Why does she do this...

Random Hero

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So I dated this girl for 4 years.. It was quite deep, we already discussed things like marriage, kids, our home... Everything.
then we broke up earlier this year. actually we broke up twice then I left.

Wednesday:
So anyway. I completely ignored her and went on with my life, haven't heard from her in about 5 weeks.
Then she Randomly calls me to tell me about her new job which is closer to where I stay, I was brief because I had a meeting with a client and the MD. It was weird that she called me because just the day before I started to think about her a lot. Later that day I texted her and said it was great to hear her voice again and she replied similarly.

Friday:
2 days later I called back because I was so brief on the phone when she called. just talked for a bit. Then after the call she texted me to say thanks for the call and she really enjoyed hearing my voice. and then I said something like "I love hearing your soothing voice too"

Saturday Night between 20:00 - 00:00:
She texts me and says Text 1:"Im glad you enjoyed hearing my voice and that it is so soothing"
Text 2:"My voice belongs to my boyfriend" and I reply with "oh and who is he?" (I thought she meant me and was just flirting). But the next day when I sobered up I realized it was probably a new BF or she is trying to make me Jealous.

What do you make of this? why would she call me and text that, and then mention she has a boyfriend?:confused:
Been feeling weird and uneasy since Sunday.

I'd love to hear what you think.
 

Zewp

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Anyway, put it behind you. If she's interested in resuming where you left off, she'll make it clear. Otherwise, remember that you broke up for a reason.
 

ShaunSA

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Message her back and say your left-overs belong to her boyfriend too :twisted:
 

Gnarls

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Cause she's looking for attention. I had an ex like this. They thrive of the ego boost. If I was you I'd just cut my ties and move on. Plenty of other fish in the sea.
 

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So I dated this girl for 4 years.. It was quite deep, we already discussed things like marriage, kids, our home... Everything.
then we broke up earlier this year. actually we broke up twice then I left.

Wednesday:
So anyway. I completely ignored her and went on with my life, haven't heard from her in about 5 weeks.
Then she Randomly calls me to tell me about her new job which is closer to where I stay, I was brief because I had a meeting with a client and the MD. It was weird that she called me because just the day before I started to think about her a lot. Later that day I texted her and said it was great to hear her voice again and she replied similarly.

Friday:
2 days later I called back because I was so brief on the phone when she called. just talked for a bit. Then after the call she texted me to say thanks for the call and she really enjoyed hearing my voice. and then I said something like "I love hearing your soothing voice too"

Saturday Night between 20:00 - 00:00:
She texts me and says Text 1:"Im glad you enjoyed hearing my voice and that it is so soothing"
Text 2:"My voice belongs to my boyfriend" and I reply with "oh and who is he?" (I thought she meant me and was just flirting). But the next day when I sobered up I realized it was probably a new BF or she is trying to make me Jealous.

What do you make of this? why would she call me and text that, and then mention she has a boyfriend?:confused:
Been feeling weird and uneasy since Sunday.

I'd love to hear what you think.

Because, you weren't suitably destroyed by losing her. She want's some clear indication that you regret the break up. She's looking for a self-esteem boost. If you give it to her she'll lose interest. Feck her, don't give her the satisfaction.
 

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Anyway, put it behind you. If she's interested in resuming where you left off, she'll make it clear. Otherwise, remember that you broke up for a reason.

Why would a girl do this?
I'm not sure if I'm over analyzing this..(probably am) but I list things from: want to get back together, to just feeling lonely, to missing me, to being out right sadistic...

Was wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation?
 

PsyWulf

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Can o crazy
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Celine

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that is just damn wrong. she should not have contacted you at all. some women need a flipping psychiatrist I swear.
 

Mila

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She is playing you. Move on.
She is suddenly without her support system and wants something to fall back on if the new thing doesn't work out.
Don't be that guy. It's lame and she will do it again and again.
 

googoodoll

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Well if someone called my voice soothing I'd also think up a new bf quick...
 

Zewp

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Why would a girl do this?
I'm not sure if I'm over analyzing this..(probably am) but I list things from: want to get back together, to just feeling lonely, to missing me, to being out right sadistic...

Was wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation?

I think the others who responded are right. The most plausible explanation is she's toying with you to give herself an ego boost at your expense. Best is to just ignore her.

It's kind of like that thing were the first time two exes see each other after the break-up each of them tries to show the other how good their life is going so that they can 'win' the break-up.
 
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