She wont shut the hell up!!

Kimosabe

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Every day, my fiancee bitches and moans about crap all day. I can't take any more. Moan moan moan, the dishes aren't done, why don't you help more, why dont you think about me when you do something, You always loose things, the house is a mess, moan moan moan, my boss is a bitch (OH BUT LET ME MOAN ABOUT MY BOSS, I GET, ALl you do is moan about your boss, which ends up with her moaning about how I never listen to her and always make my problems hers.

How does one get the misses to shut the hell up? Really? I want to know, besides glueing her mouth shut? I help out, when she wants more help I help.
But then its something else. and then something else and something else.
I am loosing my mind!

If she keeps on like this she is going to be alone.
At least if I leave I get to keep everything, cos I bought it all.
I am really thinking about leaving her. To bad... really, if it wasn't for her mood swings and moaning things would be fine.
 

Kimosabe

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That could work, but I doubt her very large father and brothers would hear me out.
 

JHatman

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Every day, my fiancee bitches and moans about crap all day. I can't take any more. Moan moan moan, the dishes aren't done, why don't you help more, why dont you think about me when you do something, You always loose things, the house is a mess, moan moan moan, my boss is a bitch (OH BUT LET ME MOAN ABOUT MY BOSS, I GET, ALl you do is moan about your boss, which ends up with her moaning about how I never listen to her and always make my problems hers.

How does one get the misses to shut the hell up? Really? I want to know, besides glueing her mouth shut? I help out, when she wants more help I help.
But then its something else. and then something else and something else.
I am loosing my mind!

If she keeps on like this she is going to be alone.
At least if I leave I get to keep everything, cos I bought it all.
I am really thinking about leaving her. To bad... really, if it wasn't for her mood swings and moaning things would be fine.

Sounds like she's gagging for a ragging. Just ride her like a bull for a few nights and show her who's boss....that'll keep her happy.
 

medicnick83

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Try listening to the things she is moaning at you about and doing then... things might get better. ;)

Moaning is her way of trying to get some attention too.
 

Sabbz

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Try telling her enough is enough. Tell her how you feel and be honest.
If it's affecting your self-confidence tell her that her constant verbal abuse (which is what it is) is really putting you down and is effecting your relationship.

My lady and I talk about everything when anything is bothering us, and it really helps keep the tension out.

From what you have said, it sounds more like she is covering up her insecurities by taking it out on you and pointing out your flaws to make herself feel better.

Mood swings are a part of the package thing with women, you will always get them. But the moaning thing she can control.

What happens, happens and was meant to happen.

Good luck :)
 

The_Unbeliever

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Try listening to the things she is moaning at you about and doing then... things might get better. ;)

Moaning is her way of trying to get some attention too.

Good advice. Clean the dishes, do a bit of general housekeeping, and so on.

I do the dishes and help with housecleaning, nothing wrong with that.
 

Kimosabe

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I do listen, but its never enough. She wants me to change everything that is me in a heart beat.
Really, I help out. Then its i'm not helping out in the right way, or I am not doing it with out having her ask me to do it. I really dont notice somethings all the time.

Also I've know her for almost two years, and not once, never ever ever have i seen her just relax. I think she is unable to.
 

Mila

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:D lucifer call you to ask what you prefer for supper yet?

ROLF!!!!!!!!!!!!


Leave her dude, she is not happy you are not happy, sounds like a misrable mess.

But why do you not help her and if she then still complains tell her where to go....
 

.Froot.

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Every day, my fiancee bitches and moans about crap all day. I can't take any more. Moan moan moan, the dishes aren't done, why don't you help more, why dont you think about me when you do something, You always loose things, the house is a mess, moan moan moan, my boss is a bitch (OH BUT LET ME MOAN ABOUT MY BOSS, I GET, ALl you do is moan about your boss, which ends up with her moaning about how I never listen to her and always make my problems hers.

How does one get the misses to shut the hell up? Really? I want to know, besides glueing her mouth shut? I help out, when she wants more help I help.
But then its something else. and then something else and something else.
I am loosing my mind!

If she keeps on like this she is going to be alone.
At least if I leave I get to keep everything, cos I bought it all.
I am really thinking about leaving her. To bad... really, if it wasn't for her mood swings and moaning things would be fine.

You have three options here:
1) Leave her.
2) Tell her and try sort things out. --> Best solution.
3) Ignore it and possibly be unhappy for life.
 

Sabbz

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I do listen, but its never enough. She wants me to change everything that is me in a heart beat.
Really, I help out. Then its i'm not helping out in the right way, or I am not doing it with out having her ask me to do it. I really dont notice somethings all the time.

Also I've know her for almost two years, and not once, never ever ever have i seen her just relax. I think she is unable to.

If she keeps trying to change you, then you need to put your foot down and make it clear to her that you are who you are and she must stop trying to change you because it's pushing you away.

She must accept you for who you are, and deal or else fold and back out.

You also need to make a decision; do you want to continue with it and hope that it will change or do you want to rather call it quits?

You can try for a while longer to get her to change her attitude, but if it continues and she refuses to listen, well ..
 

Waaib

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You should both read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Fantastic book for exact your situation.
 

Mila

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Also I've know her for almost two years, and not once, never ever ever have i seen her just relax. I think she is unable to.

Prozac horse traquilizers a head doctor?...... i have been there, not nice for her too......

I live on remedy rescue now, cause i'm beter but still can not sleep.
 
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Picard

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You ungrateful bastard. There are countless men that would give much, to have to put up with that, to at least have a female companion.

Start giving her some attention which she deserves and appreciate what you got. :mad:
 

DeadCore

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get her a hobby to keep her busy, and (if you can afford it) a maid to clean the house


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yes get a maid then if things don't work out with ya wife u can sleep with the maid :D:D
 

Browser

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You ungrateful bastard. There are countless men that would give much, to have to put up with that, to at least have a female companion.

Start giving her some attention which she deserves and appreciate what you got. :mad:

lol I guess someone isn't getting any. Sure there are "countless men that would give much, to have to put up with that" until they get sick of it after a week/month.
 

psi_reaper

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I know I'm the noob on the forum, heehee, but I agree with Picard. If i can use myself as an example. Im not unattractive or poorly built at all... im the shy, sensitive, romantic, nice-guy type.

Girls my age (20) aren't looking for anything more than meaningless sex, booze, party and drugs... and thats definetely not what im looking for...

I might be a bit young, but i'd give anything to have my soulmate right now. I've been single for almost 2 years now looking for something you have and are very eager to get rid of.

Just think it through before you do something stupid mate. You might only realise how much you truly loved her after you've lost her.
 
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