2012 becoming to long

tcofran

tcofran

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G'day,

So 2012 is really turning into a f-up. First the wife gets diagnosed with breast cancer. Mastectomy and chemo therapy was a bitch...... Having first op on the 1st of November. Then reconstruction starts a week later. Fine dealt with that. end is in sight .. (getting two new playthings according to her :p)

little one is turning two in November and is a bit difficult at the moment.

Buried three close friends and my best friends father also this year. Bummer.

Two weeks ago my bestest friend of the past 20 years (female) wakes up with gun to the head, they steal car, tv cell etc etc. Car gets recovered next day. Last saturday she's on her way to the mall to go ang get new bank cards etc etc. Nine o'clock the morning she loses control of the car. Complete wreck, and when the paramedics eventually remove her, brain dead. Died saturday afternoon at 2. Leaves behind two kids.

Now getting to my point...... Her death was like that final straw. I was driving home yesterday afternoon, when all of a sudden i just could not drive anymore..... was getting totally paralysed. HAd to pull over and wait like half an hour to before i had the guts to drive further... had to park in fornt of the building this morning as i felt like i could not make the walk to work,.

I have to carry the coffin tomorrow at the funeral and i dont think i can do it.. Would a Dr. be able to give me a once off pill or something just to make it through tomorrow..... Been drinking a lot the since saturday too.....

Thoughts /
 
Yes he probably would, but you might actually need to see someone over it, you've had a lot of blows and you probably need to see someone to work through it all. Don't let it fester otherwise you will fall further and faster into depression.
 
Sjoe, and I thought I was having a bad year. Go see your GP and see a trauma counsellor too. All the best!
 
My deepest condolences man. I would really recommend going to see a clinical social worker that specializes in trauma and mourning. They will truly make a difference and help you get through this tough time
 
Lupus said:
Yes he probably would, but you might actually need to see someone over it, you've had a lot of blows and you probably need to see someone to work through it all. Don't let it fester otherwise you will fall further and faster into depression.
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Been dealing with issues as well. Best is to see a GP and go for therapy/counselling.

Sounds like you've had a pannick attack. Treatment is readily available.
It's your body's way of telling you things are getting too much to handle without help.

If you go to church, speak to your pastor. It helps.

Hope all goes well.
 
shinji said:
+1

Been dealing with issues as well. Best is to see a GP and go for therapy/counselling.

Sounds like you've had a pannick attack. Treatment is readily available.
It's your body's way of telling you things are getting too much to handle without help.

If you go to church, speak to your pastor. It helps.

Hope all goes well.
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Thanks guys / girls for all the suggestions. yip, definitely a panic attack. Will get some pills from GP and then organise a session with relevant professional next week.
 
Hi Tcofran

I have had a similarly crap year. I buried my best friend of 20 years after some drunk POS killed him in a car crash. It was a funeral I almost never attended because I was too cut up. It was also the 4th funeral in 10 months. I lost my cousin in December (car) last year, followed by a good friend (dvb) by the end of the month. Then another in January (suicide) followed by a friend's father in Feb (cancer). I was in a major state of despair when the last one died but I managed somehow to pull myself together - for all of 3 minutes of eulogy.

My sympathies are with you - be strong. Eventually, something good did come of the last one but that is for another topic altogether.
 
tcofran - does not look good at all, as indicated by other formites - get some help from GP and go and get some therapy. The body have to make us sometimes aware that we need ot go slower and give t some attention as well. As for your wife and kid - I hope all goes well on 1st of Nov and your little one will also need all the love and attention. Be strong for your friends kids tomorrow... Take care.
 
Will a pharmacist be able to give me something for tomorrow ? Once off, as i hate pills ....
 
have you got a family doctor you could chat to re tomorrow?
Major strongs moving forward!
 
Gosh, I'm so sorry for all the losses. Think I'm going to shut up for awhile about all the petty shyte I moan about. Life is not all the bad. Hope things improve and you have a somewhat uneventful few months ahead. Strongs for tomorrow and I've heard rescue remedy is wonderful stuff for taking the edge off.
 
I am so sorry for your losses and your wife. I am thinking of you and pray you have a brighter 2013. Rescue Remedy does help. You should be able to get that over the counter in a chemist. Best of luck for tomorrow
 
Carol35 said:
Gosh, I'm so sorry for all the losses. Think I'm going to shut up for awhile about all the petty shyte I moan about. Life is not all the bad. Hope things improve and you have a somewhat uneventful few months ahead. Strongs for tomorrow and I've heard rescue remedy is wonderful stuff for taking the edge off.
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The sun will shine again, this is just temporary...... thanks for the rescue remedy idea, got some happy pills for today ;)

Safferbeauty said:
I am so sorry for your losses and your wife. I am thinking of you and pray you have a brighter 2013. Rescue Remedy does help. You should be able to get that over the counter in a chemist. Best of luck for tomorrow
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thanks for the good wishes, and to all the others as well
 
I am sincerely sorry that you are going through such a difficult time...
 
That's pretty kak man, sorry. Although I share your sentiment, it's been a pretty f-ed up year. At least the world is gonna end in December so it's not much longer to wait :D
 
UPDATE:

So I've been put onto some happy pills, nothing to serious, but it does help. Survived the funeral etc etc

Tomorrow is the SO's big three operations for the breast reconstruction after the mastectomy. She had a vein tied down in her groin last Thursday, and it is quite painful. Tomorrow she gets : 1) Tummy tuck - whatever taken from there goes to the 2) reconstruction of the removed breast. And then 3) work on the other breast, so at least they will look the same ????. She is only 38. And very nervous.
 
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