Why is it so challenging to find someone who is willing to commit to Christian dating?

@naledi96

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We have all heard that sex before marriage is a sin but too few people compared to the world's population get married virgins.

I am 25yrs old and not a virgin. For the past two years, I've been learning new things about my Christianity that I did not know or that I was not entirely really taught while growing up and I have made decisions based on those things.

One of those decisions is to not have sex again until I get married. Which is fairly easy as I don't really have that much experience with the other gender. I've only tried dating twice in these two years and both were turned-off by the fact that I want to avoid sex...until marriage most preferably. But even Christian guys seem to think I'm chasing pavements.

Is this really too much to ask for?
 

saor

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It's challenging not because sex is everything, but because sex is part of a balanced relationship. It's difficult when a relationship is occupied entirely with emotional contact on the one hand, but then doesn't get the physical contact on the other. Of course it's possible - people get married all the time without sex, but sometimes they also luck out by ending up in a relationship with someone who maybe they don't really enjoy sex with.
 

azbob

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It's challenging not because sex is everything, but because sex is part of a balanced relationship. It's difficult when a relationship is occupied entirely with emotional contact on the one hand, but then doesn't get the physical contact on the other. Of course it's possible - people get married all the time without sex, but sometimes they also luck out by ending up in a relationship with someone who maybe they don't really enjoy sex with.
How have you been coping since the JW?
 

saor

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How have you been coping since the JW?
Lulz. I've been good thanks. Though I don't know that I could manage 6+ months of dating without sex or at least very intimate contact - things feel unbalanced.
 

@naledi96

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It's challenging not because sex is everything, but because sex is part of a balanced relationship. It's difficult when a relationship is occupied entirely with emotional contact on the one hand, but then doesn't get the physical contact on the other. Of course it's possible - people get married all the time without sex, but sometimes they also luck out by ending up in a relationship with someone who maybe they don't really enjoy sex with.
Yes hey. And especially if you already have had sex before, it becomes tricky if the new person you're now married with isn't really that good in bed.
It's a challenge indeed. But it is possible, and needs lots of prayers, commitment, and maybe some therapy.
 

saor

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Yes. You are getting it right. It is called renewal. I am renewed. Old me gone, new me here. Take it or leave it.
Well, if you're that serious about sex & Christianity then maybe this is a good way to find a partner who's as serious about it as you - if they're not willing to commit to a sex-free dating life then you can ghost that lukewarm mofo stat and find a real WWJD kinda guy.
 

azbob

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Lulz. I've been good thanks. Though I don't know that I could manage 6+ months of dating without sex or at least very intimate contact - things feel unbalanced.
Hang in there, one day you'll run into someone. Pun intended.
 

backstreetboy

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Welcome to the deregulated sexual marketplace. No wonder the divorce rate is so high and keeps climbing.
 
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