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Oh stop being such a cloud of despair. He is entitled to look for ideas wherever he wishes and in this regard your opinions will count for **** on his list, troll.
In terms of the idea to have dinner and then go for a walk on the beach, that would actually be pretty awesome if you could find a decent quiet spot on the beach that's reasonably well lit (you cant give her a ring in pitch dark), and that would classify as quite romantic in her books I'd bet.
If the girl loves you, its not going to be difficult for her to associate almost any thoughtful idea from you as romantic and meaningful to her. So dont over think it too much dude, and good luck
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this is funny even though coming from you
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Oh the romance!
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OUR Spar...
Do you want to be in a "public" setting or rather alone? While the restaurant idea is great, she'll have to constrain herself if she wants to cry etc etc. It cannot be as intimate as when it's just the two of you...
I asked my wife when it was just the two of us and that worked perfect for us. Do it in a location your gf will feel comfortable..
You guys don't stay together and aren't going away, so this one may be tough, but here's an idea (Not how I did it, just an idea):
Spend the day at spa with her and tell her how you love her etc etc. Chat about how you met and throughout the day, without making it glaringly obvious, remind her of some of the great times you've shared.
Then after you've had this fun-filled trip and you're heading home, wait for her to get into the shower or something that will take up some time. (If you think she'd like to look good on her engagement-moment pictures then do it after a dinner or something)
1 - Put a small gift (teddybear or something) outside the door with the oldest picture you can find of you two. Put the picture facing downwards and write something on the back of it about where and how you met, also give a clue as to where to find the next picture, or just create a trail with rose-petals leading her to the next picture.
2 - Get a picture where the two of you look in love (kissing, holding hands, hugging, anything). On the back, explain to her what you felt when you fell in love with her for the first time, describe something like the way her hair smelled or how your stomach had butterflies for a week. Again give a clue to the next picture's location or make a petal-trail
3 - Get a picture of something that reminds her of a tough time you've been through together, explain how you won't let anything come between you. If the tough thing you've been through will spoil the mood, take a picture of your dirty socks lying on the ground and write something about her being the reason you want to become a better person and how you're trying not to let it lie around any more or something. Again on to the next picture/clue
4 - Anniversary picture + memory or something
Continue this walk down memory lane, you can have anything you like in there, you can possibly put something like a picture of two really old people holding hands or something and on the back write down how long you've know each other (use roughly the time you'll ask her to marry you) and write it out in different ways..
5 - End with the last picture right in front of a closed door, on the back of the picture tell her to knock three times, wait 10 seconds and then enter.
By now you have her thinking about all the great times with you, you told her how you won't let things come between you, etc. The great thing about this, is that once she enters the door, you only have to say one sentence. (I feel the proposals where the guy says all the stuff that's supposed to be on the pictures aren't as powerful as just asking her to be your wife when she sees you..)
You wait in there, you can softly play her favorite song in the background once she knocks, you can change into a suit, you can fill the room with 200 candles, anything you like, but when she opens that door, make sure you're on the other side on one knee.
Simply say: "I love you, will you be my wife" or something short and powerful like that, she'll remember the one sentence forever..
Nothing really matters after this, but you can have a dinner ready by candlelight if you think you'll have an appetite or champagne or whatever - personalize it.
She ends up with:
* An intimate moment
* A gift to remember the moment by (As if the ring isn't enough..? )
* The actual pictures to keep in an album or something
* Only one sentence to remember when she thinks back at the moment, even though you've said so much more on the pictures too
I'd also have a camera ready and set up with a timer so you can take pictures. If you really feel like it, you can even record a video of the whole thing.
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Point being: Make it personal, customize it to your relationship and focus on your love you share.
I asked my wife when it was just the two of us and that worked perfect for us. Do it in a location your gf will feel comfortable..
You guys don't stay together and aren't going away, so this one may be tough, but here's an idea (Not how I did it, just an idea):
Spend the day at spa with her and tell her how you love her etc etc. Chat about how you met and throughout the day, without making it glaringly obvious, remind her of some of the great times you've shared.
Then after you've had this fun-filled trip and you're heading home, wait for her to get into the shower or something that will take up some time. (If you think she'd like to look good on her engagement-moment pictures then do it after a dinner or something)
1 - Put a small gift (teddybear or something) outside the door with the oldest picture you can find of you two. Put the picture facing downwards and write something on the back of it about where and how you met, also give a clue as to where to find the next picture, or just create a trail with rose-petals leading her to the next picture.
