Thinking I should start looking into dating a white woman...

[Sly21C]

As many of you may or may not know, I'm black. I speak Zulu but I'm Swati by culture. All my life I've been dating black girls, it didn't matter if they were Zulu, Xhosa, Tswana, etc. If I dated a girl that spoke a native language I wasn't good at, like Pedi or Venda, we would communicate in English. I've never dated anyone outside my race. I now think it might be time to explore women from other races, whether they are Indian, Asian, Coloured or White.

I love my fellow black girls, but there are things they, generally speaking, do that turns me off completely. Allow me to generalize a bit about black women . Below are some of the reason I'm considering dating non-black girls:
- Blacks women love wearing weaves. Most wear hair that originates from girls in India or Brazil. The hair might make them look more attractive but it's not natural, it's fake.
- Another reason I despise weaves is it makes black girls wash their hair once a week and sometimes once a month. I can't help but think of all the germs on their head. Some black girls go to the gym regularly, they work out a sweat, go take a shower and don't wash their hair. So there's sweat on their head for days or weeks up until they wash at the salon. I've been with a few women with weaves and the thought of bacteria or germs on their head disgusts me. Sorry to say this!
- I'm generalizing but black girls tend to be promiscuous, just like their male counterparts. Except me of course .
- The thought of one day paying lobola, I don't believe in lobola but no black girl will marry someone that won't pay to marry her.
- They are God fearing and are Christians. I'm Agnostic. They believe prayer will solve problems and also blame the devil if "evil" things start happening.

There are other less significant reasons white black women are not my favorite anymore. There are two reasons why I might not date white women. Firstly it's because they, generally speaking, love traveling and going on holiday to overseas countries. Some spend up to R50 000 just for a holiday around Europe. The second reason is obviously family and friends. Unfortunately we are still a racially divided country and a black person dating a white person is still taboo.

So what are your thoughts guys?

EDIT: Black women tend to have children at a young age, and you find a situation where all black women my age have a child or two. This is different to white women.......I think.

 

[Pooky]

My thoughts are that this thread is so stereotyping of people and doesn't warrant further thought.

 

[copacetic]

I think your generalizations and fear of head germs are fairly humorous.

 

[Trianglex]

***** is ***** black ***** white ***** pink *****...same thing the taste doesn't change.

 

[copacetic]

***** is ***** black ***** white ***** pink *****...same thing the taste doesn't change.

Eloquent. :erm:

 

[HavocXphere]

I think your generalizations and fear of head germs are fairly humorous.

nah I agree with him. This is fckin Africa & it gets hot...washing everything isn't optional. Also, the medieval age is over - soap and water is no longer a luxury.

 

[Pho3nix]

Agree on the weave point as I prefer girls with natural hair but on the other point not so much.
Do you homie, aslong as your happy but remember each race has it's quirks

 

[RazedInBlack]

black person dating a white person is still taboo.

I've seen plenty of black dudes with white chicks. Here in Cape Town we're a bit more broad-minded and open.

 

[Pho3nix]

***** is ***** black ***** white ***** pink *****...same thing the taste doesn't change.

What are you trying to say??

 

[RazedInBlack]

What are you trying to say??

A woman is a woman no matter what colour she is. They all multi-task-able!

 

[azbob]

I've seen plenty of black dudes with white chicks. Here in Cape Town we're a bit more broad-minded and open.

There aren't many black girls here. Remember the thread about the guy looking to find some in CT?

 

[visrot]

family interference
family clashes
disowning by family
huge cultural differences
pressure from society
feeling uncomfortable in public (staring eyes)
you say Generations, she says 7de Laan
you say Chiefs & Ajax, she says Bulls & Sharks
you say pap and sauce, she says tjop and salad
you tune to Good Hope FM, she tunes to 5FM

 

[Pho3nix]

EDIT: Black women tend to have children at a young age, and you find a situation where all black women my age have a child or two. This is different to white women.......I think.

Now you are just sterotyping..Don't know which girls you know but white,black,indian and even chinese girls that I know have kids at 21,22. It's not a black thing :erm:

 

[RazedInBlack]

There aren't many black girls here. Remember the thread about the guy looking to find some in CT?

Hahaaa! As I recall, he wanted them young and fresh.

