What you earn belongs to the family what she earns belongs to her

[Roxi_B4b3]

So I guess my parents are Indian.... Shame, my poor dad

 

[Hamish McPanji]

It helps when you are both earning roughly the same amount....dunno how it would change the dynamic if i was earning much less than my wife

 

[TJ99]

There is a word for this. *****whipped.

It's how the world works. When all those "traditionalist" suckers go on about "being a real man", "manning up", "responsibilities" blah blah blah, this is what they mean, being a walking resource dispenser for women.

 

[TheMightyQuinn]

This is something I noticed in the Durban Indian community a lot. Where the husband's salary is used towards the general house expenses and husband usually has to ask his wife for permission before he can use his money that he earned himself while the wife pretty much uses her salary any which way she pleases.
Has an Indian male (unmarried) myself I really don't understand it

At least that will mean that the husband's balls will be inside an expensive and comfortable handbag...

 

[TheMightyQuinn]

Guess that's why Im still single...

Yeah sure...THAT's why.....

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

Lay down the ground rules when you move in together. I don't understand why people don't do this.

 

[Ninja'd]

A chick tried that on me on our first date. I was like hell no and took her Blackberry.

 

[Anony-mousse]

Growing balls might help

 

[Bizkit87]

Although i diss the guys that do this, I can see myself going down the same path [if i do end up with the current GF], as I can already see she is much better with the finances than I am, i spend money as soon as i make, where she knows how to make it last.

I won't mind her being in charge of our finances one day, but i sure as hell will keep x% of the budget for myself, and spend it on what ever I want.

 

[CamiKaze]

My GF didn't help me with the purchase of my PC, Receiver or Speakers, (we live together) but she will, does and must go half on everything else in the house.

 

[BobsLawnService]

Different couples do different things. We both spend about an equal proportion of our income on living then have nothing left for anything else to argue about after that.

 

[DerpiesFreud]

I`m single but when I do find a partner it will be like this :

I contribute X percent to household,she contributes x percent to household
household = {bills,savings,etc}

rest is saved in individual personal accounts...some questions asked

if they have an issue they can go get fooked

 

[BobsLawnService]

I`m single but when I do find a partner it will be like this :

This is probably the funniest thing I've read on MyBB in weeks.

 

[Gnarls]

I`m single but when I do find a partner it will be like this :

I contribute X percent to household,she contributes x percent to household
household = {bills,savings,etc}

rest is saved in individual personal accounts...some questions asked

if they have an issue they can go get fooked

Pretty much what my girlfriend and I discussed. I think it's pretty necessary that we both have our own discretionary savings accounts.

 

[Cicero]

I`m single but when I do find a partner it will be like this :

I contribute X percent to household,she contributes x percent to household
household = {bills,savings,etc}

rest is saved in individual personal accounts...some questions asked

if they have an issue they can go get fooked

This is probably the funniest thing I've read on MyBB in weeks.

LOL, I can imagine nukefission trying to explain those ground rules on a first date...

 

[I.am.Sam]

Lay down the ground rules when you move in together. I don't understand why people don't do this.

thats why you single and not married

 

[I.am.Sam]

if your wife uses her salary for what ever she wants and you need to ask her before you buy things than you are doing it all wrong

my gf and I always share expenses and i just ask for big stuff. But for small krap and stuff i buy what i want

 

[I.am.Sam]

Although i diss the guys that do this, I can see myself going down the same path [if i do end up with the current GF], as I can already see she is much better with the finances than I am, i spend money as soon as i make, where she knows how to make it last.

I won't mind her being in charge of our finances one day, but i sure as hell will keep x% of the budget for myself, and spend it on what ever I want.

my GF is the same ...so thats why i prefer giving her the money to handle

its not nice coming to a stage and you are broke

 

[F1 Fan]

This is probably the funniest thing I've read on MyBB in weeks.

Lol, totally agree.

I don't believe in having seperate accounts. If you married, and living together, you should both try to do what's best for one another. So why keep money seperately? This is just my opinion. The bigger things (R500+) we'll consult one another about, anything less we spend as needed.

That is also means that if this month, I want a SSD 128gb, then next month we will try and get her boots or a bag or whatever she wants. Tradeoff. I handle all the finances though, Im good with numbers.

 

[dadecoza]

slightly OT but if your wife does not work, ie. looking after the kids. Would you pay her a montly allowence and/or just give her access to your cards?