Advice for newly weds

[hellfire]

Hi mybb's

Recently got married to my fiance of 8 years, we have been living together for 7 years and had a daughter of 5 years- yes i know, im a bit of a backwards man

Just wondering if anyone married has any sound advice for me?

Thanks!

What has actually changed (other than that you now have a certificate)?

 

[Nick333]

Bleh
How do you keep romance alive with a screaming newborn in the house??

Dip the little feckers dummies in brandy.

 

[Nick333]

best advice ever. Cooking seems to be the only thing that leads her to forgive me when I get home too late after a boys' night out

Learn to do the dishes after cooking.

 

[cerebus]

Learn to do the dishes after cooking.

Yup that too. It won't fly if you want to be a superstar in the kitchen and leave her with the mess.

 

[TEXTILE GUY]

Too late broo

This is whats going to happen .......

Wife will complain you leave the towel on the floor - so you start pickig it up
Wife will comlain about the toilet seat being up - so you put it down
Wife will complain about you leaving empty beer bottles at the braai - so you hrow the empties away
Wife will complain about a certain mate, so you stop inviting him to the house

Then, she will turn around one day and say YOU'VE CHANGED - you arent the man she married!!

 

[aigle2am]

Well done on getting married. I may not be married, but I have seen two things that can destroy a marriage:

- Lack of PROPER communication
- Lack of common interests/activities

*Never for get to let your wife know that you care for her and I mean by your actions.
*Be her friend, husband and lover all in one.
*Never discuss important issues outside the bedroom and close the door.
*Never use any child(ren) be used as a tool to pick a fight or get even.
*The bedroom is strictly off limits to anyone except your children unless its absolutely necessary.

Take my advise with pinch of salt, as I speak from observation but no experience.

 

[satanboy]

Hi mybb's

Recently got married to my fiance of 8 years, we have been living together for 7 years and had a daughter of 5 years- yes i know, im a bit of a backwards man

Just wondering if anyone married has any sound advice for me?

Thanks!

Don't get tempted.

 

[BlackMamba]

Don't cheat, its a killer proof of the relationship

 

[Lycanthrope]

Hi mybb's

Recently got married to my fiance of 8 years, we have been living together for 7 years and had a daughter of 5 years- yes i know, im a bit of a backwards man

Just wondering if anyone married has any sound advice for me?

Thanks!

My advice: relax.

She's essentially been your "common-law wife" since you guys moved in together.

Nothing will change except for a bit of pomp and ceremony and a piece of paper "officialising" your commitment to one another. The love and commitment was there long before.

But congratulations all the same

 

[Jase]

You're never ever ever right ... even when she is wrong.

 

[Spliffcat]

It just too late... Can't help now.

 

[desiganp]

OP are you bored? The topic is moot considering you have been living as husband and wife (and parents) for over half a decade. The only thing that's changed is you now have a certificate to show for it.

This is a bit like someone working as a senior programmer for years without a qualification, now asking for advice on programming after getting certified. :wtf:

 

[Kilgore_Trout_Redux]

Of course it is going to change. The biggest problem ia that women see marriage differently to men. If you have been living together you see it as being more of the same thing. Women are completely different - they see it has having caught you and getting that commitment means you can't just get up and leave. Expect more nagging, moaning and pointless little arguments over nothing. The little annoying things you do that she used to turn a blind eye to will suddenly become the end of the world.

Enjoy your new life.

 

[D3nz]

Of course it is going to change. The biggest problem ia that women see marriage differently to men. If you have been living together you see it as being more of the same thing. Women are completely different - they see it has having caught you and getting that commitment means you can't just get up and leave. Expect more nagging, moaning and pointless little arguments over nothing. The little annoying things you do that she used to turn a blind eye to will suddenly become the end of the world.

Enjoy your new life.

 

[Batista]

OP are you bored? The topic is moot considering you have been living as husband and wife (and parents) for over half a decade. The only thing that's changed is you now have a certificate to show for it.

This is a bit like someone working as a senior programmer for years without a qualification, now asking for advice on programming after getting certified. :wtf:

I was actually bored, end of year function was on Friday so didnt want to work

Of course it is going to change. The biggest problem ia that women see marriage differently to men. If you have been living together you see it as being more of the same thing. Women are completely different - they see it has having caught you and getting that commitment means you can't just get up and leave. Expect more nagging, moaning and pointless little arguments over nothing. The little annoying things you do that she used to turn a blind eye to will suddenly become the end of the world.

Enjoy your new life.

LOL thanks

Thanks to everyones responses in the thread.There are some golden suggestions here.I must admit, im not much of a romantic, so maybe i will try the little things and see how it goes.Nothing has changed in our relationship, although i do sense more appreciation both emotionally and physically!