So men can't control themselves?Disclaimer: OP is not gonna like this but keep in mind that it is not meant to cause offense.
The funny thing is that woman because they (typically) don't automatically buildup sex urge the way men do just don't understand male difficulties.
It is LITERALLY impossible for most men to stay chaste as well as romantically interested in a woman for a long period of time...... every thought about nvm touch from this woman is enough to increase the pressure beyond unbearable..... some kind of release really is necessary.
This is why "dating" in the modern sense is unfeasible for someone that believes in no sex outside of marriage. It is also why courtships were such formal affairs in the past where a certain physical as well as emotional distance was kept while both the participants as well as the chaperones/guardians assessed compatibility.
The ONLY way to do long term dating before marriage is to add in some kind of unchastity.
So basically OP has one choice, prayer and finding the right guy to take the gamble on...... with a short courtship instead of dating. If you don't think he's the guy for you within a few months dump him and move on, if you think he is take the gamble and marry him..... either way find a way to make up your damn mind faster than you used to.
Also, if any guy is willing to compromise with adultery (which is ANY sex outside of marriage including premarital) then he is already displaying that he is neither serious about you nor Christianity.
The problem here is OP needs to look the world firmly in the eye for what it is rather than what she want's it to be and change her behavior accordingly. She is 25 not 15, if she want's to be a woman she must stop acting like a girl and demanding change from others as if she is entitled to it.
And as others have untactfully mentioned.... if a certain kind of man does not want to check the boxes you want him to.... change the kind of man you are going after.
This is quite a narrow minded view.