Alone

Im not the athletic type. Just feel so far removed from family friends
 
Man does nothing and is out of ideas. If you don't put yourself out there, no one is going to come knocking on your door and inviting you out.

Like Sideshow Bob says, if its really that bad of an issue, do something and join a community of something you enjoy!
 
Yes, this happens quite often. Typically, someone might suggest, "Go for a run, take a walk, or visit the beach." However, when you're in that frame of mind, it's not always easy to take that advice.

One potentially helpful approach is to join a social club, such as the Lions or Rotary. By doing this, you'll have the opportunity to meet new people, possibly make friends, and experience the benefits of serotonin from helping out around the community.
 
Get outside after work, go for a walk around the neighbourhood 4km is enough, if you are lucky there'll be a park nearby that you can make part of the route. It gets your senses reset because it’s nice being outside/exercising and it's South Africa so you have to stay aware of criminals and on your toes, so it becomes an adventure and that's what life is all about...
 
lancon said:
Im not the athletic type. Just feel so far removed from family friends
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Look. Everyone feels lonely, one time or other - that is how life is. At one time, my nearest family was 8000km + away from me and I lived alone for 6 years like that. I won't say I had many friends but activities like kayaking and gym helped me interact with people. '

This will pass. You just need to go out and connect to people. Easier said than done of course.
 
OP your profile says you're in Cape Town. Go for a hike, go hike up Lions head this evening, or Jonkershoek or something similar. Go walk on the beach or promenade. I've done those solo plenty of times.

Cape Town is a city where you can stay preoccupied by yourself a lot easier than the landlocked cities like Joburg.

Join a running club, there are plenty in Cape Town, go to Gym just to get out a bit (People don't often speak in Gyms) Running clubs are usually filled with people who would love interaction but are too shy to speak outside of their clicks.

Avoid alcohol, drugs etc as they will drop you further into the abyss.

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Sounds like a choice.
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No, not these days. People are becoming very clicky and a lot of people struggle to make friends. Especially younger generations. You can ask and ask and hit a brick wall.
 
Segg said:
No, not these days. People are becoming very clicky and a lot of people struggle to make friends. Especially younger generations. You can ask and ask and hit a brick wall.
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The activities mentioned above are a good way to meet people even in a cliquey world. Doesn't even have to be active stuff like that.
 
lancon said:
Ever felt so alone that suicide seems logical.
I only talk to the people at work and no after hours interaction with anyone
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What are your hobbies / interests? Some people need social interaction, others don't - I am one for being left alone, in fact I thrive on it and don't like people - in fact the more people i see and deal with, the more i lose hope and faith in humanity. What do you do for a living, are you working, or studying? Are you happy with sharing your age? I wen tthrough a phase some years ago where I was struggling to find purpose, maybe you need to find something that inspires and stimulates you?
 
lancon said:
Ever felt so alone that suicide seems logical.
I only talk to the people at work and no after hours interaction with anyone
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Treasure your alone time.. From the minute you are born, you have people around you. You go to school, you have people around you. You get a job, you have people around you. You get married and have kids, you have people around you. My alone time is very precious to me, it's when I relax and reflect and please understand, being alone is very different from being lonely. I interact with people when I chose to and those moments are cherished too, so I'm often alone but never lonely.
 
@lancon you should post in this Depression thread, people there are more understanding.


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Thread 'Depression.'

Hello all.

I was diagnosed many years ago with clinical depression.

In many respects I have a great slot in this world - A wonderful family, a group of friends that are some of the most fantastic people on the planet, in my opinion, and unlike many billions of people, I have opportunities that many will never know.

That said, I have been struggling with this medical condition, and all that comes with it, and as a consequence, there are aspects to my life that are, shall we say, moderately disastrous, but nothing that cannot be patched up, as time goes on.

The reason for this...
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lancon said:
Im not the athletic type. Just feel so far removed from family friends
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Start taking an interest in your coworkers, people around your neighbourhood, the security guard at the office / shopping mall whatever. Just ask them how they are doing, start remembering what they say and create a connection through small talk.

Its very easy to float through life and disconnect from humanity. One or two personal connections even if its superficial make the world of a difference.
 
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Treasure your alone time.. From the minute you are born, you have people around you. You go to school, you have people around you. You get a job, you have people around you. You get married and have kids, you have people around you. My alone time is very precious to me, it's when I relax and reflect and please understand, being alone is very different from being lonely. I interact with people when I chose to and those moments are cherished too, so I'm often alone but never lonely.
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I can agree, but there are some who get really depressed. Not saying it's always the case but seems to quite often be a chemical issue, some sort of internal imbalance.
Had that a few times in my past, scary... Biral helped (it's quite natural) but it can leave you uncomfortably foggy and take a few days to work well enough.


Edit: Biral, not Biotin which is a vitamin...
 
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B-1 said:
Start taking an interest in your coworkers, people around your neighbourhood, the security guard at the office / shopping mall whatever. Just ask them how they are doing, start remembering what they say and create a connection through small talk.

Its very easy to float through life and disconnect from humanity. One or two personal connections even if its superficial make the world of a difference.
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I draw the line at co-workers.. They are not part of my social group. I deal with them because I have to.
 
Honestly, the hiking advice is the best. You can do a simple day hike, I don't know where you live, but once every 6 months or so I go to Moreleta Kloof. Took me a few hours the first time as I soaked in the nature and then I took my kid there.

The last time I went I tried to hike the ~5km trail as quickly as possible. Hiking does not mean you need to meet new people and a simple 5km hike is hardly what I would call a physical activity. Just doing that already clears the mind tremendously. On quiet days it's nice to go and take pictures, practice photography etc.

If you do enjoy it, then yes, you could join a hiking club to actually meet people.
 
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