When someone wants to come and sleepover

[upup]

So say a friend or family phones and ask if they can come and sleep over, travel past us or for business, and they phone to ask, who decides, the man or the woman.

Sometimes they ask me and I say yes, then the wife is very upset. Should I ask her first before telling them.

How to you do it?

 

[saor]

Sometimes they ask me and I say yes, then the wife is very upset. Should I ask her first before telling them.

Do you think that asking her will improve the situation?

 

[OrbitalDawn]

Yes, you should consult your partner. You're not the only person affected by the decision.

 

[Arthur]

What?! You mean you haven't yet realized that you are merely the general factotum, bond-payer and rent-provider?

Resolve from this night forward that anything to do with the house and household is your wife's prerogative.

Tell friends and family to make their requests to your domestic tyrant/manager/wife.

 

[Zewp]

I would think that when it comes to decisions that affects both partners, discussing it with her would be obvious?

 

[Unhappy438]

Im sure this is in the wrong section but yes of course you should consult with your partner.

 

[satanboy]

What is wrong with a bloody hotel?

 

[maumau]

Who gets the guest bedroom ready? Fresh bedding, reading matter, working sidelight? Fresh towels? Who buys and prepares extra meals? Adjusts the daily schedule to accommodate your guest?

Yep, your wife. She should be consulted

 

[ToxicBunny]

Really?

You're married, and make a decision like that without consulting your wife and you wonder why she gets upset?

 

[Hamish McPanji]

Culturally for us, it is an imperative to offer your house up to friends and family. So this year, maybe about 2.5 months in total we have has someone staying with us.

Me or my wife offer the accommodation to the visitor, and inform each other afterwards with odds on whether they will take it up.

It sometimes sucks, but that's how we were both brought up so its more a 'notify' rather than an 'ask'

 

[ToxicBunny]

Culturally for us, it is an imperative to offer your house up to friends and family. So this year, maybe about 2.5 months in total we have has someone staying with us.

Me or my wife offer the accommodation to the visitor, and inform each other afterwards with odds on whether they will take it up.

It sometimes sucks, but that's how we were both brought up so its more a 'notify' rather than an 'ask'

Each culture to their own..

But in mine, its definitely a case of ask each other to see that its all good....

 

[STS]

i'm soooo happy my girlfriend is chilled she gets happy when people come over, no matter how short notice

 

[nand]

It's easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission.

 

[Ocali]

cultural or not.. confer with with wifey

 

[kolaval]

i'm soooo happy my girlfriend is chilled she gets happy when people come over, no matter how short notice

That's because you do not have a ring on your finger yet!

 

[ShaunSA]

Really?

You're married, and make a decision like that without consulting your wife and you wonder why she gets upset?

This.

i'm soooo happy my girlfriend is chilled she gets happy when people come over, no matter how short notice

This is not that kind of "sleepover"

 

[AstroTurf]

@op, discuss first

Who gets the guest bedroom ready? Fresh bedding, reading matter, working sidelight? Fresh towels? Who buys and prepares extra meals? Adjusts the daily schedule to accommodate your guest?

Yep, your wife. She should be consulted

LOL I do.

i'm soooo happy my girlfriend is chilled she gets happy when people come over, no matter how short notice

What @kolaval said

That's because you do not have a ring on your finger yet!

<<<That's what she said!

 

[cenredash]

Why don't you first have the discussion on the principle so that as the husband you have a basis for offering or not. If you upset her every time you obviously have a learning curve problem.

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

This is not that kind of "sleepover"

I was going to say that. She probably licks her lips

 

[RazedInBlack]

Why is this thread in here?

Shouldn't it be in Off Topic?