I couldn't have said it better.Please don't develop any balls.
Humans are funny creatures. Often we make up our minds on what to do and ask others as a method of justification for our decisions. Quitting is the easy part, it's that period after that hurts like hell. The thing is, the longer you take to part ways, the more difficult it will become, and as the difficulty increases, your mind starts justifying staying with him by suppressing the reasons to leave. This is exactly the same psychological behaviour portrayed by battered women - and precisely why they find it so hard to leave.
Looking at your situation - apart from the financial losses you have incurred, you will find yourself in deeper trouble if his drinking continues. Put it this way, how often have you been in the car when his been DUI? Unfortunately men who get drunk often turn violent, and due to the length of time you've been with him, it will be that much easier to gloss over and ignore.
My advice (and I am loathe to advise people on an Internet forum) is to get out while you can. Minimise your losses and perhaps even sue him for 50% of the loss of the car. Try and be as objective as possible, so that you will realise that this boy is selfish and undeserving of your love. And be careful.
Jesus Christ, leave that a** hole and move on!! This actually make me angry tsk tskIm a 26 year old female, who has been with my fiance for nearly 6 years. On Jan 2, he wrote off our car (which was fully paid up) whilst driving under the influence, got arrested and charged and due to this my insurance will not pay out. No other cars were involved and nobody was hurt. We only have one car and this is a big blow, as I have no idea how to even move forward from hear.
We have been living together since we started the relationship and we bought a flat together 3 years ago. Our incomes and everything is joint so this becomes my financial loss too. three years ago he wote off our first car under the same instance (drinking under the influence), which to me should have been a lesson on its own. He only has a learners license and is to appear in court in April. Do I stick around and go into another joint venture t obtain another car and hope this will be the last of such an investment? Am I willing to fork out for the hefty fine he is sure to get in April? I have been wanting to emigrate for the past year but with the criminal record attached to his name it means he will practically never be able to do so.
I need urgent advice!