Balancing Life & Replationships

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Naturally this being Health, Wealth, Leisure and Relationships -->

i'd like to hear how you guys and gals do it, say you and your s/o work Monday to Friday 9-6 (lets say ones job is way more demanding than the others) and you are able to see each other once a week either on a Friday night or Saturday night, only one day mainly cause you have other lives outside the relationship as well which need to be attended to.

have you made this work and how? I've been trying this out but now we getting to the point where we need to commit, but i'm finding it hard to commit because all is well and good on the Saturday night....but by the following Saturday morning its like we strangers again.
 
Honestly if you can't (or won't) make more time to spend together, at least one of you is not that into the relationship IMO (only caveat being if it is a long-distance relationship).
 
The other issue is, how do you get some alone time when you need it?

Say you see your SO on weekends only like ShaunSA does. That means you see each other every weekend and you never have a weekend to yourself.

I think sometimes you need some alone time. I think you can actually get a little burned out (may sound strange) if you don't have time to just do some of your favourite things alone.

You need to be separate people who enjoy each other's company.
 
"But then if we do not ever take time, how can we ever have time? " - some very clever guy
You make the time for the things that are important to you I reckon.
Else if that's really not possible, make sure the time spent together is quality time. Make sure you talk every day. Stuff like that.
 
Ancalagon said:
The other issue is, how do you get some alone time when you need it?

Say you see your SO on weekends only like ShaunSA does. That means you see each other every weekend and you never have a weekend to yourself.

I think sometimes you need some alone time. I think you can actually get a little burned out (may sound strange) if you don't have time to just do some of your favourite things alone.

You need to be separate people who enjoy each other's company.
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I spend enough time away from him during the week. If I'm home alone all I do is keep checking the window every five minutes in the vain hope that he will be driving in :oops:
 
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Ancalagon said:
The other issue is, how do you get some alone time when you need it?

Say you see your SO on weekends only like ShaunSA does. That means you see each other every weekend and you never have a weekend to yourself.

I think sometimes you need some alone time. I think you can actually get a little burned out (may sound strange) if you don't have time to just do some of your favourite things alone.

You need to be separate people who enjoy each other's company.
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Not strange at all. This is especially true for introverts.

I feel both physically and mentally drained after spending a lot of time with people.
 
It sounds like your mind is already made up that you would rather break up than commit and work on the relationship
 
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I used to have this problem as well, but we would be one weekend at her place and the other at mine, she joined in when I went out with my friends and vice versa, eventually I just moved in with her and later married her, seems to have worked out.

If the relationship is really important, both parties would find a way to make it work, if only one tries to make it work, it will start falling apart and fail (for the most part)
 
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