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career option for a middle aged loner
- Thread starter zaozzie
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At least career-wise, it sounds as though you've identified one issue: Jack of all trades, master of none. If I were you I would do some research into what specializations would provide a big career boost, and which ones are accessible to you, and work your ass off mastering one of these.
RyanPCMR
Expert Member
Well sorry to hear but I normally just try to use the skills that I have to bargain into something more suited to what I want. Jumping from one company to the other will only make your position that you find yourself in worse. Try to stick around longer and establish yourself in the one place by working the system toward a higher post. Also it sounds like you are suffering from depression so you might just want to seek professional help for that as well since your well being is sort of something that people will pick up from meeting you. Good luck!
From my colleagues in the non-software development side of things, certifications seem to be a big plus. For example, it companies want to be an MS Partner or VMWare partner, and for this need so many people with certain certifications.
Nice thing is that quite a lot of the certifications are self study, and just pay to write exam.
Also, 40 isn't old. I have a feeling all of us people under 40 will be working at least to 65 and probably pushing 70 due to us living longer.
Good luck bro
Nice thing is that quite a lot of the certifications are self study, and just pay to write exam.
Also, 40 isn't old. I have a feeling all of us people under 40 will be working at least to 65 and probably pushing 70 due to us living longer.
Good luck bro
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TheMightyQuin
Not amused...
I concur! That's where I "stopped caring". If you are saving that amount per month, you have no reason to live like a bum.
OP has mental problems, not financial.
Heard on the radio just now about a guy doing an MBA at 58, someone else doing the honours in their early 60's. Its never to late.
I think your primary problem is your "I'm a loser, please feel sorry for me" mindset. Mid-life crisis?
This sounds harsh but if you don't have clinical depression then you need to buck up and get on with life otherwise the negativity will quite literally kill you.
You're never too old to fix things and from the sounds of it you're comparing your life style to upper class people.
If you're saving 5K per month you're doing a hell of a lot better than a lot of people I know who drive SUV's/4x4 and live in R2 million houses with only one pay check between them and bankruptcy.
I suggest you read some inspirational biographies of people who've lost everything in their middle age and rebuilt from scratch.
There is always hope if you choose to believe there is but if you give up there is only death waiting for you.
This sounds harsh but if you don't have clinical depression then you need to buck up and get on with life otherwise the negativity will quite literally kill you.
You're never too old to fix things and from the sounds of it you're comparing your life style to upper class people.
If you're saving 5K per month you're doing a hell of a lot better than a lot of people I know who drive SUV's/4x4 and live in R2 million houses with only one pay check between them and bankruptcy.
I suggest you read some inspirational biographies of people who've lost everything in their middle age and rebuilt from scratch.
There is always hope if you choose to believe there is but if you give up there is only death waiting for you.
OrbitalDawn
Ulysses Everett McGill
This.
Too much focus on what he doesn't have and not enough on what he does. Use what you have, develop a plan to build yourself up.
Nerfherder
Honorary Master
5k in to savings per month ?
My heart bleeds. If your expectation is money then don't come to CT.
You should find a woman though... there is an oversupply of single ladies here.
I'd deal with that depression before trying anything else though.
My heart bleeds. If your expectation is money then don't come to CT.
You should find a woman though... there is an oversupply of single ladies here.
I'd deal with that depression before trying anything else though.
Problem has always been every company looking for experience not just that you know it. Guess I will have to try something.
R5k saving is living very lean. Renting a dump for a room, driving a 20 year old car, not spending anything. That's why I realized if I lived it lean I am not moving towards a better life.bokdrol said:
Sticking at a job and being rewarded is a misnomer. Generally the jobs being advertised have a very high churn rate. My new job 50% of the staff left the previous year. 40% the year before.Ryansr said:
Point is I don't have anything else to distract me.Drake2007 said:
What I have is to sit at a desk all day earning just enough money to get by and have a tiny bit of money if I don't spend anything at all. Hardly something I would call a life.OrbitalDawn said:
I don't have medical aid or pension. Trying to face reality is the last thing I want to do.Nerfherder said:
I want to take advantage of being untethered. Hence my question. What option is there for a person in my position.