 

[Pho3nix]

A woman is a woman no matter what colour she is. They all multi-task-able!

Dankie maneer

 

[DerpiesFreud]

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I dated a white woman,

family interference Ocassionally
family clashes elaborate pls
disowning by family Nope
huge cultural differences I agree with this
pressure from society
feeling uncomfortable in public (staring eyes) Didn`t feel no pressure,we were happy
you say Generations, she says 7de Laan niether of us watched soaps
you say Chiefs & Ajax, she says Bulls & Sharks neither of us watched sport
you say pap and sauce, she says tjop and salad we said indian food
you tune to Good Hope FM, she tunes to 5FM neither of us listened to the radio

whereas your post is generalizing and not incorrect,there are always exceptions to the rule!
And tjops,bulls,7de Laan seems to be more of an afrikaans thing,rather then a 'white' thing
To me,our respective races weren`t even on the table when we discussed stuff
OP if you`re serious about a girl,her race shouldn`t matter(sure there`ll be some conflict,but that can be resolved usually)

 

[visrot]

whereas your post is generalizing and not incorrect,there are always exceptions to the rule!
And tjops,bulls,7de Laan seems to be more of an afrikaans thing,rather then a 'white' thing
To me,our respective races weren`t even on the table when we discussed stuff
OP if you`re serious about a girl,her race shouldn`t matter(sure there`ll be some conflict,but that can be resolved usually)

Right on, there's always exceptions to the rule. People aren't all the same within the same culture either.

 

[Sly21C]

nah I agree with him. This is fckin Africa & it gets hot...washing everything isn't optional. Also, the medieval age is over - soap and water is no longer a luxury.

Exactly! Some want a man who is well groomed and has good personal hygiene, and yet they don't wash their head for days.

Now you are just sterotyping..Don't know which girls you know but white,black,indian and even chinese girls that I know have kids at 21,22. It's not a black thing :erm:

From what I've seen whites, coloureds, etc that have kids at that age are either married or are still with the father of their child. Blacks on the other hand are single. I've also seen a whole lot of single white women that are 30 years old, for example, but have no kids yet, but with 30 year old single black women, most will have a child or two.

 

[KalMaverick]

Allow me to generalise too.

- Blacks women love wearing weaves. Most wear hair that originates from girls in India or Brazil. The hair might make them look more attractive but it's not natural, it's fake.

White girls love to dye their hair and some like to only wash their hair once a week, some love the orange tan lotion. It's also fake and unnatural.

- I'm generalizing but black girls tend to be promiscuous, just like their male counterparts. Except me of course .

In what way? Not sure how this would be any different for white woman to be honest.

- The thought of one day paying lobola, I don't believe in lobola but no black girl will marry someone that won't pay to marry her.

Guess that is different.

- They are God fearing and are Christians. I'm Agnostic. They believe prayer will solve problems and also blame the devil if "evil" things start happening.

And white girls aren't? Again, don't see how this will be any different.

There are two reasons why I might not date white women. Firstly it's because they, generally speaking, love traveling and going on holiday to overseas countries. Some spend up to R50 000 just for a holiday around Europe.

Nonsense, this will be true for both cases.

The second reason is obviously family and friends. Unfortunately we are still a racially divided country and a black person dating a white person is still taboo.

It is? If you keep company of those that would have a problem with interracial relations then you need to figure out who your friends are. Dealing with family requires a little more tact but if you're having relationships based on what your/their family might think then that's silly.

So what are your thoughts guys?

You're silly. You'll still be dating a female, they're all full of crap.

EDIT: Black women tend to have children at a young age, and you find a situation where all black women my age have a child or two. This is different to white women.......I think.

Not really no.

I've also seen a whole lot of single white women that are 30 years old, for example, but have no kids yet, but with 30 year old single black women, most will have a child or two.

And I've seen plenty of white girls pregnant before they even finish high school. As I said, not really all that different.

EDIT: In conclusion if you think dating any woman of another race will solve your problems, you're going to realise all of them are 90% similar to black woman, just a lighter complexion.

 

[RazedInBlack]

From what I've seen whites, coloureds, etc that have kids at that age are either married or are still with the father of their child.

Nope. There are plenty of coloured females that are single parents, never married or divorced. Its applies across all races.