complaint.
You saw the title of Pitbull's thread, yet you ventured in of your own volition, read the discussion and decided that it was offensive. What exactly did you expect to find?

Many people choose to steer clear of the PD section because it is a touchy subject for some. The same applies to the section in question. If it contains material that you do not like then just stick to the sections or particular threads that don't.

You seem to be trying to make a point, just as it was with your previous gripes about using the word "rape" out of context, an I understand fully that some people feel it is their right to be the moral compass in certain situations, but seeing as this forum is neither "real life" nor is it a kiddies playground (evident from the 18+ age restriction) your preaching is a bit misguided.

My advice to you is this: Offense is not given. Offense is taken.
 
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I'm not offended, but I don't think it was appropriate - if you understand the distinction? I also realise that your intentions were good :)

I also understand what you guys are saying about violence being allowed and sex not - but if someone posted a detailed description of how to kill someone, or a description of a dead body, that would be offensive.
But taking someone's life and giving a woman who has been sexually deprived for many years a very good evening tonight. That is 2 completely different things.

I'm sure that thread will make allot of unhappy females very happy tonight and might even save a marrage or 2 for all we know. It's good advice, not bad advice.

Ok let me test this theory. You go home and try that tonight. If it failed them I'm 100% for letting the thread go. I know for a fact it will make many people happy and that is why I shared it. If it fails ... delete it. You know as well as I do that it won't It is awesome advice and much needed I must add. 60-70% of woman do not get sattisfied because of their SO's lack of knowledge.

I do believe that thread did and will make a difference. We should have allot more happier people on here in the next week or so :D
 

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So cath dead bodies and how to kill someone is the same as talking about sex :)

Ok there we go, will wait for mods to have their say because that comment is just shocking.
No, of course not!

Let me try to put it simply. People said "why is violence allowed and not sex". I'm trying to say, if violence was described in the same amount of detail that sex is being described, it wouldn't be allowed either.

Is that clear enough for you?
 

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And it can be discussed in that manner... elsewhere. If someone wanted to know how to do that they can just google it and come up with thousands of ways, pictures, video's etc etc.
Yes, in a rude and discusting manner. That thread is clean, I know it's not your kind of thing so you will be complaining about it. Unfortunately that is life, one can not please all the people all the time.
 

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Cath, those threads you referred to really irritate me too, so I just steer clear.

I decided it won't help making an issue out of it, 'cos some of the guys on the Forum will try their best to irk you, just cos they know they can.

Just take those threads from whence they came ...
 

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Pit dude stop defending your thread man, its a good thread and maybe if everyone took bluno's attitude towards things they don't like, then very few people would get offended so often.

Threads irritate me to. When people create threads on a certain amount of post counts, its drives me nuts but do i go and make a whole huge thing about it? No i choose not click on the thread because i have a choice, nobody is forcing me to click on the thread.
 
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Either these threads have to go or MyADSL might get banned/blacklisted at a lot of employers..
 

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True,

However my integrity is in question now. And that is something different. I am not ashamed of sex, nor do I hate from it or try and make it out to be something it's not. I love it, the world loves it and it is misunderstood to a certain degree. You 2 ladies are free to judge me. Just remember I'm an open and honest person. I say things the way they are. I have never judged you on any of your threads.

I find this to be an attack on my integrity rather than the topic at hand. I have clearly indicated that I made a mistake with the thread heading. Sure it's prob not a word to be said in the open but as said there was no other word I know of for it. The thread is perfect. If you have a gripe with me take it out on me, not that thread as it's being targeted now for the wrong reasons. And have now been branded the black sheep thread. You have all labeled the posters in that thread and that is wrong. I will not stand for it. Those people are open loving people who want more out of life than missionary position. Pls don’t judge anyone of them I don't judge the posters in the PD section or any place in my life. I expect the same from everyone I meet and social with. That will then include the lot of you ;)
 

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I don't think I will ever understand why people complain so much...Anyway, that was sound and helpful advice for adults from Pitbull (G-SPOT thread). Sex is and always will be a touchy subject, but that is what makes a “anonymous” environment like this so great. People can express and ask things that they would never dare ask anyone in reality. So, maybe there should be a warning or something on a particular section, cautioning that it may contain naughty things that may offend the sensitive.

