what exactly constitutes cheating?

winner said:
I don't know if there is something wrong with my line of thought. The dance was more like grinding. And the 5 months is because I've been trying to get over it
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And you don't seem to be getting over it if this thread is any indication. Stop trying to convince yourself she was cheating and work on your own issues.
 
Sorry but there is no hard and fast rule for what is defined as "cheating". In some relationships, guys like it when their girls flirt - as long as that's all they do - it's an ego boost for them. It is basically saying - hey look at my girl - she's sexy and confident but comes home with me. Some couples are even polyamorous where a 3rd party is actively invited sexually into the relationship.

However, in some relationships, a girl just dancing provocatively with another guy feels like cheating. Some guys don't even like it when their girl dresses sexy - it upsets them.

Point is that you need to communicate this with your partner. If they are more liberal in their behaviour, and you are more conservative, this is going to be a relationship breaker. You probably need to find a partner that is more in tune with how you define what is acceptable behaviour in the relationship.
 
Depends on the type of dancing. If it had a sexual nature to it, then sure, be concerns and that could constitute as cheating. If, however it was two people just having a good time and dancing... then get over yourself.
 
I think I have the solution...

All OP has to do is talk to her and tell her that he does not like this kind of behaviour. He does not have to seem controlling but just telling her how he feels will shed dome light on it. if she does not want to comply then she is not the type of girl for him.

COMMUNICATION IS KEY

Everyone has different opinions to the degree of cheating.

I mean just take the user Baxteen for example. that guy does not believe in the word cheating. His GF is allowed to have sex with other men. I find it strange but that's his life.
 
Random Hero said:
I mean just take the user Baxteen for example. that guy does not believe in the word cheating. His GF is allowed to have sex with other men. I find it strange but that's his life.
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You can't just say things like that without providing a link.
 
I can't believe you guys think this oke is overreacting.

His girlfriend cheated on him. Simple.
 
So now we crucify people for having different definitions of cheating and thus by extension the definition of monogamy and polygamy? Well done MyBB, well done.

@OP, if it has taken you 5 months to try and get over this event then you're not going to do it anytime soon. I say spare yourself any further troubles and just separate. You yourself have stated that you keep asking questions regarding her fidelity and a relationship whether it is an exclusive relationship between 2 people or it is an open relationship with many other partners cannot be built without trust.

Just understand this, even in a monogamous relationship you can not be your girlfriend's everything. She might look to you for physical intimacy and emotional support, but not necessarily for socialising and having a good time whilst partying.
 
XennoX said:
So now we crucify people for having different definitions of cheating and thus by extension the definition of monogamy and polygamy? Well done MyBB, well done.

@OP, if it has taken you 5 months to try and get over this event then you're not going to do it anytime soon. I say spare yourself any further troubles and just separate. You yourself have stated that you keep asking questions regarding her fidelity and a relationship whether it is an exclusive relationship between 2 people or it is an open relationship with many other partners cannot be built without trust.

Just understand this, even in a monogamous relationship you can not be your girlfriend's everything. She might look to you for physical intimacy and emotional support, but not necessarily for socialising and having a good time whilst partying.
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I don't see the nails and crosses. Did I miss it?
 
MickeyD said:
Grow a pair of balls, man.

Alternatively, wait for your balls to drop before attempting another relationship.

Tell the poor lass that you are domineering, controlling and insecure and that she'd be better off with somebody else.
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And I thought Chris was sad...


:p
 
Since she is going to dumb you, give me her number, I promise I will take care of her!
 
Cheating is such an oversubscribed topic these days.

If she is still sleeping with you and cares for you at the end of the day, does it really ****ing matter? I get jealousy - really I do. But get over it. Talk about it. Try and build an understanding of where things went wrong or how it can be better. Dancing with someone? Are you ****ing ****ting me?
 
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