Pitbull
Verboten
If you invest your savings of R5k per month wisely (with the help of a company like Alan Grey), you could be extremely well off in about 10 years. Don't live for what other people have and their lives. Make that R5k a month work for you. You can save R 60k a year, that is R 600k in just 10 years with no interest or investment. If you invest it with the help of someone you could easily turn R 2m in 10 years. Fark me wish I had R5k a month to invest
OrbitalDawn
Ulysses Everett McGill
Err, how are you saving R5k if you don't have medical aid or pension? Are you literally putting it into a savings account?
And get medical aid if you can afford it. No-brainer.
And get medical aid if you can afford it. No-brainer.
jansdejager
Expert Member
I read 'career option for a middle-aged stoner'. now i'm kinda bummed. take up cannabis cultivation?
So you can only follow orders, unable to lead, cannot 'network', still single, and want to roam the wild plains. My advice is pack provisions for a week or two and go and explore that wilderness (Cederberg? Garden Route?) to see if it's really for you. Suspect you will either toss out your solar charger and roam free, or make a beeline back for the city.
If you cannot learn new skills, then focus all your energy on one skill: problemsolving. If you think your workmates are holding up progress, be management's little snitch. If management is going overboard, go over their heads with proof. If you get somewhere that makes you happy, you should try to fight to stay there. Even if it means a basement room with building blueprints and newspaper clippings on the walls, and maybe a few covert listening devices. Or else grow pot, and then you only have the cops to worry about (you'll be doing us a favour).
So you can only follow orders, unable to lead, cannot 'network', still single, and want to roam the wild plains. My advice is pack provisions for a week or two and go and explore that wilderness (Cederberg? Garden Route?) to see if it's really for you. Suspect you will either toss out your solar charger and roam free, or make a beeline back for the city.
If you cannot learn new skills, then focus all your energy on one skill: problemsolving. If you think your workmates are holding up progress, be management's little snitch. If management is going overboard, go over their heads with proof. If you get somewhere that makes you happy, you should try to fight to stay there. Even if it means a basement room with building blueprints and newspaper clippings on the walls, and maybe a few covert listening devices. Or else grow pot, and then you only have the cops to worry about (you'll be doing us a favour).
HavocXphere
Honorary Master
Bit of a weird suggestion but maybe consider spending a bit more. Nothing hectic... Just something small that brightens up your day. No point in saving 5k and being unhappy & starving so to speak.
And for heavens sake get med aid or at least a hospital plan...dont be an idiot... One medical issue could crush all your efforts at saving.
>I want to take advantage of being untethered. Hence my question. What option is there for a person in my position.
Well you get short term overseas jobs that yield quite a bit of coin... But they tend to be really sucky jobs (gutting fish etc). On the IT side see the other people's advice
And for heavens sake get med aid or at least a hospital plan...dont be an idiot... One medical issue could crush all your efforts at saving.
>I want to take advantage of being untethered. Hence my question. What option is there for a person in my position.
Well you get short term overseas jobs that yield quite a bit of coin... But they tend to be really sucky jobs (gutting fish etc). On the IT side see the other people's advice
This would normally be my advice as well. Genreally, medical aid is essential.
But in this particular case, I would consider saving that amount and instead making use of a good public hospital like Tygerberg Hospital or one of the other perfectly functional ones in Cape Town. Some of the best doctors in the country works at these hospitals. It is not ideal, but it is an option to be considered (actually it is the chosen option at this moment
)Come on, that's just a cop out. You have 20+ years of real life experience, most of which is in random parts of IT as I understand it. If you can skill up in something yourself, you can list the skill on your resume and if necessary, show personal projects as part of your portfolio to demonstrate experience.
OrbitalDawn
Ulysses Everett McGill
This would normally be my advice as well. Genreally, medical aid is essential.
But in this particular case, I would consider saving that amount and instead making use of a good public hospital like Tygerberg Hospital or one of the other perfectly functional ones in Cape Town. Some of the best doctors in the country works at these hospitals. It is not ideal, but it is an option to be considered (actually it is the chosen option at this moment
You still need to pay at public hospitals.
One accident could completely ruin him.
cerebus
Honorary Master
Yep it's totally a cop-out. He has every reason on earth why he will never succeed in life. If he really is unattached, he has time to kill that he could be using to skill up.
zaozzie - also if it helps, from what I've seen women become more realistic as they age, and more willing to settle for someone who will treat them well and is stable. It's actually much harder when you're younger. As they get older women tend to find that the available men... well... there's always some baggage, or some reason why you wouldn't want to attach yourself to such a person.