Women complaining about working late

[akescpt]

I get flexi for my overtime. but it doesn't make up for the missed time with baba. so when this submission is done its back to normal hours. need to get my kid his own pc. then I can work from home. wife is gatvol. I wouldn't be working it if it wasn't necessary. fsuck dat.

I usually leave work early then when things quieten down at home I work a coupla of hours. best of both worlds.

 

[Pho3nix]

My SO on the other hand has now become the one who works sometimes up to 16hrs every day. He commutes between UK & NL in 3 week cycles (2 weeks NL, 1 week UK) and works from home when he is here in NL. The problem with that is there is zero separation of home life & work time - there is no symbolic 'leaving the office' to signify the end of the work day and the start of personal time. If it was occasional long hours for particular projects etc it would be fine, but it becomes detrimental to our home when one of us is constantly in work mode (weekends too). Its also difficult when both people are working full time but only 1 person is working full time PLUS transporting children, doing the groceries, cooking the meals, laundry, cleaning etc. The whole 'I'm working' thing becomes a bit stale after a while. Even more challenging is when you have small kids in the house who need (and deserve) the attention of their parents - especially since they only get time with us for a few hours every day.

Ask him to prepare for work as if he was going out. Have a work area and work from there. When he leaves, said area. Work day is over. Laptop off, vetting of phone calls etc. You need that separation of work/home area IMO.

 

[Replay]

Is your employer going to be loyal to you? In hard times are they going to keep employing you no matter what?

Depends entirely on the employer. Having said that, I get what you're saying and unfortunately companies tend to squeeze the most blood out of you for the least amount of investment from their side. The other side of the coin....is how important is this job for you? Are you confident that you'll find something similar or better when all goes to shyte?
Also when the time arrives for appraisals.....those getting the short end of the stick tend to be those more vocal in complaints....and also the ones putting in the minimum required effort...

 

[Space_Chief]

Sometimes a guy will explain to his SO....Sweetness, we are currently working on a very important project for client so and so...it will require me to work late most of the time for the next 2 weeks so please bare with me...I will make it up to you.

So you have to make it up to her because the make up sex is so bad?

It's "bear with me".

 

[mooks]

Ask him to prepare for work as if he was going out. Have a work area and work from there. When he leaves, said area. Work day is over. Laptop off, vetting of phone calls etc. You need that separation of work/home area IMO.

Totally agree. In fact, we're making a trip to Ikea this weekend to get a proper desk/chair for the office. When we first moved in we put in a table and chair that we already had just as a temp measure. We haven't gotten around to changing it so he has slowly drifted into the lounge more and more. It's understandable really and I do sympathise with his position (he has a pretty high intensity job), so we're just going to put other mechanisms in place to find a halfway mark between both our 'wants'. It can work, it's just frustrating at times and it feels weird to miss someone who is sitting right next to you

 

[techead]

men often use it as an excuse.

"honey Im working late"

/drives to teazers
/goes drinking with pals
/meets up with co-worker

etc etc.

When the woman complains that "you working late" what she is really saying is that "you dont spend enough time with me"

 

[BobsLawnService]

I know someone who started telecommuting from home and he said the only way it worked was to have an office which was "work".

When he was in there he closed the door and it was his office. He didn't allow himself to take work out of that one room.

 

[Chevron]

When the woman complains that "you working late" what she is really saying is that "you dont spend enough time with me"

Someone who gets it.

 

[OrbitalDawn]

I know someone who started telecommuting from home and he said the only way it worked was to have an office which was "work".

When he was in there he closed the door and it was his office. He didn't allow himself to take work out of that one room.

I can imagine that's all that really works. When I'm at home I really don't want to do work there, too.

 

[techead]

Someone who gets it.

it's not rocket science

probably explains why I have a really happy wife, and a happy marriage without the expense of my own happiness and flexibility to still enjoy my own things.

 

[semaphore]

I used to work overtime, SO understood. But now i refuse to work past 16:30.

 

[satanboy]

...He made his way into middle management, as most do, with seniority, ...

Gee what company still operates in this manner?

 

[kianm]

Guys do better with alone time so that's why you hardly see it the other way around.

Yes yes yes, you nailed it!

 

[semaphore]

Thankfully my SO has had insane long nights of studying, while i was working. So it played out well in my situation, but I've seen some woman get so angry about it they threaten to divorce or leave their partners. If the person is really working late, call her from the office periodically just to see how shes doing, some women are clingy.

 

[Feodora]

my 2c comment

women fight because at times they just want the love and attention, I mean you can work late but when you come home spend your time with her....sms / call her when working late so she can feel that love

some women can be clingy and no matter what you do it will never be good enough

 

[KleinBoontjie]

Wish my wife wants to work late

 

[noxibox]

Gee what company still operates in this manner?

Almost any big company.

 

[techead]

Wish my wife wants to work late

eish, happily married then...