Would you inform a friend if their partner is/was adulterous?

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

Stemming from the "Wife Cheated" threads...

This is hypothetical. Would you inform a person who you regard as a friend if their spouse is having and affair or had cheated?

Some people are afraid that they'll jeoperdise the couple's relationship.

Not long ago I saw a friend of mine walking hand-in-hand with someone who was not his wife. The risk is always there that the person being cheated on might not believe you. Or they might forgive their partner and you would have ruined your friendship. If I had his wife's number, I would have told her, but I didn't. So just left it at that.

What's the consensus here?

 

[Willie Trombone]

Not sure, but I would tell my friends when their grammar and spelling is atrocious.

is having and affair

afraid that they'll jeoperdise

Or is that... friends don't let friends type drunk

 

[Pineapple Smurf]

Mind your own ****ing business !!!!!

 

[Craig_]

Difficult one, told a friend years ago his girl is cheating on him, he went straight to her saying I said so. Of course she denied it and they were both upset with me. Until a few months later when he caught her in the act.

 

[Pineapple Smurf]

Not sure, but I would tell my friends when their grammar and spelling is atrocious.




Or is that... friends don't let friends type drunk

You can tell the bottle stores have re-opened @I.am.Sam
We gonna get a new thread everyday

 

[RanzB]

This is hypothetical. Would you inform a person who you regard as a friend if their spouse is having and affair or had cheated?

Not long ago I saw a friend of mine walking hand-in-hand with someone who was not his wife. The risk is always there that the person being cheated on might not believe you. Or they might forgive their partner and you would have ruined your friendship. If I had his wife's number, I would have told her, but I didn't. So just left it at that.

These are different scenarios though.

 

[Craig_]

You can tell the bottle stores have re-opened @I.am.Sam
We gonna get a new thread everyday

This is actually an interesting one. Much better than his "how to fck a lion" type threads.

 

[Neuk_]

A friend had this conversation with me, he didn't see anything concrete but he thought my now ex-wife was way too casual at times with other men, it turned out he was right. I'd like to say I would do the same for my friends, although how I would approach the subject I have no idea.

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

Not sure, but I would tell my friends when their grammar and spelling is atrocious.




Or is that... friends don't let friends type drunk

What's wrong with typing in British-English?

"And" was obviously a typo

 

[R13...]

Or they might forgive their partner and you would have ruined your friendship.

That is the problem. Sometimes people would rather not believe and yes they do forgive each other and you're left holding the bag.

So rather stay out of it. If the partner comes crying to you just sympathise and act surpised.

 

[Pineapple Smurf]

This is why I never got married.
You okes can keep your cheating whores

 

[Polymathic]

I'll give him enough info for him to connect the dots himself

 

[gbyleveldt]

If it was my friend cheating, I'd keep quiet. If it was my friend's wife, I'd tell him. Yes, I know I'm being a hypocrite. Bro's before Hoe's

 

[TofuMofu]

Yes because I would want them to tell me. And lying to them could cause issues later if it comes out.

 

[Akasha]

A few years ago I was visiting a friend and her husband tried his luck with me when we were all very drunk/high. I just pretended I was asleep and he eventually gave up. I never told her about it, I still feel bad, but they've been married for like 10 years now and I don't want to cause trouble from one drunken night.

 

[Smokey mcpot]

If it was my friend cheating, I'd keep quiet. If it was my friend's wife, I'd tell him. Yes, I know I'm being a hypocrite. Bro's before Hoe's

My type of friend!

 

[pinball wizard]

This is hypothetical. Would you inform a person who you regard as a friend if their spouse is having and affair or had cheated?

Hell yes.

I would want the friend to tell me if it was the other way.

 

[bro-da]

Difficult one, told a friend years ago his girl is cheating on him, he went straight to her saying I said so. Of course she denied it and they were both upset with me.

came here to say I would tell him only if I had proof. getting into a game of he said/she said is a sure fire way to kill the friendship.

no proof.... mind my own business

 

[Matt91]

I'd stay out of it. Not my clown, not my circus.

 

[OCP]

It would depend on each situation.

I had an ex-girlfriends best friend offering to be a friend with benefits. Never told my girlfriend as it would have resulted in lots of drama but avoided her friend like the plague thereafter.
If i found out the partner of one of my best friends (male or female) was cheating on them I would likely tell them as I know I would want them (and they most certainly would) to tell me.
Anyone else - i'll keep my nose out of their business!