Tips For New Parents To Be ? ......... Post Your Experiences

[RiaX]

Nice post... Mybe is due in 3 months and want to give him/her the best

You welcome. start now, babies can hear their mothers in the womb they arent comatosed. So talking to the child through mummy's belly does stimulate the child's auditory sense. Also if you not the mummy remember to take good care of her, her hormone levels will influence the development.

For example if mum has high testosterone then a baby girl is more likely to be tom boyish and high oestrogen and baby girl will be very girly.

Best of luck

Edit:

lol changed olfactory to auditory got confused doing a presentation on intranasal drugs tomorrow

 

[Anony-mousse]

My best tip:

Use better protection next time

hahaha

 

[JAM007]

Breast Feed, vacinate and dont leave baby unattended, talk to baby and stimulate baby's intellect (the use of senses are important as the brain is still in development) by like reading to baby and allowing the baby to explore. Do not keep the baby over clean like an OCD parent germs and dirt help build the immune system. A study shows that children with pets are a stronger immune system however be sensible about it. If the pet has parasites sort it out. (an article source: http://articles.chicagotribune.com/...0120808_1_dog-ownership-ear-infections-babies . however there are numerous studies on this). Falling and putting everything in their mouths are a babies way of sensing the world and understanding and learning, if its not hazardous do not stop this process.

Do not give any medication to a baby without consulting a medical practioner/pharmacist because medicines have bad effects later in a child and they require special medications. DO NOT MISE ON this, it will cost you more later fixing the damage when you try to be a smartass even if you think its a simple thing, you dont want to stop the development of your child's bowels by giving the baby lomitil/immodium for example. If its given by a specialist paed (and no one else should have a say on this not GP not pharmacist) then only, this effect is irreversable so always consult i cannot stress this point enough.

finally dont drop the baby on the head. There you should be fine
when they todlers: let them play and get exercise, CONTROL their diet so you dont get this:

http://img43.imageshack.us/img43/3337/fatkidk.jpg

dont rush to ritalin if the child has more energy than you can handle being a parent is hard work so work. (see klaping point below)

finally remember, children arent born with knowledge they learn from trial and error in early stages and the example you set.

Good action = reward
bad action = punishment. A proper klap, not the "ima ground you bull" because eventually the kid will challlenge for authourity and this wont work. You will end up with a kid thats suffering from pseudomental illness or being emo or whatever because you were too afraid to parent properly. Nobody likes to smack kids (well normal people) but its necessary - obviously do not publicily humiliate a child but a private klout will go further than any words possible. Human beings arent born they are taught by parents, its a simple trait of mammals. As much as we like to think we arent animals the hard truth is we are and follow natures laws.

There you cant go wrong now.

EDIT:

Keep diet as natural as possible. Learn to make your own baby food from scratch if possible. The quality of food you provide the child is very important to how the GIT will develop and function and also ensure decent development all around. Nobody likes a GIT in bad shape, ask anyone with IBS

All of this starts IN the WOMB. If mummy has poor diet then baby's health will be poor. You can have the best genetics in the world but if mummy didnt provide the building blocks you cant build jack. DNA is a blueprint - you still need materials

Good points and they are noted. tnx

 

[Quintrix]

If the baby suddenly starts screaming blue murder in the middle of the night - remember to check/touch the ears. It may be ear ache and a piece of cotton wool and some sweet oil will do wonders.

Safe this tip - you may need it when you least expect and at your wits end.

 

[quiksilver]

Don't let them get used to sleeping in bed with mommy and daddy.

 

[JAM007]

i have a question.

Whats the difference between a COT and a Camp-cot ?

 

[Crowley]

A camping cot folds down to a very small size and is perfect for travel. I used a camping cot for my son most of the time since the top of the cot was the same height as my mattress so I could just lean over and keep an eye on him during the night.

I did buy a child mattress and a piece of chipboard that was the exact size of the camping cot as well to make it more comfortable for him.

 

[noxibox]

Before you decide how to discipline your child you need to learn their personality and how they respond to things, and under no circumstances should a child under 2 be hit. Also remember you should never hit the child while you are angry, which can be a problem when dealing with a toddler because they have to be punished immediately otherwise they can't connect the deed to the punishment. It's also important to understand that tantrums can be triggered by things like tiredness, hunger, being forced to stay still for extended periods, being bored, all of which are really the parents' fault. It's helps having an understanding of their little world, their psychology. Further if you're going to hit your child decide beforehand how hard and how much you're willing to escalate before giving up. It simply makes some children more defiant. If beatings are the go-to punishment you're going to have huge problems with a child like that. Even a typically compliant child can respond by becoming more defiant while in the throes of a tantrum. Many other children will comply immediately to avoid being hit further, but they're not learning to behave only to be careful in front of the person that beats them and ultimately the importance of not getting caught. Sensitive children can be made afraid to explore and test their world for fear of reprisals. So don't count on this method being truly effective no matter what some advocates might tell you.

