Why is it so challenging to find someone who is willing to commit to Christian dating?

[pinball wizard]

I think you and the OP may have underlying issues regarding your sexuality that needs exploring through a session with a psychologist.

Why? There's nothing inherently wrong with, say for example, using a set of predefined rules to use as a framework for your own personal moral code, is there?
Some people use a specific religion, some use Freud. It's the same thing at the end of the day. Why bemoan the OP's choices? They're not hurting themselves or anyone else as far as I can make out, are they?

 

[azbob]

You know need to grow up, not just growing older every year. Okay? Will do you some good.

This is why you're single. Looks can only get you so far.

 

[LCBXX]

Why? There's nothing inherently wrong with, say for example, using a set of predefined rules to use as a framework for your own personal moral code, is there?
Some people use a specific religion, some use Freud. It's the same thing at the end of the day. Why bemoan the OP's choices? They're not hurting themselves or anyone else as far as I can make out, are they?

All I suggested was that they go and speak to a professional about their sexual issues. It can only do them good.

 

[pinball wizard]

All I suggested was that they go and speak to a professional about their sexual issues. It can only do them good.

It's disingenuous to say that they have sexual issues in the first place.

 

[S.Claus]

This is why you're single. Looks can only get you so far.

Aren’t you also in the single boat ?

 

[rh1]

Yes. You are getting it right. It is called renewal. I am renewed. Old me gone, new me here. Take it or leave it.

So there is no problem, as they are leaving it.

 

[azbob]

Aren’t you also in the single boat ?

My looks only get me so far.

 

[ToxicBunny]

By the same token, there are plenty of people of faith that aspire to and hold the same values close. The OP can find them. Churches/mosques/synagogues/etc are full of them.

Fair point on that one.

Its about finding the venue where people with the same values will congregate I suppose.

Though my experience with many "church" going people is that its lip service at best... take them out of the church setting and those values go by the wayside very very quickly.

 

[grok]

Maybe they're scared christian daters will demand abstinence from alcohol too..

 

[saor]

There is a possibility of having sex b4 marriage obviously, but i don't want someone who will want it on our 1st date or just after a few days or weeks. Let's wait it out a few months at least.

Reading this again - it doesn't actually sound like you know what you want or how committed you are to not having sex before marriage. Either drop the religious excuse and just say you'd prefer to take it slow before sex, or stick to what you believe is true and and wait until marriage. Right now you're expecting a guy to adhere to something you want when you can't even decide to adhere to what Christianity wants. Guys are just mirroring your own lack of commitment ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.

 

[Cius]

We have all heard that sex before marriage is a sin but too few people compared to the world's population get married virgins.

I am 25yrs old and not a virgin. For the past two years, I've been learning new things about my Christianity that I did not know or that I was not entirely really taught while growing up and I have made decisions based on those things.

One of those decisions is to not have sex again until I get married. Which is fairly easy as I don't really have that much experience with the other gender. I've only tried dating twice in these two years and both were turned-off by the fact that I want to avoid sex...until marriage most preferably. But even Christian guys seem to think I'm chasing pavements.

Is this really too much to ask for?

Congrats on making that choice. Both me and my wife of 15 years made the same choice and where still virgins when we got married. I am grateful we stuck to that decision as it was important to us despite it being difficult as we did love each other a lot and want to move on to that stage of our relationship. I know that is becoming more and more rare in the modern world but the laws of God have not changed even if men have so stick to it if you can. As to where to find men who stick to that preferably date people who have similar beliefs to you. Certainly in my church abstinence is expected and the norm for most active members of our church although obviously some do make other choices.

 

[JohnStarr]

Antiquated fairy tale practice. Life is short, protect yourself and have fun.

The OP never came here to be mocked...why be that person on a forum if you're that person in real life?

 

[@naledi96]

Have you also stopped eating bacon?

I'm allergic to pork. Never ate it from childhood.

 

[rh1]

Ja hy. I mean I also really like intimacy. I'm attractive with a great body (maybe 7/8 out of 10) and well educated. It's really easy for me to find guys who like me that i like back.

I suggest you watch Kevin Samuels videos on Youtube. From watching his videos, I have realised that alot of woman has an over inflated rating of their own attractiveness. Maybe, you are accurate. I dont know, nor do I care.

In some of videos, he does explore this topic where woman renew themselves and complain that men are not interested.

Warning though, there is a lot hurt, angry men on his platform.

 

[Jakkels1991]

are you still allowed to flick the bean?

 

[ToxicBunny]

Reading this again - it doesn't actually sound like you know what you want or how committed you are to not having sex before marriage. Either drop the religious excuse and just say you'd prefer to take it slow before sex, or stick to what you believe is true and and wait until marriage. Right now you're expecting a guy to adhere to something you want when you can't even decide to adhere to what Christianity wants. Guys are just mirroring your own lack of commitment ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.

Yeah I would totally agree with this.

The religious angle is more an excuse at this point and it will drive people away when a response of "I don't want to jump in the sack quickly" is a way more reasonable one and one that the vast majority of guys will be ok with.

 

[FrankCastle]

I think you and the OP may have underlying issues regarding your sexuality that needs exploring through a session with a psychologist.

I think she thinks with her d*ck.

 

[deweyzeph]

I know that is becoming more and more rare in the modern world but the laws of God have not changed even if men have so stick to it if you can.

The laws of god were written by men who wanted to control other men (and women).

 

[copacetic]

Well, if you're that serious about sex & Christianity then maybe this is a good way to find a partner who's as serious about it as you - if they're not willing to commit to a sex-free dating life then you can ghost that lukewarm mofo stat and find a real WWJD kinda guy.

Jesus just wants to get nailed.

 

[@naledi96]

Reading this again - it doesn't actually sound like you know what you want or how committed you are to not having sex before marriage. Either drop the religious excuse and just say you'd prefer to take it slow before sex, or stick to what you believe is true and and wait until marriage. Right now you're expecting a guy to adhere to something you want when you can't even decide to adhere to what Christianity wants. Guys are just mirroring your own lack of commitment ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.

I believe you read my statement in it's entirety. And my original post. What i mean by that is when you are dating there are often temptations (as with all human beings), and often I've seen people who started off okay but ended up having sex.
What I mean is i want somebody who will understand that i want to have sex after marriage. Even if, for example, 2yrs after dating there's a slip-up and we have sex, that should be exactly that: a slip-up. Not coming with sole intentions of dating for pleasure.
By "possibility of having sex obviously " means its a man and a woman claiming to be in love. Its only possible that sex can occur during that relationship. I hope you get me this time.