Why are people scared of me?

[|3ash3r]

he has never ever screamed at me

dont make him out to be like that

@AcidRaZor you have another feared fan...

 

[guest2013-1]

hard to say, do you act differently on the forums? If you do then it is a pretty dumb question. How can we know what you are like if you are different on the forums. You scare me, always seem angry and you never seem happy. Plus your emo rating is off the chart and your need for attention is something you should address.

I do act differently. I use the internet for entertainment. So love playing devils advocate (like in the MWEB adsl feedback thread today)

How do you address the need for attention when you get none? Hence my little retreat here. Not like I can command people to go see a movie with me or just go out for beers or something. So I tend to do that (and most anything) on my own.

But its nice here

 

[guest2013-1]

@AcidRaZor you have another feared fan...

Pheer meeeeeee

 

[Singal]

How many tattoos do you have? Do these people who are intimidated by you have tattoos?
Obviously I don't mean everyone who has a tattoo is intimidating, but someone who has quite a few can come across that way.

 

[zippy]

Just wondering... have had a few occurrences over the past couple of months where people admitted they're afraid of me and I can't for the life of me think why. Some of these people I've known for over 5 years. I mostly joke, I never talk about work to them unless they specifically ask something etc

Can't think of any moment I just lost it and threaten them with violence or something? I'm not like that IRL, on here I'll burn your house down if your cat even thinks of the color purple.... but yea...

Has any of you found out that people are afraid of you (or any other perception they might have which is the total opposite you'd like them to have)? What was it? How'd you handle it?

Maybe you are confusing "not respecting you" for "being afraid of you" ?

You do come across as an intolerant obnoxious moron.

People tend to avoid someone like that. That doesn't mean they are afraid of you. Sort of how people choose to walk away from someone with bad BO. That person might also think people are afraid of them.

You might think you aren't like that in IRL. If that's true then it means you must be making a special effort to be percieved online as a total douche.

 

[cerebus]

Translated:

I love this post because it means people are afraid of me because I am fscking awesome!

Fsck yeah!

Yeah sorry you're taking what you want to hear. It's not THAT kind of scared. It's scared in the same way I'm nervous when I take my kids to a house with a pitbull, even if they tell me it's kid-friendly you know it's basically an irrational canine that only needs to flip once.

 

[D3nz]

Yeah sorry you're taking what you want to hear. It's not THAT kind of scared. It's scared in the same way I'm nervous when I take my kids to a house with a pitbull, even if they tell me it's kid-friendly you know it's basically an irrational canine that only needs to flip once.

I know I'm going off topic, but just had to tell you that at one time I was like that, terrified of pitbulls. Now that we have two of our own, I can tell you that the only thing terrifying about them is the way they look. It really is all about how you treat them. Treat them badly and like boerbuls and other big dogs, they'll probably turn on you. Treat them with love and they'll return the favour.

 

[cerebus]

I know I'm going off topic, but just had to tell you that at one time I was like that, terrified of pitbulls. Now that we have two of our own, I can tell you that the only thing terrifying about them is the way they look. It really is all about how you treat them. Treat them badly and like boerbuls and other big dogs, they'll probably turn on you. Treat them with love and they'll return the favour.

Yea I'm talking about one specific dog that belongs to a friend of my wife's. Actually it's a ridgeback now I think of it. Anyways lol.

 

[Datura]

I hate bipolar people. They're awesome!

 

[Tinuva]

I am not scared of you, but I do think you are a douche.

Some people, who may be a little insecure, may however be scared of you. They pick up on little things you do, which you don't realize. It could be that you are just a confident person, and then come forth as the alpha male between you and the person/s that are scared of you.

 

[guest2013-1]

I am not scared of you, but I do think you are a douche.

Some people, who may be a little insecure, may however be scared of you. They pick up on little things you do, which you don't realize. It could be that you are just a confident person, and then come forth as the alpha male between you and the person/s that are scared of you.

I'm a douche online because I can be. No one has invented the "klap through intarwebs" technology yet...

But yea, I get what you saying. I think the topic is too focussed on me, I edited the OP to highlight the point for lazy people who don't want to read. The point was that I was surprised to hear the admissions that they're afraid of me sometimes, and wanted to know if others also experienced a similar incident where people perceived you as a totally different person to whom you actually think (or project yourself) are.

I make a conscious decision to act differently online than I do offline. I've been here for so long I don't even have to think of it. The Grinch people.

 

[blunomore]

I'm a douche online because I can be. No one has invented the "klap through intarwebs" technology yet...