2 - Get a picture where the two of you look in love (kissing, holding hands, hugging, anything). On the back, explain to her what you felt when you fell in love with her for the first time, describe something like the way her hair smelled or how your stomach had butterflies for a week. Again give a clue to the next picture's location or make a petal-trail
3 - Get a picture of something that reminds her of a tough time you've been through together, explain how you won't let anything come between you. If the tough thing you've been through will spoil the mood, take a picture of your dirty socks lying on the ground and write something about her being the reason you want to become a better person and how you're trying not to let it lie around any more or something. Again on to the next picture/clue
4 - Anniversary picture + memory or something
Continue this walk down memory lane, you can have anything you like in there, you can possibly put something like a picture of two really old people holding hands or something and on the back write down how long you've know each other (use roughly the time you'll ask her to marry you) and write it out in different ways..
5 - End with the last picture right in front of a closed door, on the back of the picture tell her to knock three times, wait 10 seconds and then enter.
By now you have her thinking about all the great times with you, you told her how you won't let things come between you, etc. The great thing about this, is that once she enters the door, you only have to say one sentence. (I feel the proposals where the guy says all the stuff that's supposed to be on the pictures aren't as powerful as just asking her to be your wife when she sees you..)
You wait in there, you can softly play her favorite song in the background once she knocks, you can change into a suit, you can fill the room with 200 candles, anything you like, but when she opens that door, make sure you're on the other side on one knee.
Simply say: "I love you, will you be my wife" or something short and powerful like that, she'll remember the one sentence forever..
Nothing really matters after this, but you can have a dinner ready by candlelight if you think you'll have an appetite or champagne or whatever - personalize it.
She ends up with:
* An intimate moment
* A gift to remember the moment by (As if the ring isn't enough..?
)* The actual pictures to keep in an album or something
* Only one sentence to remember when she thinks back at the moment, even though you've said so much more on the pictures too
I'd also have a camera ready and set up with a timer so you can take pictures. If you really feel like it, you can even record a video of the whole thing.
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Point being: Make it personal, customize it to your relationship and focus on your love you share.
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azbob
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Don't do anything too spectacular. You're planning on spending the the rest of your life with this women. Lets say you both live to 75. That is 50 birthdays, 50 Xmas, 50 anniversaries, 50 valintines days left.
With woman expectations don't go down. Set the bar low, leave yourself some room for improvement, otherwise in 5 years time you'll be hearing: "Remember when you proposed, that was so romantic, what happend to you?"
With woman expectations don't go down. Set the bar low, leave yourself some room for improvement, otherwise in 5 years time you'll be hearing: "Remember when you proposed, that was so romantic, what happend to you?"
If you looking for a day time proposal, there is a nice spot on the way to Ballito called Beach Bums. Take her there for lunch, and then suggest a walk on the beach. There are some nice dunes and reasonably secluded beaches up there. Whilst on the walk, stop, drop and pop.
If you got some good mates, you could even get them to secretly set up and watch a table and chairs somewhere on the beach down from Bums, complete with flowers and some champagne. When she sees it, seize the moment. If all goes to plan, you'll be celebrating with the champagne. Your mates can hang back until after the event. Maybe even get some family etc involved. Then they can join the celebration. It adds to her excitement if she finds out everyone knew it was going to happen.
The fact that Dad says yes is very positive. Dad can be a good indicator of her answer.
If you got some good mates, you could even get them to secretly set up and watch a table and chairs somewhere on the beach down from Bums, complete with flowers and some champagne. When she sees it, seize the moment. If all goes to plan, you'll be celebrating with the champagne. Your mates can hang back until after the event. Maybe even get some family etc involved. Then they can join the celebration. It adds to her excitement if she finds out everyone knew it was going to happen.
The fact that Dad says yes is very positive. Dad can be a good indicator of her answer.
Just ask her, Make sure that you are both alone. I find the extra pressure of people around makes the moment dishonest. She might say yes out of dishonesty. No matter what though, just make it about you and her. Tell her you love her, and pop the question.
Surely we can do away with the archaic practice of marriage then too?
In all seriousness though. I think both acts have changed a bit. I asked my wife's parents, not because I was asking for permission per se. I would have asked her even if they had not agreed. It is more about a sign of respect that they raised this wonderful person that you want to now spend the rest of your life with.
Also if they are the type of family that will spend money on the wedding, it is nice to get a little buy in and not put them on the back foot from the get go. If you are paying for the whole thing yourselves without any form of contribution from anyone's family, well then I agree that this practice can be ignored.
Amen to that!