Just my 2c….
 

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You saw the title of Pitbull's thread, yet you ventured in of your own volition, read the discussion and decided that it was offensive. What exactly did you expect to find?
Exactly what was there. If you read my thread, I was half complaining about the titles - if you could "ignore" a thread, it wouldn't be as much of a problem because it's not so in your face, and it's not displayed on your monitor for all to see, even if you're not reading it.

Many people choose to steer clear of the PD section because it is a touchy subject for some. The same applies to the section in question. If it contains material that you do not like then just stick to the sections or particular threads that don't.
Generally this subforum is a great place to hang out - I'd like to at least attempt to preserve that (although if popular opinion is happy with it, then yes, I will be leaving).

You seem to be trying to make a point, just as it was with your previous gripes about using the word "rape" out of context, an I understand fully that some people feel it is their right to be the moral compass in certain situations, but seeing as this forum is neither "real life" nor is it a kiddies playground (evident from the 18+ age restriction) your preaching is a bit misguided.
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I'm not preaching, nor am I trying to make a point. It is something I feel strongly about, and, again, would rather try to solve the problem than just give up and leave.

But taking someone's life and giving a woman who has been sexually deprived for many years a very good evening tonight. That is 2 completely different things.
Of course - but I feel the degree of detail is still inappropriate. I do believe you posted with the best of intentions.

Either these threads have to go or MyADSL might get banned/blacklisted at a lot of employers..
Actually, that's a good point. Many employers have filtering based on keywords and the like.
 

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Either these threads have to go or MyADSL might get banned/blacklisted at a lot of employers..
And you figured that how ?

It would be blocked for you being here and not working, not for the threads on here. And you Venturing into the HWLR section is by your own choice. I don't go into the PD section because of it.
 

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Lol super i doubt companies actually approve of their staff spending alot of their time typing posts and not working.

I doubt in the monday meeting you will hear:

Ok so we have a problem guys, there has been alot of sex threads on that broadband site that our employees sit on all day long, i think it should be banned for the sexual content because our employees should not have to see that type of offensive rubbish during work hours.

I somehow doubt thats how it would go down :p.
 

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I just think relationships and sexual related issues are true issues of life! There are people that need advice and a lot of people can make use of advice given. I have surely picked up a few tips, and reading it here still allows some anonymity.

Steer clear and don't read or participate if you find it a problem, but I don't think it's necessary that they be deleted and makes for valid reading.
 

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Compliment to the mod who came up with that thread title. I would never have been able to get that right :)
 

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However my integrity is in question now. And that is something different. I am not ashamed of sex, nor do I hate from it or try and make it out to be something it's not. I love it, the world loves it and it is misunderstood to a certain degree. You 2 ladies are free to judge me. Just remember I'm an open and honest person. I say things the way they are. I have never judged you on any of your threads.

I find this to be an attack on my integrity rather than the topic at hand. I have clearly indicated that I made a mistake with the thread heading. Sure it's prob not a word to be said in the open but as said there was no other word I know of for it. The thread is perfect. If you have a gripe with me take it out on me, not that thread as it's being targeted now for the wrong reasons. And have now been branded the black sheep thread. You have all labeled the posters in that thread and that is wrong.
Pitbull, I am in no way attacking your integrity or your intentions, nor am I judging you. I have repeatedly said that you had good intentions. Nor have I labelled or judged any of the people in that thread, nor have I seen anyone do so. I don't have a gripe with you, although I do have one with the thread (exactly of the opposite of what you're saying, I know, but that's the way I see it). Your thread was only one of many, I'm sorry it's been picked on the most but it was the most explicit.
 

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Lol super i doubt companies actually approve of their staff spending alot of their time typing posts and not working.

I doubt in the monday meeting you will hear:

Ok so we have a problem guys, there has been alot of sex threads on that broadband site that our employees sit on all day long, i think it should be banned for the sexual content because our employees should not have to see that type of offensive rubbish during work hours.

I somehow doubt thats how it would go down :p.
No, but remember some of us do have spare time at work (for example, I'm currently working on optimising a sql query that takes >5 minutes to run - there's no problem if I post during those 5 minutes).

The reason the site might get blocked is because many companies use automatic filters (like SafeSurf, I think is one of them) which would pick up on keywords used on the site and block it.
 
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