Affectionate names

[Azbubu]

Yes I know i'm already known as the guy that starts frivolous threads, but this is important.

I've never really been able to call my partners by pet/affectionate names like baby, sweetie, honey, cupcake, other confectionery items etc. I just feel so dumb saying things like that. The only one i might use is "darling" perhaps.

Are other guys like that too? Do you do it and what do you call your partner and what does your partner call you?

 

[Ninja'd]

I work on a first name basis with everyone.

 

[porn$tar]

"hey you"

 

[Azbubu]

I work on a first name basis with everyone.

I feel odd calling someone that i'm involved with by their full first name, feels too formal. I usually make a nickname out of it but that's as far as I go.

 

[copacetic]

I work on a first name basis with everyone.

This, I'm even uncomfortable with adjustments to their proper names.

It's taken me over a decade to feel comfortable calling my friend 'Anthony', 'Ant'.

WTF is wrong with me. :erm:

 

[AvatarS]

I feel odd calling someone that i'm involved with by their full first name, feels too formal. I usually make a nickname out of it but that's as far as I go.

So your nickname is your 'affectionate' name for them...

 

[Azbubu]

So your nickname is your 'affectionate' name for them...

yes, essentially. I can't use the default affectionate names.

 

[copacetic]

yes, essentially. I can't use the default affectionate names.

Me neither, I'd feel like such an idiot if I did.

 

[Azbubu]

Me neither, I'd feel like such an idiot if I did.

sometimes, when nearing climax, you might hear yourself call her "baby" and hope she doesn't hear it

 

[copacetic]

sometimes, when nearing climax, you might hear yourself call her "baby"

Oh god, no. I'd imagine myself in a porn movie immediately and burst out laughing if I did that.

 

[Azbubu]

Oh god, no. I'd imagine myself in a porn movie immediately and burst out laughing if I did that.

Reminds me of a porn clip that I once saw where you'd swear the man and woman's roles were reversed. He was just so vocal.

Slightly OT, but should men make sounds during sex? I mean some grunting and groaning is okay I suppose but actual words???

 

[Snormossel]

Well I'm Afrikaans and the SO is English. I call her Liefie and vice versa. Don't like darling, babe, sweety.

I tried calling her "bok drolletjie" but it does not have the same "oomph" that it has got in English than Afrikaans. Some words just not sound right when translating them.

 

[I.am.Sam]

they generally dont last long for me to remember any name

 

[porn$tar]

Slightly OT, but should men make sounds during sex? I mean some grunting and groaning is okay I suppose but actual words???

I'd speak Klingon if she asked me to.

 

[Azbubu]

Well I'm Afrikaans and the SO is English. I call her Liefie and vice versa. Don't like darling, babe, sweety.

I tried calling her "bok drolletjie" but it does not have the same "oomph" that it has got in English than Afrikaans. Some words just not sound right when translating them.

WTF? Buck feces?

Whenever I hear afrikaans people calling each other "skat" I think of scat! What's the obsession with Afrikaans people calling their loved ones feces??

 

[Snormossel]

WTF? Buck feces?

Ha ha ha

That's why I say it can't be translated, it sounds much worse in English than Afrikaans and yes that was the same reaction I got from her.

Afrikaans people will understand.

 

[USZA]

I don't mind food names like cupcake, but rather a cupcake than a tart

 

[DigitalSoldier]

Liefie, liefling, lovey or engel. some of the ones we use

I have never used the term baby. It sounds common to me.

 

[AvatarS]

yes, essentially. I can't use the default affectionate names.

I don't see why those are the accepted affectionate names, or why you think it's expected to use one of those.

Me neither, I'd feel like such an idiot if I did.

Me too. It just sounds so... false. Like you're pretending to be a couple on a sitcom.

 

[Azbubu]

I don't see why those are the accepted affectionate names, or why you think it's expected to use one of those.

Because those are the most common ones? Anyway they were just examples.