Who takes care of your baby while you work?

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Seriously? How the F do y'all do it? In this era where both parents have to work, who takes care of your baby?

Wife wants to quit her job and have me pay her a salary every month equal to her current work salary, I did the math, and while I technically can, it would leave me with barely anything left at the end after all my expenses are accounted for.

I need some advice here. Do I get a professional? Can I really trust a stranger with my baby? In my house, while me and wife are out at work the whole day?

Scratching my head over this one. Wondering if an au pair/caretaker's slightly cheaper price(i mean im assuming its cheaper) than my wife's salary I'd be paying her and then I have peace of mind.

If anyone has any input/knows of any solutions - I'm all ears.
 
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InternetSwag said:
Seriously? How the F do y'all do it? In this era where both parents have to work, who takes care of your baby?

Wife wants to quit her job and have me pay her a salary every month equal to her current work salary, I did the math, and while I technically can, it would leave me with barely anything left at the end after all my expenses are accounted for.

I need some advice here. Do I get a professional? Can I really trust a stranger with my baby? In my house, while me and wife are out at work the whole day?

Scratching my head over this one. Wondering if an au pair/caretaker's slightly cheaper price(i mean im assuming its cheaper) than my wife's salary I'd be paying her and then I have peace of mind.

If anyone has any input/knows of any solutions - I'm all ears.
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WTF..??
 
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InternetSwag said:
Seriously? How the F do y'all do it? In this era where both parents have to work, who takes care of your baby?

Wife wants to quit her job and have me pay her a salary every month equal to her current work salary, I did the math, and while I technically can, it would leave me with barely anything left at the end after all my expenses are accounted for.

I need some advice here. Do I get a professional? Can I really trust a stranger with my baby? In my house, while me and wife are out at work the whole day?

Scratching my head over this one. Wondering if an au pair/caretaker's slightly cheaper price(i mean im assuming its cheaper) than my wife's salary I'd be paying her and then I have peace of mind.

If anyone has any input/knows of any solutions - I'm all ears.
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Unfortunately, we had to put our daughter in aftercare, not a good experience, my wife convince another aftercare to take our daughter, and they started to look after babies after that, it helped that it was mostly grannies looking after babies/children.
 
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If I had a kid. I would pay my wife double her salary to take care of it. Even then, she will be under paid. Doubt anyone else would ever look after it.

In fact, I am still working towards paying my wife at least the salary she get now to stop working. But for now at least it keeps her going.
 
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I am have been the bread winner since 2017. I got used to it. You tend to go look for better paying jobs.
 
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chrisc said:
I cannot believe a wife would make such an outrageous demand. You don’t have the financial capability that her employer did
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If it is financially possible, I honestly don't see the problem with this. She will still be working pretty hard and give up something she might have enjoyed. If it is done out of spite or manipulation, yes, that is just wrong.
 
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Even if I did do this, and paid her etc. If I ever got retrenched/lost my job or whatever, that's all money gone - It would put a mountain of stress on my shoulders. Now I doubt I would lose my job, but damn, just the knowledge that my whole family is entirely dependent on me, that's another level.
 
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rh1 said:
Unfortunately, we had to put our daughter in aftercare, not a good experience, my wife convince another aftercare to take our daughter, and they started to look after babies after that, it helped that it was mostly grannies looking after babies/children.
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I have heard my fair share of horror stories as well.
 
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Just saying though, if you are giving up a job to look after a child and your finances are stretched, it's probably not the smartest idea. That kid probably wants to go to study at an university one day which is really expensive.

But I guess the kid can go find a job to pay for their studies one day.
 
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What a weird request re: wife.

If it was made as a troll/joke sure but if she is cereal/serious WTF??
 
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My wife and I struggled to balance looking after a baby and both working, we got a nanny which helped. Day care could work (some take from an early age) but COVID makes it tricky.

If your wife gives up her job now, what happens when the baby starts school.
 
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We currently have a nanny but I'm WFH so I'm always around to monitor.

Also discussed the wife staying at home eventually, but nothing about paying what she currently earns. Just whatever she's currently contributing to the household - groceries, her car and insurance, medical aid, life policy, some spending money and a bit of savings. This comes to about 30-odd% of her current salary which isn't too bad, and would escalate at the same rate as my increase.

She's giving up her career so it's not unreasonable to pay her a salary. But you have to be realistic about the amount as well...
 
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