Complaining to boss about another colleague?

[The Horseman]

Ok so I have this colleague who is more senior than me but I don't report to him nor is he my boss.

Now he has increasingly become more and more stropy and unwilling to help over the past few months.

He constantly complains about the clients and business and you can see he just isn't enjoying life.

It has now got to a point where if he doesn't feel like doing something he will just palm it onto me.

More complex issues with clients he simply brushes off onto my plate and expects me to just sort it out.

He is incredibly arrogant and not only does he think the sun shines out of his back side, he is also extremely rude to clients and now he starting his to treat me like this.


NOW. . . I am not a tittle tail, and don't want to become one, but what do I do? Do I approach my actual boss and speak to him about this? Or just take his crap and keep quiet?

 

[Voicy]

You teach people how to treat you.

Learn to say no or approach your boss about it. Simpler said than done, but doing nothing is worse.

 

[satanboy]

just be VERY careful how you approach this

(managers hate hearing bad or negitave stuff)

 

[The Horseman]

You teach people how to treat you.

Learn to say no or approach your boss about it. Simpler said than done, but doing nothing is worse.

Yeah. I am going to start saying no from now on. This oke needs to learn that I am not his chew toy.

just be VERY careful how you approach this

(managers hate hearing bad or negitave stuff)

That is my only concern. I am fairly close and on good terms with my boss. I don't really want to mess that up by him thinking I am a moaner or complainer.

 

[OMB]

have you considered discussing the behaviour with the colleague first or is this not a viable option?

 

[The Horseman]

have you considered discussing the behaviour with the colleague first or is this not a viable option?

Well he is very arrogant and I can almost guess what he would say. He doesn't care.

I guess that would probably be the mature approach, but how it would go down is anyones guess.

 

[OMB]

Well he is very arrogant and I can almost guess what he would say. He doesn't care.

I guess that would probably be the mature approach, but how it would go down is anyones guess.

maybe just sit down with him and say you've noticed he appears to have become very frustrated with his job over the past few months and if there's something wrong and any way you can help and take it from there. If it doesn't pan out and he flies off the handle or just isn't interested then it would be in your best interest to take it up with the boss (especially given that you have a good relationship). If nothing gets done about it now chances are that it will get worse and may have impact on clients and end up coming back via that route.

Your boss may not appreciate things as much if you get a client complaint and he finds out that you were aware of the problem

 

[stricken]

in our IT department we have this thing called a "not your fcking day machine" and it basically comprises of using all our technical abilities to completely screw up some shiny shoe persons attempts at being constructive at work - thus getting him fired - arrogance and all.

 

[OMB]

in our IT department we have this thing called a "not your fcking day machine" and it basically comprises of using all our technical abilities to completely screw up some shiny shoe persons attempts at being constructive at work - thus getting him fired - arrogance and all.

sounds like a nice place to work

 

[The Horseman]

maybe just sit down with him and say you've noticed he appears to have become very frustrated with his job over the past few months and if there's something wrong and any way you can help and take it from there. If it doesn't pan out and he flies off the handle or just isn't interested then it would be in your best interest to take it up with the boss (especially given that you have a good relationship). If nothing gets done about it now chances are that it will get worse and may have impact on clients and end up coming back via that route.

Your boss may not appreciate things as much if you get a client complaint and he finds out that you were aware of the problem

I think that is not a bad approach. Will be tough to just raise the issue out of the blue. But there is serious tension. I don't know why he thinks he can just palm off his work to me. This all started last week when he refused to help one of the clients and insisted I do it even though I was leaving the office in 5 minutes. He refused to help. We had words and he just stormed off like a child.

in our IT department we have this thing called a "not your fcking day machine" and it basically comprises of using all our technical abilities to completely screw up some shiny shoe persons attempts at being constructive at work - thus getting him fired - arrogance and all.

lol.

/takes note to suggest that to the boss.

