Aasvoël
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I want to put this one out to a wider audience and get some opinions.
Started dating someone, she mentions a couple of times that her friends are males and that at some point they had feelings for her/met some of them with the initial intention of dating but always comes of a bit cagey. Not wanting to rock the boat I listen and say sure I trust her.
Not long after she makes plans with one of these friends and includes me after the fact. What ensues is probably the most awkward couple hours I've spend with people since high school, I leave at the earliest convenient time.
The friend is clearly still in love with her. Later on arguments ensue (lost my composure), she says I have to make peace with the fact that she has friends some of who might or might not be in love with her and I need to trust her. She never outright want to state that yes the friend still has feeling for her and also in her view we are not dating, IDK what you call getting to know someone with the intentions of becoming romantically involved, even deleting the dating apps we met on... Sure we were not a couple but I think the intentions are clear.
How would you read this situation and then approach it?
I got upset and told her I don't want to see her again (Not in such a nice way to my fault)
Started dating someone, she mentions a couple of times that her friends are males and that at some point they had feelings for her/met some of them with the initial intention of dating but always comes of a bit cagey. Not wanting to rock the boat I listen and say sure I trust her.
Not long after she makes plans with one of these friends and includes me after the fact. What ensues is probably the most awkward couple hours I've spend with people since high school, I leave at the earliest convenient time.
The friend is clearly still in love with her. Later on arguments ensue (lost my composure), she says I have to make peace with the fact that she has friends some of who might or might not be in love with her and I need to trust her. She never outright want to state that yes the friend still has feeling for her and also in her view we are not dating, IDK what you call getting to know someone with the intentions of becoming romantically involved, even deleting the dating apps we met on... Sure we were not a couple but I think the intentions are clear.
How would you read this situation and then approach it?
I got upset and told her I don't want to see her again (Not in such a nice way to my fault)
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