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Baby/toddler sleep training expert
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MartyMarts
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I didn't even know there are people that did that... Good luck with that.
There are - and weirder still, there are parents like me that will pay them
unfortunately I only know of 1 lady in CTwrathex
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I don't understand this. A mother is responsible for taking care of her baby and settling the baby into a routine, I wonder what is being done wrong ?
Other Pineapple Smurf
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WTF!
My third one is on her way next month and this is sad. You do not sleep train your little one with a 3rd party. They sleep when they want to, the only thing to learn is how as a parent to sleep. Take turns, sleep in different rooms, take a week off from work , etc.
If you really have to, then read Sleep Sense: http://www.babysense.co.za/shop/sleep-sense.html
The author briefed us at prenatal a few years back and it works.
My third one is on her way next month and this is sad. You do not sleep train your little one with a 3rd party. They sleep when they want to, the only thing to learn is how as a parent to sleep. Take turns, sleep in different rooms, take a week off from work , etc.
If you really have to, then read Sleep Sense: http://www.babysense.co.za/shop/sleep-sense.html
The author briefed us at prenatal a few years back and it works.
Other Pineapple Smurf
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Sorry, but both parents are responsible here. Its impossible for the mother to be mental sane with only a few short naps for weeks on end.
wrathex
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At a population of around 7 billion currently, how many mothers went insane from taking care of their babies?
Mothers are the primary caretakers of a baby - moms have the milk, the right scent and the right tone of voice, once the baby is a little older, the dad plays a more involved role, of course you're right , dads are part of the equation and must be involved.
Millions of mothers have given birth and taken care of the babies, without maids, instant formula, panado syrup or disposable nappies.
This is going off topic (with some comments like wrathex just simply ignorant...anyway I dont want to get on a rant here). I know all you fancy yourselfs to be experts on this, but I wasnt aksing for advice from the forum; just a name and number.
wrathex
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How is my asking 'what is wrong ?' being ignorant ? If the child has an illness or some other medical condition, then say so. I found your post interesting, it is highly unusual.
Anony-mousse
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I thought those things sleep by themselves
Anony-mousse
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http://tinyurl.com/2butww2
Why don't you just do a bit of research and do it yourself? I really find it a bit weird that people need someone to get their baby to sleep and I don't think he or she wants anyone else so close but his or her parents. And if you can't make your baby sleep then go to a doctor because then there is something wrong.
Or get this if you really need help but check out the comments before you order, lol
http://www.coolest-gadgets.com/2009...trainer-teaches-your-baby-to-sleep-all-night/
Why don't you just do a bit of research and do it yourself? I really find it a bit weird that people need someone to get their baby to sleep and I don't think he or she wants anyone else so close but his or her parents. And if you can't make your baby sleep then go to a doctor because then there is something wrong.
Or get this if you really need help but check out the comments before you order, lol
http://www.coolest-gadgets.com/2009...trainer-teaches-your-baby-to-sleep-all-night/
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cerebus
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My wife was looking at going into sleep training at one time - it wasn't really all that feasible for her though. She's quite experienced and gifted with that sort of thing - both of our boys slept through from 4 or 5 weeks old with no problems - no crying, hardly even any real 'training' involved.
I can ask her if she knows of any experts in the jhb area. And my advice - if the trainer comes over, you must endeavour to submit to their instruction, even if you find it hard to allow your baby to cry or whatever they feel is needed. They will have to inculcate a new discipline into the child's regime, which you might not like. Of course it's up to you - but the chances are if it's gotten to the point where you need a trainer, you're quite at the end of your wits.
I can ask her if she knows of any experts in the jhb area. And my advice - if the trainer comes over, you must endeavour to submit to their instruction, even if you find it hard to allow your baby to cry or whatever they feel is needed. They will have to inculcate a new discipline into the child's regime, which you might not like. Of course it's up to you - but the chances are if it's gotten to the point where you need a trainer, you're quite at the end of your wits.
People get desperate and I can understand that. But babies do their own thing and sometimes there really is nothing you can do. Some babies fall into a sleep routine and sleep through the night with no effort, others do it, then switch to not sleeping and back again. And it has absolutely nothing to do with any actions by the parents.
cerebus
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That's not really true noxibox. There is a LOT a parent can do to instill good sleeping routines in their baby, and more importantly a lot they can do to damage the development of proper sleeping.
Other Pineapple Smurf
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Oh please, that is the lame post that justifies guys from not being real men. Mothers have a very important role, but men need to stand by and help and avoid responsibilities. Being a parent is no different today than what it was in my grandparents time.
The Baby Sense book is also great.
wrathex
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Don't climb on your rocking horse, I was referring to the first 6 months of a baby.
Its more the parents that need the training than the little one.
Often you find that the parents have instilled bad habits into their children by not having a fixed bed time or allowing their children to sleep in their bed/room. When this has been going on for a year or two breaking those habits are heart wrenching and sometimes easier with the help of a third party.
Not because the third party is an expert or anything but because it adds a new dimension to the bed time routine, and makes it easier for the child to accept new things.
When our daughter was about two and a half , some moron child at her school told her that monsters lived in her room and that they would come out in the dark. This was a major setback for her, she went from going to bed easily and happy one day to hysterical the next. It took us a couple of months of allowing her to sleep in the camp cot in our room before we managed to break that fear and would go to sleep without crying.
Then when the fear was gone it was just nicer for her to sleep in our room than her own. So a new problem born of the old. No matter how hard we tried we could not get her to sleep in her own room again. Somewhere we read (or where told I can't remember now) that we need to add a new dimension to the situation. We thought about getting a 3rd party involved but in the end we went away for a week, and when we got back we just put her in her own bed like normal. She was so happy to be home she went straight to bed no problem. The next night she asked where the camp cot was and we told her it was broken (it actually was,the foot broke while we where away) and then she went to bed again no problem.
wrathex
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That happened to my daughter too, I was furious. I had gone out of my way not to read or tell my children horror stories, and then some other child did.(this other child was brought up and disciplined with parents who blackmailed with a boogieman)