Who do you think is happier ?

[AlphaBravo]

It depends in what phase of life you are, definately was very happy during party days, but are very happy with my family life right now.
I hope to pick up my party life again in the next phase the old age home...:erm:

 

[Nick333]

If you marry the right person, then you will be happy, happier than most i would surmise.

Ja. The thing about the study that backs your statement that married people are happier is that all it actually tells us is that people who died married(or widowed I suppose) lived longer than those who died unmarried. It just means that having a companion when you're old is a good thing. It doesn't tell us that being young or middle aged and having a bunch of fcck buddies won't make you happier than being young or middle aged and having a companion/spouse. Seems to me you can be happy for most of your life regardless of your relationship status and you should just make sure you marry any old body after the age of 65. Or, at least, it's just as plausible as thinking we'd be happier pairing off before the age of 65.

 

[Kornhub]

Why can't people just have a balance of both?

 

[Humberto]

Re: Married people are happier

It may also be that happier people are more likely to get married.

 

[cerebus]

Why can't people just have a balance of both?

Why would you even want to? If you were in a happy marriage would you really want to be back out in the clubs? I can't imagine anything I'd want less than that. The reality of that kind of existence is pretty sordid and unfulfilling.

 

[Pho3nix]

I've been unhappy on both sides of the fence..

 

[Nick333]

Why would you even want to? If you were in a happy marriage would you really want to be back out in the clubs? I can't imagine anything I'd want less than that. The reality of that kind of existence is pretty sordid and unfulfilling.

The reality of clubs is that they are places people go to dance, drink and socialise. What about those things do you find sordid and unfulfilling?

 

[cerebus]

The reality of clubs is that they are places people go to dance, drink and socialise. What about those things do you find sordid and unfulfilling?

I'm not talking about the clubs themselves am I? I meant the lifestyle as in the OP:

or the people going wild (like those on spring break/Ibiza/Magaluf) doing everything that walks and partying their lives away.

 

[Nick333]

I'm not talking about the clubs themselves am I? I meant the lifestyle as in the OP:

Fair enough. You did also ask why you would want to go into a club if your were married. The implication seeming to be that the only reasons to be in a club are sordid and unfulfilling.

Not too mention that describing said lifestyle as sordid and unfulfilling isn't a description of reality so much as it's a description of your perception.

 

[RiaX]

Why can't people just have a balance of both?

can you trust women and alcohol in a club ?

 

[cerebus]

Fair enough. You did also ask why you would want to go into a club if your were married. The implication seeming to be that the only reasons to be in a club are sordid and unfulfilling.

Yeah it wasn't really intended that way. Although I've been in many clubs in my time that I think 'sordid' would be a fairly apposite description of.

Not too mention that describing said lifestyle as sordid and unfulfilling isn't a description of reality so much as it's a description of your perception.

This whole thread is a description of perception isn't it? Well it's based on memory as much as opinion if it helps.

 

[syntax]

You know, when you are having a crazy party life with hardcore ladies its high highs and low lows.
When you look back or look at others living that life, you tend to only remember or see the really fun times.

I didnt really sleep around, but I had a party lifestyle and my g/f's at the time were very game for living it up. I absolutely cannot imagine having that now, its too exhausting, too erratic and just too damaging. I can say that I loved it then, and i love my life now.

Now however, its much more stable, Im happy about 80 - 90% of the time. Back then, I was happy for maybe half that. And most of that happiness was chemical induced.
I can honestly say, when I think back about it, the times when i was really happy, was not when i was partying like a maniac.
It was when i was just chilling with friends at varsity, talking crap, watching series, playing sport and having a FEW beers together.

All that stuff, i still do now

 

[Nick333]

Yeah it wasn't really intended that way. Although I've been in many clubs in my time that I think 'sordid' would be a fairly apposite description of.


This whole thread is a description of perception isn't it? Well it's based on memory as much as opinion if it helps.

Again, fair enough. But, then, the use of a word like "reality" seems a bit inappropriate.

Sordid is an entirely subjective word. Besides the fact that the majority of activity in clubs is so innocent you'd have to be Amish to describe it as sordid, I shouldn't have to point out that one persons sordid is another's idea of a tame night out.