A difficult question

[RiaX]

Ive initiated PEP many times for sexually assaulted, rape cases and injury in the medical profession. Now I'm curious, what would you do if you found out your spouse (husband/wife/bf/gf/fiance whatever) became HIV positive in a manner that is not their own fault? For example they were raped or poked with a needle or something like that.

Ive thought about this ever since I started practice and I haven't been able to come to a conclusion, so I direct the question to the forum.

What would you do if your SO became HIV positive ?

(perhaps this should be in PD - was not sure since it is a valid health issue as well)

 

[AstroTurf]

Would not change my life much except perhaps for condoms being a little more prevalent.
And in this day and age, If I catch it due to a tear in a dome or something I would not be all that stressed.

 

[RazedInBlack]

If its a girlfriend and depending how you really feel about her/him the decision would be easy.

If its your spouse, give them all the support you can but I guess your lifestyle has to change dramtically.

 

[Alan]

You gotta be a real selfish sick douchebag to dump your SO because he/she picked up HIV through no fault of their own.

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[The_Ogre]

Wouldn't affect me much, probably only the sexual side of things which would be made much safer.

I actually have a cousin who has HIV, and to me it doesn't make a difference that she has it. Still love her

 

[SauRoNZA]

It's hardly the life threatening and dramatic disease it used to be and hardly makes for much of a lifestyle change so it's really a non issue.

 

[AstroTurf]

I think the real issue would be wife’s trauma from contracting HIV.

Not many ways that could happen peacefully.

 

[Nocturnity]

It wouldn't change the way I feel about her, so why should it change the way I behave around her? I suppose you'd have to ask yourself if you care enough...

 

[mooks]

It wouldn't change the way I feel about her, so why should it change the way I behave around her? I suppose you'd have to ask yourself if you care enough...

What about if you had planned on starting a family? You now risk bringing an HIV+ child into the world. What if your wife says she doesn't want to have children anymore?

 

[buyeye]

What about if you had planned on starting a family? You now risk bringing an HIV+ child into the world. What if your wife says she doesn't want to have children anymore?

Adoption, IVF. You could still pass your DNA in a controlled fashion to protect you from the virus. It would cost some money but not much more that what a child costs.

 

[AstroTurf]

As said, there are ways and means.

I will certainly not let some disease rule my life. I would do my best to rule the disease.

 

[ShaunSA]

It's hardly the life threatening and dramatic disease it used to be and hardly makes for much of a lifestyle change so it's really a non issue.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[Nocturnity]

Sperm scrubbing and ARV's should sort out most risks when thinking about children. That said, I don't think I'll be having any children, so it wouldn't really matter to me.

 

[Beachless]

Sperm scrubbing and ARV's should sort out most risks when thinking about children. That said, I don't think I'll be having any children, so it wouldn't really matter to me.

There is also surrogacy.