Stay At Home Mums

[Mista_Mobsta]

My wife had to stay at home and look after our little one due to the fact that the little one had lots of health issues when she was younger and then COVID hit. We were looking at a full-time nanny just before COVID struck us but then the risk factor to the grandparents would be too high so we had to toss that idea. She definitely doesn't enjoy it at all but we have cut costs where we can as she isn't bringing in an income since she stopped working. Some mums are made to do the "stay-at-home" mum thing but others are forced into it due to various circumstances. I do take my hat off to those mums that are the stay-at-home kind as it sure as hell isn't easy!

 

[Tomtomtom]

This goes way beyond just minding a child, the priority of the parents is the maximize the amount of direct attention the child gets in their informative years.

In the past and probably current with most housewives in SA a Housewives priorities are as follows cook, clean and make sure the child doesn't get in trouble or hurt themselves as far as time allocation.

With the help of modern technology and appliances parents are able to maximize the amount of attention they give their infant.

If I had to put in SA terms the mothers who are opting for this strategy, their role less like a domestic/child minder or more like an one on one early day care teacher who does some cooking and cleaning (mind you the fathers don't shirk on the housework and child rearing duties)

The time spent with the child seems highly focused on skilling up the child

Children could do with less direct, undivided attention frankly. It's created a generation of narcissistic snowflakes already. It's even worse when there's resentment and contempt which develops both ways (moms who actually don't want to be stuck at home, and kids who have outgrown their "early day care teacher").

A child needs in his formative years a combination of a group of peers and a range of adults, some of whom may be "role-models" and others who may be "anti-role-models", and either group may (or may not!) include one or both parents. It's not so complicated.

Also I'm not so sold on the idea that children < 3 years benefit from intensive "skilling up". I think it's largely correlation that's been misinterpreted as causal.

 

[Polymathic]

Children could do with less direct, undivided attention frankly. It's created a generation of narcissistic snowflakes already. It's even worse when there's resentment and contempt which develops both ways (moms who actually don't want to be stuck at home, and kids who have outgrown their "early day care teacher").

A child needs in his formative years a combination of a group of peers and a range of adults, some of whom may be "role-models" and others who may be "anti-role-models", and either group may (or may not!) include one or both parents. It's not so complicated.

Also I'm not so sold on the idea that children < 3 years benefit from intensive "skilling up". I think it's largely correlation that's been misinterpreted as causal.

Vast majority of people my generation (Millenial) and younger grew up with both parents working and according to the older people we are the snowflake generations. If anything our generations got the least amount of time with parents than previous generations. So first correlation is pretty much false.

A childs needs and infants needs are not the same.

As for your last point, I find it funny how fast you are dismissing something before you even know much facts about it. It's quite laughable actually