But yea, I get what you saying. I think the topic is too focussed on me, I edited the OP to highlight the point for lazy people who don't want to read. The point was that I was surprised to hear the admissions that they're afraid of me sometimes, and wanted to know if others also experienced a similar incident where people perceived you as a totally different person to whom you actually think (or project yourself) are.

I make a conscious decision to act differently online than I do offline. I've been here for so long I don't even have to think of it. The Grinch people.

So how are you when you are offline ?

You are not scary, just someone who clearly has a lot of mental and emotional issues, as is evident from your threads on this forum.

I think there is also a lot of work for you to do regarding your attitude towards women.

 

[rubytox]

The point was that I was surprised to hear the admissions that they're afraid of me sometimes, and wanted to know if others also experienced a similar incident where people perceived you as a totally different person to whom you actually think (or project yourself) are.

Yes, happened to me. The wider the gap between your perception of yourself and other people's perception of you, the more likely that you actually do have a problem.

The fact that you posted this, means that it bothers you. So perhaps you need to do some serious introspection and try to narrow the gap between your perceptions of self and what other people think about you.

 

[Tinuva]

I'm a douche online because I can be. No one has invented the "klap through intarwebs" technology yet...

But yea, I get what you saying. I think the topic is too focussed on me, I edited the OP to highlight the point for lazy people who don't want to read. The point was that I was surprised to hear the admissions that they're afraid of me sometimes, and wanted to know if others also experienced a similar incident where people perceived you as a totally different person to whom you actually think (or project yourself) are.

I make a conscious decision to act differently online than I do offline. I've been here for so long I don't even have to think of it. The Grinch people.

I did get a bit late into the thread, but I wanted to reply to the OP and not read the whole thread which was already at 5 pages.

As for people perceiving me different that I see myself...yes that happens all the time. People are strange, they almost always react different to anything than how you want them to. Almost to the point where I now already know how people are going to react, just don't think you can control it, because the moment you do, it will again work out different.

What everyone should probably realize, you need to understand people's background to understand how they will perceive things you do, and even how they will perceive you. It helps to get to know people, even the things they won't let you know outright, which means you need to spend more time with them than you think. You could be friends with someone for years, and not really know them, which in turn mean you wouldn't know or understand how they perceive you.

Make no mistake, I am also guilty of not always knowing people good enough. It is one of my weakest points, and it stands out above all the great points about me.

Either way, be yourself instead of thinking how you should be, people respect that, even if they don't like it.

 

[blunomore]

What everyone should probably realize, you need to understand people's background to understand how they will perceive things you do, and even how they will perceive you. It helps to get to know people, even the things they won't let you know outright, which means you need to spend more time with them than you think. You could be friends with someone for years, and not really know them, which in turn mean you wouldn't know or understand how they perceive you.

As the saying goes: What You Think Of Me Is None Of My Business!

What you think of me says more about you and how life shaped your perceptions ..............

 

[rubytox]

What you're describing sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Almost to the point where I now already know how people are going to react, just don't think you can control it, because the moment you do, it will again work out different.

The question you should ask yourself is whether you act according to other people's expectations of you or from who or what you think of yourself?

 

[rubytox]

As the saying goes: What You Think Of Me Is None Of My Business!

What you think of me says more about you and how life shaped your perceptions ..............

Yes, that too. What another person thinks about you, says a hell of a lot more about that person than about you.
You cannot think something that you have not experienced or seen or heard before.

 

[Tinuva]

As the saying goes: What You Think Of Me Is None Of My Business!

What you think of me says more about you and how life shaped your perceptions ..............

Yup 100% correct, which is why it helps to know people, and then you will understand why they perceive you in a certain way.

What you're describing sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy.


The question you should ask yourself is whether you act according to other people's expectations of you or from who or what you think of yourself?

I personally don't have a problem with how I act or how others perceive it. There usually is a purpose to my actions and it usually works out. @work some people like me, some don't. It usually come down to the fact, if you are lazy you will hate me, if you are competent and do good work you will like working with me. @social gathers people usually are either content towards me or like me.

It will be a rare occasion that you find me acting the way people expect me to act. Why? It makes life boring.

 

[STS]

despite my terrifying demeanour on the internet, i'm actually very loveable. ask Insanity, Tsume, GhostSixFour, Sam and wallsend

 

[I.am.Sam]

despite my terrifying demeanour on the internet, i'm actually very loveable. ask Insanity, Tsume, GhostSixFour, Sam and wallsend

yeah i never met him ...he is a nice guy though ...but he can be terrifying

when he makes that grrrrrr face