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Alton Turner Blackwood
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That's the problem right thereInteresting point, perhaps it is a culture thing. Although in my varsity days braais were always bring your own everything.
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So you are invited to dinner or a braai but...
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I think its a Cape Town thing as well (regardless of race). Where I'm from (PE) you get invited to a braai, all you need to take is some liquor and a sleeping bag
Do you have milk and cookies at your braais? With all due respect, if you were to invite me to a braai with that sort of mentality, I'll conjour up an excuse not to go.
Drink whatever we want and if you want to get pissed, so be it.
We tend to have braais to socialise though, not as an excuse to get lubricated.
Rarely some dronkie stealing other peoples meat though
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What's with the hate against bring and braais? Not everyone has the cash, or perfect rotation of braais amongst friends to sponsor a R500-1000 get together. Bring and braai solves this nicely. My mate used to have the perfect setup with undercover braai, pool etc so 99% of braais were there. Cant go and expect him to buy food for 10+ people everytime.
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yep, also some people live in a flat, they end up not getting invited as they never host.
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Fair enough, my question was genuine though (sort of); you're a teetotaler (you mentioned that before) on principle, do you allow your guests to consume alcohol when you host?Drink whatever we want and if you want to get pissed, so be it.
We tend to have braais to socialise though, not as an excuse to get lubricated.
Rarely some dronkie stealing other peoples meat though
I know that being 100% sober and trying to enjoy yourself with folks who had a few can be quite irritating.
Just a question out of curiousity
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Fair enough, my question was genuine though (sort of); you're a teetotaler (you mentioned that before) on principle, do you allow your guests to consume alcohol when you host?
I know that being 100% sober and trying to enjoy yourself with folks who had a few can be quite irritating.
Just a question out of curiousity
Don't mind in the least
I am not going to restrict others because I don't want to but some of these replies sound as if people are going to fraternity parties to braai.
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Yep, this. Braais with friends are almost always at the same 3 houses, would be unreasonable to expect those 3 to sponsor 20 people, good meat is expensive!
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That idiot gets shutdown quickly. He can 'braai' when he hosts. But will most likely be drunk again and another dude has to braai.
When I have a braai I generally cater for everything and just expect guests to bring their own booze. With regards to Indian spicing I tend to just buy plain packs of meat from the local butcher and ask my neighbour to do most of the braaiing., while I sort out the Indian snacks. Chevro, samosas, dokra, patra, tepla... My Afrikaner chommies love that stuff.
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You make a good American. IE: BBQ.
With my good friends the host supplies everything. Meat, beer, wine, Chivas and Southern Comfort being the norm.
If a large crowd then we do bring and braai and everyone chips in something in addition to their own meat/drinks. Never had issues of stuff going "missing" and we normally put all drinks in the same fridge and cooked meat in same container. Suppose it just depends on who you hang out with.
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I don't know when last I went to a braai where the host catered for everyone, it's always byo.
I almost always have a prime cut of rump or, my new favorite, rib-eye. Nobody touches my meat unless I trust them with it, the same way I'd trust them alone with my mrs. and then it always goes straight on to my plate. Most of my close friends are the same, and I'll happily braai others meat and make sure it ends up on their plate.
I almost always have a prime cut of rump or, my new favorite, rib-eye. Nobody touches my meat unless I trust them with it, the same way I'd trust them alone with my mrs. and then it always goes straight on to my plate. Most of my close friends are the same, and I'll happily braai others meat and make sure it ends up on their plate.
One of my regular braai attendees always brings his own stuff regardless of whether I am catering or not. Everything from his chops, spices to the lemons for his drinks. I think it's more out of a need to not feel obligated to anybody rather than wanting to reduce my burden.
That said, I do sometimes feel a bit resentful of the amount of times that I have catered when I think of the amount of times that people have done the same in return.
That said, I do sometimes feel a bit resentful of the amount of times that I have catered when I think of the amount of times that people have done the same in return.
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i always take marinated chicken kebabs to braais. nobody seems to steal those. the drinks i take along are for everyone to share. i also usually to a garlic bread or other nice bread to be heated on the fire, everyone to share.
it's always nice if the host (or someone else, for that matter) has a communal worse or treat on the braai early that people can snack on while the main braaiing is going on.
i understand that some people come from a "share everything" culture, and if i'm braaing with them, i just make it very clear that my kebabs are for ME. that always works for me.
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when invited over for dinner, i politefully point out that my wife is allergic to mushrooms and that she doesn't handle overly spicy food too well; i ask for no butternut and no olives. if the food is not that great, i will eat one helping because it was prepared with love for me. if it's a close friend and it sucks, i'll offer them a cooking lesson
i also take drinks to share.
it's always nice if the host (or someone else, for that matter) has a communal worse or treat on the braai early that people can snack on while the main braaiing is going on.
i understand that some people come from a "share everything" culture, and if i'm braaing with them, i just make it very clear that my kebabs are for ME. that always works for me.
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when invited over for dinner, i politefully point out that my wife is allergic to mushrooms and that she doesn't handle overly spicy food too well; i ask for no butternut and no olives. if the food is not that great, i will eat one helping because it was prepared with love for me. if it's a close friend and it sucks, i'll offer them a cooking lesson
i also take drinks to share.
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That reminds me when I was invited to a braai at an old friend who is also a veggie.
We stood around the fire as he kept adding wood.
Quite a lot later I asked when folks were braaing because my son was getting hungry.
He looks at me and says no-one is braaing as they're all veggie.
My friend with his 700g rump steak looked rather surprised.
LOL.. Did they specifically say that your were invited for a 'braai' though?
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