 

[TheMightyQuin]

Next time he tries to palm stuff off to you just tell him that you cannot do it as your plate already is full. He is not your boss. If he carries on tell your current boss that you are struggling with the sudden increase in workload as you do not know what work to prioritise: the work you REAL boss gives you or the work you "other" boss is giving you.

Jirre..I am so glad I am my own boss. I wouldn't last 5 minutes "working for a boss".

 

[TheMightyQuin]

in our IT department we have this thing called a "not your fcking day machine" and it basically comprises of using all our technical abilities to completely screw up some shiny shoe persons attempts at being constructive at work - thus getting him fired - arrogance and all.

You sound like a reall bunch of douchebags...what goes around.....................

 

[The Horseman]

Next time he tries to palm stuff off to you just tell him that you cannot do it as your plate already is full. He is not your boss. If he carries on tell your current boss that you are struggling with the sudden increase in workload as you do not know what work to prioritise: the work you REAL boss gives you or the work you "other" boss is giving you.

Jirre..I am so glad I am my own boss. I wouldn't last 5 minutes "working for a boss".

Yeah I am going to do that next time. He can go fly a kite. If he wants to complain to my boss then so be it. I have enough **** of my own to do let alone having to pick up the stuff he doesnt feel like doing.

 

[stricken]

You sound like a reall bunch of douchebags...what goes around.....................

Nothing Douche about spending your life dedicated to the art of computing whilst fly-by's with quad core email machines run around thinking they are better than you.

 

[Celine]

what does your it say in your job description? if it's not in your contract tell him straight it's not in your contract.

 

[TheMightyQuin]

Nothing Douche about spending your life dedicated to the art of computing whilst fly-by's with quad core email machines run around thinking they are better than you.

That post says it all about you...the evil nerd in the server room waiting to get his revenge on the "cool people that uses i7 laptops for email and Facebook" What a sad twat you seem to be. Now I do wish I worked at the same company you do...it would take me 5 minutes to expose you and get you fired...arrogance and all.

 

[DJ...]

Nothing Douche about spending your life dedicated to the art of computing whilst fly-by's with quad core email machines run around thinking they are better than you.

If you worked for my company I'd not only fire you, but have charges of fraud laid against you for each and every incident. Do you not see the glaringly obvious irony in what you're doing?

 

[skimread]

The problem with programming is that you do not get shielded from politics. Made much worse due to management not having a clue and being able to fall for BS.

I agree with the comment that you teach people how to treat you.

 

[MickZA]

Yeah I am going to do that next time. He can go fly a kite. If he wants to complain to my boss then so be it. I have enough **** of my own to do let alone having to pick up the stuff he doesnt feel like doing.

Why not tell that you're pretty busy, can he clear the extra workload through your boss first?

That way no one loses face and your boss becomes aware of the situation without you complaining.

 

[EnchanterG]

maybe just sit down with him and say you've noticed he appears to have become very frustrated with his job over the past few months and if there's something wrong and any way you can help and take it from there. If it doesn't pan out and he flies off the handle or just isn't interested then it would be in your best interest to take it up with the boss (especially given that you have a good relationship). If nothing gets done about it now chances are that it will get worse and may have impact on clients and end up coming back via that route.

Your boss may not appreciate things as much if you get a client complaint and he finds out that you were aware of the problem

You are not a counselor, you should not engage him on his problems. You need to act professionally assertive, dragging his personal stuff into it will not be helpful.

Keep your nose clean. Isolate him (I.e ask him to step outside away from clients or eavesdroppers) and assertively explain that you will not perfdrm the task because you have your own, and he has no authority to change your workload. Offer to help, if you wish (and really will), IF your workload eases up and you have the time.

If he goes ballistic (and he likely will), stand your ground (do not use retreating body language) and offer to take the matter under discussion with your boss. If it goes there, be prepared to have to do as the manager dictates, but at least the ground rules will be established.

This sounds like a personality clash to me.