Why is it so challenging to find someone who is willing to commit to Christian dating?

[berrypi]

Do what WORKS for you... your relationship with your creator is personal.

At the end of the day, you accountable to you and your creator. Dont let the "anti - religion" and "pro-religion" debate make you go off track.

Secondly, coming to a forum asking for help will get you everything excluding a honest answer.

My "opinion" no, its not too much to ask for... like another reason may be "want a partner with a stable job too much to ask for?" Its what YOU deem as important, and your "non negotiable" rules... wont be applicable to all....

 

[Binary_Bark]

Stop the belief in that antiquated BS fantasy story.
Go and enjoy life.

 

[S.Claus]

Why do a piece of paper and some guy that did an online course determine if it's a sin to sleep with someone? I feel at some stage in a relationship it's only reasonable to take it to the next step.

 

[ToxicBunny]

Yes. You are getting it right. It is called renewal. I am renewed. Old me gone, new me here. Take it or leave it.

For the vast majority of people, this will be too much...

You're not in some weird high-school Christian fantasy movie, sex is part of a balanced relationship and telling your potential partner that you won't have a balanced relationship until marriage will be a deal breaker.

 

[Wut]

I've always wondered why people would put themselves through this. How do you know if you are both sexually compatible without taking a test drive first? I would hate to be stuck in a marriage or even long term relationship with bad sex. Sure if you are both virgins then you both don't have a benchmark to compare against, but you aren't a virgin. Would you honestly stay faithful for the rest of your lives if your partner happens to be terrible in bed?

 

[FrankCastle]

So sex only becomes permissible once God gives the green light via one of his chosen representatives in a church?

The same god who advocates for slavery gets upset if you poke around before the "do yous"?

Humans are better than this.

 

[@naledi96]

Well, if you're that serious about sex & Christianity then maybe this is a good way to find a partner who's as serious about it as you - if they're not willing to commit to a sex-free dating life then you can ghost that lukewarm mofo stat and find a real WWJD kinda guy.

Ja hy. I mean I also really like intimacy. I'm attractive with a great body (maybe 7/8 out of 10) and well educated. It's really easy for me to find guys who like me that i like back.

I sometimes get asked out by attractive and stable guys, and sometimes get to know them. But i normally bring up that topic right from the beginning so that the ground is solid and its usually a turn off. Which tends to lead me to thinking that maybe they are only physically attracted to me (lust) and are probably only after sex.

There is a possibility of having sex b4 marriage obviously, but i don't want someone who will want it on our 1st date or just after a few days or weeks. Let's wait it out a few months at least.

"Is this really too much to ask for?"

In your own words "Take it or leave it."

The facts that is. They are like that. Take them or leave them. I

Do what WORKS for you... your relationship with your creator is personal.

At the end of the day, you accountable to you and your creator. Dont let the "anti - religion" and "pro-religion" debate make you go off track.

Secondly, coming to a forum asking for help will get you everything excluding a honest answer.

My "opinion" no, its not too much to ask for... like another reason may be "want a partner with a stable job too much to ask for?" Its what YOU deem as important, and your "non negotiable" rules... wont be applicable to all....

Thank you. You actually get it hy. It actually is important to me and people can make you feel like a freak sometimes for knowing exactly what you want and standing up for it.

And about coming to the forum, you arw absolutely right. Thank you for the great advice.

 

[@naledi96]

For the vast majority of people, this will be too much...

You're not in some weird high-school Christian fantasy movie, sex is part of a balanced relationship and telling your potential partner that you won't have a balanced relationship until marriage will be a deal breaker.

It actually has been a deal breaker with some guys that i really liked and would have probably had a great relationship with. But I'm not really willing to compromise.

 

[FrankCastle]

I've often wondered why religions are so obsessed with what people should do, and choose to do, with their own genitals...

Because genitals control our actions.

 

[saor]

There is a possibility of having sex b4 marriage obviously, but i don't want someone who will want it on our 1st date or just after a few days or weeks. Let's wait it out a few months at least.

But if you're dating Christian guys surely they understand where you're coming from?

 

[The Trutherizer]

Keep looking. It's really besides the point if you decided this course of action based on religion or not. There's plenty of valid reasons for it other than that Santa Clause wants to keep your bits brand spanking new for any potential future life mates.
If you want to stick to this decision, then you must accept that you're already going against your body's instincts. Nothing wrong with that, it's your choice, but don't expect those whom you are instinctively attracted to, to change. The truth is, that you are likely more attracted to potential mates who do not share your values in this matter. You may need to suspend some requirements you have regarding attraction.

 

[@naledi96]

They are really lukewarm Christians, i figured. Still want to conform to the standards of this world. I need someone who will be in this world, but not of this world. Who is willing to stand against what is considered "normal". I haven't met one like that yet.

 

[saor]

They are really lukewarm Christians, i figured. Still want to conform to the standards of this world. I need someone who will be in this world, but not of this world. Who is willing to stand against what is considered "normal". I haven't met one like that yet.

You probably need to meet them in the context of a church or similar gathering / community of people.

 

[backstreetboy]

They are really lukewarm Christians, i figured. Still want to conform to the standards of this world. I need someone who will be in this world, but not of this world. Who is willing to stand against what is considered "normal". I haven't met one like that yet.

What's your ASLR?

 

[Naks]

Have you also stopped eating bacon?

 

[Smugs]

Is it Friday yet..??

 

[LCBXX]

Because genitals control our actions.

I think you and the OP may have underlying issues regarding your sexuality that needs exploring through a session with a psychologist.

 

[pinball wizard]

For the vast majority of people, this will be too much...

You're not in some weird high-school Christian fantasy movie, sex is part of a balanced relationship and telling your potential partner that you won't have a balanced relationship until marriage will be a deal breaker.

By the same token, there are plenty of people of faith that aspire to and hold the same values close. The OP can find them. Churches/mosques/synagogues/etc are full of them.

 

[Spaffy]

Ja hy. I mean I also really like intimacy. I'm attractive with a great body (maybe 7/8 out of 10) and well educated. It's really easy for me to find guys who like me that i like back.

I sometimes get asked out by attractive and stable guys, and sometimes get to know them. But i normally bring up that topic right from the beginning so that the ground is solid and its usually a turn off. Which tends to lead me to thinking that maybe they are only physically attracted to me (lust) and are probably only after sex.

There is a possibility of having sex b4 marriage obviously, but i don't want someone who will want it on our 1st date or just after a few days or weeks. Let's wait it out a few months at least.

The facts that is. They are like that. Take them or leave them. I

Thank you. You actually get it hy. It actually is important to me and people can make you feel like a freak sometimes for knowing exactly what you want and standing up for it.

And about coming to the forum, you arw absolutely right. Thank you for the great advice.

This is a much more reasonable post.
Keeping yourself for marriage will likely not have a good outcome but I can understand the "not jumping into bed on the first date" part.

You need to be happy with what you want, and anyone else just needs to understand that.

 

[Rocket-Boy]

They are really lukewarm Christians, i figured. Still want to conform to the standards of this world. I need someone who will be in this world, but not of this world. Who is willing to stand against what is considered "normal". I haven't met one like that yet.

It sounds like you are in that delusional stage of Christianity, I would love to see how your views change over the years.
There were so many of them in my younger days, on fire and uncompromising, lived by bibles teachings entirely.
Not one of those people even goes to church anymore, because you grow up and realize that its a load of poop eventually.


"I need someone who will be in this world, but not of this world" Hahahaha!!! its been a while since I was in those circles, but its nice to see the same statements are still being regurgitated today.