A hiatus from my friends ... maybe?

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I have a great group of friends and we have a standing arrangement to meet every Thursday evening at somebody's place. This has been going on for about 2 years now. We are about equally guys and girls in our middle 20s.

The thing is we are all seeking a potential husband or wife. That's why we started this social group. But I don't really see anyone of my girl-friends as a potential wife. Except for one ... sort of. Actually she is stunning, but I think she's falling for another of my friends. My point is we see each other basically every week and since I don't feel I'm progressing towards a romantic relationship I have wondered whether I should maybe go on a hiatus for 2/3 weeks. Just so that they don't take my presence for granted every week. I have been getting the feeling that this is the case.

Make no mistake, I love them dearly like they are family. But I just want to break the pattern a bit. Will that be a wise thing?
 
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Wise to see if the one you are interested in misses you for those 2 or 3 weeks .... might prove something :D
 
Why would you want to take a break from your friends. You do only see them once a week.

Maybe changing the activities you up to? :rolleyes:
 
Picard said:
But this has been going on for the last 2 years. And we do see one another sometimes on other evenings. Thurdays is only the standing arrangement.
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Sorry to be so forward, but make the move already bro ;) :D :p Ask her out to dinner and tell her how you feel.
 
Still, you aren't seeing each other excessively so don't buck the trend now. Just change the night or what you do that one day a week. You might find they'll think it's strange you 'going away' like that and think you're sick of them :D
 
If she's interested in another friend and you hold these friends dear, I would leave it alone. Also, if there was a spark, it would have sparked by now.

If she has ANY clue how you feel, your 2 - 3 week absence from the normal get together's will seem desperate to get her attention. I would recommend sticking it out and see if there is any mutual feeling. If not after the next 2 - 3 get together's, I reckon forget it. No use flogging a dead horse...
 
I'll have to go and sleep on this matter. Thanks for everyone's input.

Goodnight.
 
teraside said:
Sorry to be so forward, but make the move already bro ;) :D :p Ask her out to dinner and tell her how you feel.
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Ask her out - you've got nothing to loose. She'll be flattered and if she says no you'll know where you stand.

2 things:
- DONT quote Star Trek when you ask her out.
- I reckon when you do and if she says yes make sure the date is on a Thursday so that you are BOTH absent from the friends dinner and it makes a statement.

On another note:
2 years of a standing arrangement with a group of friends is extremely unusual and probably very special. Not something I reckon you should be playing games with. So staying a away for two weeks for your own ego type reasons is maybe not a great idea.
 
Picard said:
I have a great group of friends and we have a standing arrangement to meet every Thursday evening at somebody's place. This has been going on for about 2 years now. We are about equally guys and girls in our middle 20s.

The thing is we are all seeking a potential husband or wife. That's why we started this social group. But I don't really see anyone of my girl-friends as a potential wife. Except for one ... sort of. Actually she is stunning, but I think she's falling for another of my friends. My point is we see each other basically every week and since I don't feel I'm progressing towards a romantic relationship I have wondered whether I should maybe go on a hiatus for 2/3 weeks. Just so that they don't take my presence for granted every week. I have been getting the feeling that this is the case.

Make no mistake, I love them dearly like they are family. But I just want to break the pattern a bit. Will that be a wise thing?
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Ok I'm confused. I can't see how meeting in the same social group on the same day every week for two years is going to find anyone a potential partner. If it was going to happen it would have happened already. Accept that you guys are just going to be friends and move on.

It would be fine to keep the social evening as you guys are still friends but you now need to socialise outside the group for potential partners.
 
ShaunSA said:
Ok I'm confused. I can't see how meeting in the same social group on the same day every week for two years is going to find anyone a potential partner. If it was going to happen it would have happened already. Accept that you guys are just going to be friends and move on.

It would be fine to keep the social evening as you guys are still friends but you now need to socialise outside the group for potential partners.
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This group isn't so static. We do get in new friends quite often. Sometimes it grows other times it shrinks. It's not as if I see only them, all the time. I do have other friends also outside of this group .... but that special someone just hasn't been among any of them.
 
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