What's the point to any of this?

Zurg

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Over the past 3 years I've sat back and watched my life go up and down, there's multiple things I could mention but I feel as if it wouldn't make a difference aside from revealing my true identity, as of 2019 I have no friends, the place I work doesn't respect me and I have no ambition to push myself towards a better life, I'm sick of the fake intimacy, the lies, this facade that people put on, we're fooling each other with this bullshit, what does it matter? Who the **** cares about your shiny new car, your rolex watch, your fancy big house or your group of fake friends. I'm overwhelmed by this urge to break away and get out of the city, I've thought about suicide but I don't think I could ever bring myself to leave my family behind, not after all they've done for me.

I just want a simple life is that too much to ask for?

Sometimes I cry myself to sleep hoping this feeling of emptiness is only temporary.

Apologies if this is too much but I needed somewhere to vent.

Thanks for listening
 

MrGray

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Sounds like you’re burned out emotionally. Clear your schedule, spend a week (or more if you can) somewhere quiet and disconnected by yourself where you can regain some perspective and do some self analysis about your life. Distance from your daily routines and relationships is quite powerful and might allow you to reconnect with what you value in life and identify what you need to change.
 

cguy

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Try traveling in a few countries. It’s the best way to get out of your skin.
 

The_Mowgs

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Get booked off for a month for stress and go relax somewhere quiet.
 

LouisJeezy

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Have you tried watching any of Jordan Peterson's video's on Youtube ? I have found them to be really helpful to stay motivated and calm surrounded by all of the chaos
 

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Over the past 3 years I've sat back and watched my life go up and down, there's multiple things I could mention but I feel as if it wouldn't make a difference aside from revealing my true identity, as of 2019 I have no friends, the place I work doesn't respect me and I have no ambition to push myself towards a better life, I'm sick of the fake intimacy, the lies, this facade that people put on, we're fooling each other with this bullshit, what does it matter? Who the **** cares about your shiny new car, your rolex watch, your fancy big house or your group of fake friends. I'm overwhelmed by this urge to break away and get out of the city, I've thought about suicide but I don't think I could ever bring myself to leave my family behind, not after all they've done for me.

I just want a simple life is that too much to ask for?

Sometimes I cry myself to sleep hoping this feeling of emptiness is only temporary.

Apologies if this is too much but I needed somewhere to vent.

Thanks for listening
Good. You're showing a few signs of sanity by asking these questions. That's an essential start.
 

thestaggy

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Over the past 3 years I've sat back and watched my life go up and down, there's multiple things I could mention but I feel as if it wouldn't make a difference aside from revealing my true identity, as of 2019 I have no friends, the place I work doesn't respect me and I have no ambition to push myself towards a better life, I'm sick of the fake intimacy, the lies, this facade that people put on, we're fooling each other with this bullshit, what does it matter? Who the **** cares about your shiny new car, your rolex watch, your fancy big house or your group of fake friends. I'm overwhelmed by this urge to break away and get out of the city, I've thought about suicide but I don't think I could ever bring myself to leave my family behind, not after all they've done for me.

I just want a simple life is that too much to ask for?

Sometimes I cry myself to sleep hoping this feeling of emptiness is only temporary.

Apologies if this is too much but I needed somewhere to vent.

Thanks for listening

Are you lonely?

Loneliness is an increasing global ''epidemic''.
 

ArmatageShanks

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Who the **** cares about your shiny new car, your rolex watch, your fancy big house or your group of fake friends.

They care, the people that like their cars or their watches or their house or their friends have something to live for, that is much better than seeing nothing as worth anything or any amount of your time, if not for these little earthly things why the fsck would you live? You work your arse off so you can afford some nice things, you spend time with people so you can have a bit of social interaction and fun, who cares if its fake just enjoy it. And if you don't find something to enjoy ffs.
 

CT_Biker

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From what I can see, you're being honest with yourself. That is one huge step in the right direction.

What are gut instincts telling you?
 

FNfal

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Join a hard core bike club , then you will definitely have plenty to do and think about , besides building character ,
:p
Warning joining a hard core bike club is not for sissies .
 

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You say that you don't want to leave your family behind due to everything they have done for you.
This implies that there are people that genuinely care for you. Friends, sometimes, come and go. Some last for a lifetime, others don't. What are your interests? Gaming, biking, bargain hunting?? Get out there, do something. But don't sit and and wait for an answer. I've asked these questions years ago and nobody has answered me. However, Life answered me. All my questions were answered, sometimes in the most unexpected ways.
 

ArmatageShanks

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You say that you don't want to leave your family behind due to everything they have done for you.
This implies that there are people that genuinely care for you. Friends, sometimes, come and go. Some last for a lifetime, others don't. What are your interests? Gaming, biking, bargain hunting?? Get out there, do something. But don't sit and and wait for an answer. I've asked these questions years ago and nobody has answered me. However, Life answered me. All my questions were answered, sometimes in the most unexpected ways.

Indeed, you have to do something, can't just sit.
 

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There have been times when I felt exactly like you, society at the moment is just a load of BS with most of society wanting to be seen at events, with cars, with alcohol, in a big house, with a celebrity, etc. I have never been this way inclined and luckily neither are my family and the bulk of my friends who have been there for me in my happiest and darkest moments. In that way I am lucky, I have my family, my girlfriend, her family and a few close friends that I see regularly, the rest I generally ignore completely unless I am genuinely interested. You are not alone...
 

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You need at least seven nights at Champagne Sports Resort in the Drakensburg or alternatively the Kruger Park for a complete recharge. The tranquility will rebuild mind, body and soul. Enjoy!
 

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Over the past 3 years I've sat back and watched my life go up and down, there's multiple things I could mention but I feel as if it wouldn't make a difference aside from revealing my true identity, as of 2019 I have no friends, the place I work doesn't respect me and I have no ambition to push myself towards a better life, I'm sick of the fake intimacy, the lies, this facade that people put on, we're fooling each other with this bullshit, what does it matter? Who the **** cares about your shiny new car, your rolex watch, your fancy big house or your group of fake friends. I'm overwhelmed by this urge to break away and get out of the city, I've thought about suicide but I don't think I could ever bring myself to leave my family behind, not after all they've done for me.

I just want a simple life is that too much to ask for?

Sometimes I cry myself to sleep hoping this feeling of emptiness is only temporary.

Apologies if this is too much but I needed somewhere to vent.

Thanks for listening
There's that thread by @|tera| about ending it all, maybe you should look him up? Or that other guy that needed help jumping off the roof, maybe double up?
 
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