A proper klap, not the "ima ground you bull" because eventually the kid will challlenge for authourity and this wont work. You will end up with a kid thats suffering from pseudomental illness or being emo or whatever because you were too afraid to parent properly. Nobody likes to smack kids (well normal people) but its necessary - obviously do not publicily humiliate a child but a private klout will go further than any words possible.

Pure unadulterated rubbish. Punishment does not equal beating a child. Parenting does not equal beating a child. Discipline does not equal beating a child. There is further no way you or anyone can make firm predictions about the exact outcome of hitting or not hitting a particular child, never mind all children.

 

[noxibox]

Whats the difference between a COT and a Camp-cot ?

The latter is usually much cheaper and works just as well. Plus you can just pack it up and take it with you when you travel.

Don't let them get used to sleeping in bed with mommy and daddy.

You won't know whether they will or will not be difficult to wean off this, just like dummies and bottles. Just like some children sleep easily and others resist it, some wake up every morning at 5 a.m. no matter what, while others sleep in from an early age.

 

[akescpt]

Apart from what the other posters said:

You will be tired ALL of the time. I mean ALL of the time.
Despite your lofty ideals of how to raise them, when they reach the approximate age of 2, you will start resorting to blackmailing them in order to do things they do not want to

how do i overcome this? struggling with that. wife wanted me to go to the doctor!!

 

[cerebus]

Here's a tip: Don't ask other parents for tips. You just get 10,000 different opinions and end up more confused than before. You need to chart your own course on this one, and you'll never know what it is until you get in there. Don't beat the child, don't starve it, don't let it go unclothed or unloved or untaught. You should figure it out.

You will be tired ALL of the time. I mean ALL of the time.
Despite your lofty ideals of how to raise them, when they reach the approximate age of 2, you will start resorting to blackmailing them in order to do things they do not want to

I can't say that really happened with us. I'd be hesitant to predict it for others.

 

[quiksilver]

I always thought the phrase "terrible twos" was just a phrase. It's not.

Try and have your second child, before the first one reaches this age. Otherwise you won't want another.

 

[blunomore]

I can't say that really happened with us. I'd be hesitant to predict it for others.

Um .... cerebus .... that was said tongue in cheek.

 

[cerebus]

Um .... cerebus .... that was said tongue in cheek.

Oh... soz.

 

[thestaggy]

Don't be afraid to buy other nappies, you don't have to stick to pampers, cuddles, huggies. You are going to use a lot of them, and a lot of people will swear blue murder that this brand is gods gift to your baby's bum. But at the end of the day get the best for your wallet and the baby's bum.

My folks used towel nappies on us. I still remember the smell of Steri Nappi. They saved a ton of money that way.

 

[Crowley]

My folks used towel nappies on us. I still remember the smell of Steri Nappi. They saved a ton of money that way.

Disposable nappies might be a bit more expensive but I think they are worth it. The joy of not having to wash ****ty nappies is worth the price.

 

[Cube3]

Man .... nappies.... that is my only fear.... I got a little one due on around the 1st week of August. Some good tips here.

Also thought about Steri Nappi's... but not sure. I can handle everything gory and gross, but not poop. The other morning the one dog ate poop... came inside to the bedroom and vomited it back up on the carpet.. the smell was out of this world. I think I will need a hazmat suit for changing baby.

We only going to have one though, then tubes tied. Can't afford more.

 

[RiaX]

Pure unadulterated rubbish. Punishment does not equal beating a child. Parenting does not equal beating a child.

lol why does everyone on the forum take things to an extreme ? obviously dont beat the child black and blue. A parent must use their own discression.

 

[thestaggy]

Disposable nappies might be a bit more expensive but I think they are worth it. The joy of not having to wash ****ty nappies is worth the price.

Just throwing it out there. All of my friends & cousins that now have kids bitch about the cost of nappies and my folks said it is waaaay cheaper to go the towel route. Obviously harder work, but cheaper.

 

[Crowley]

Just throwing it out there. All of my friends & cousins that now have kids bitch about the cost of nappies and my folks said it is waaaay cheaper to go the towel route. Obviously harder work, but cheaper.

That is true but like I said, the saving is not worth the pain.

My son used Cuddlers so he was a bit cheaper than the northern suburb kids who only used Huggies.