Need some advice on meeting chicks in Bars

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Hi Guys


So I've been going to this bar close to my house that has bands over weekends and there is some really hot chicks that hang out there.

Now when the bands are playing and we're all dancing in front I can attract quite a few chicks by jumping around and having fun. So they always come and bump into me and then dance next to me for a while.

What kind of conversation or playful activity can I strike up that will be engaging and give me an opportunity to get to know them.

I've tried stuff like "The bands very cool" but I can't get it to move to a more engaging conversation. Also stuff like "Where are you from?" or "Do you come here often?" doesn't really work in this scenario.

Any ideas?:confused:
 
"Does this smell like chloroform to you" always works for me...

Or go to billy the bums and say "your place or mine?"
 
TheGuy said:
....... jumping around .........
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Herein lies the problem, that conjures images of Mr Bean to me... Learn to dance properly, you will evolve into a chick magnet. If a chick is interested, little dialogue is required, especially in a place that has loads of jumping around :D
 
Lycanthrope said:
Meeting chicks at a bar. Suave, real suave :p
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Unfortunately I'm not involved in the Church and I've had bad experiences with chicks at work so it's the only place for now.

xeslaro said:
Herein lies the problem, that conjures images of Mr Bean to me... Learn to dance properly, you will evolve into a chick magnet. If a chick is interested, little dialogue is required, especially in a place that has loads of jumping around :D
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I can dance was just trying to be modest, I took Salsa lesson for quite some time. The chick will come bump into me and come dance next to me for a bit and if I don't do anything she will leave. I've tried dancing with them but that very rarely works very well.
 
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TheGuy said:
Unfortunately I'm not involved in the Church and I've had bad experiences with chicks at work so it's the only place for now.



I can dance was just trying to be modest, I took Salsa lesson for quite some time. The chick will come bump into me and come dance next to me for a bit and if I don't do anything she will leave. I've tried dancing with them but that very rarely works very well.
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Ok, so you can dance, there's my theory out the window. Sure you ain't in a lesbian bar? :D
 
Can you even hear each other over the live band?
 
How about an old-fashioned "Hi, I'm <name>" <handshake>? After that you can make small talk and offer to buy her a drink etc.

Think about it - offering to buy a girl a drink straight up reflects badly in two ways. Firstly you're buying a drink for some broad whose name you don't even have (you fail to yourself), and secondly she'll think "he doesn't even know my name and he wants to buy me a drink. I wonder what he's after :rolleyes:" (you fail to her).

You just need something to break the ice, and more often than not pick-up lines won't work.
 
Dolby said:
Can you even hear each other over the live band?
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Yeah you can.

Mike Hoxbig said:
How about an old-fashioned "Hi, I'm <name>" <handshake>? After that you can make small talk and offer to buy her a drink etc.

Think about it - offering to buy a girl a drink straight up reflects badly in two ways. Firstly you're buying a drink for some broad whose name you don't even have (you fail to yourself), and secondly she'll think "he doesn't even know my name and he wants to buy me a drink. I wonder what he's after :rolleyes:" (you fail to her).

You just need something to break the ice, and more often than not pick-up lines won't work.
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The energy is very high in dance situations and small talk usually puts a damper on things. that's why I'm looking for some sort of game/fun thing to do just to break the ice then I can make small talk later on when I see her around the club.

murraybiscuit said:
didn't you get any results from salsa dance classes?
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I did hook up with the only chick my age but she wanted to get serious to quickly so it didn't work out. It's mostly couples and mature ladies that go to Dance classes.
 
Doesn't change anything - just start with names to break the ice. You can make small talk when things calm down later on. It's less imposing than some pick-up line, and you running off to buy a drink is going to put a damper on things for you anyway.

Remember that women (especially in SA) in clubs and bars always have their guards up because they expect to be hit on. Give her a chance to be somewhat comfortable with you first.
 
TheGuy said:
I did hook up with the only chick my age but she wanted to get serious to quickly so it didn't work out. It's mostly couples and mature ladies that go to Dance classes.
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i take it you're not into wobbly threesomes?
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
Doesn't change anything - just start with names to break the ice. You can make small talk when things calm down later on. It's less imposing than some pick-up line, and you running off to buy a drink is going to put a damper on things for you anyway.

Remember that women (especially in SA) in clubs and bars always have their guards up because they expect to be hit on. Give her a chance to be somewhat comfortable with you first.
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You right I'll give it a try this week when I go there and report back. My whole idea is to not try and pick up any of them just make friends with a whole bunch for now.

So best advice would be just to go "Hello what is your name?" and then respond with mine?
 
wouldn't it be easier if you took an ugly buddy with?
surely it's less intimidating when there's a group of girls, a group of guys and it doesn't look like you're hunting, more like you're just having fun with buds and happen to bump into somebody coincidentally?
 
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