Dealing with the nanny

blunomore

blunomore

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I have too much work and had to get my 11 month old baby a nanny to take care of her during the day so that I can carry on with work (I work from home, so I do see my baby during the day, even though I am not the one actually taking care of her)

My question: I got the nanny through a reputable agency (SA Nanny) but how do I know when it is OK for me to leave to leave her in the nanny's care for an extended period of time (e.g. 2 or 3 hours) while I leave the house for e.g. errands?

I know, I am over-protective, but this is in fact a stranger and I need to exercise caution!
 
I'm scared of nannies... I've got unemployed family members (cousins, aunts) to look after my kid. but I guess if this nanny has been vetted by the agency, I think she is okay...
 
Internal cameras linked to your ADSL line if you can afford it - friend of mine has his whole house wired up - he can look in at any time via his smartphone or ipad - gives him great peace of mind.
 
There is no specific time period, just like trust cannot have a deadline in any relationship you begin...
 
DJ... said:
There is no specific time period, just like trust cannot have a deadline in any relationship you begin...
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I know, it's just that I do not want to end up blaming myself if something happens. I guess I am waiting for the nanny and the baby to get accustomed to each other and have a well developed relationship before I leave them alone for longer periods.
 
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That's pretty much the only way.

zululami said:
I'm scared of nannies... I've got unemployed family members (cousins, aunts) to look after my kid.
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Aren't people you know more likely to hurt your child?
 
blunomore said:
I know, it's just that I do not want to end up blaing myself if something happens.
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You will never absolve yourself of blame, regardless of how long you give it. That's just the nature of your parental instinct. If she is a professional then your unwillingness to show trust is a bit of an indictment on her abilities. Talk to her about it - don't pretend that she's not just as nervous to prove herself to you, her employer...
 
the nanny must have children of her own, so i don't think you need to worry about this blunomore. i think it would be safe to leave your child with her for an hour or two.
 
I'm lucky to have a mother and MIL to look after my son. I don't trust nannies at all.
 
Celine said:
the nanny must have children of her own, so i don't think you need to worry about this blunomore. i think it would be safe to leave your child with her for an hour or two.
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I had very specific requirements when I hired her, inter alia that she must be a mother herself and be over 35 years of age.
 
You leave the child with the nanny for extended periods when the child is comfortable to be with her alone. Otherwise it's not much point to having a nanny in the first place. You can always use a nanny-cam as some suggested here. You should have formed some intuition about her by this time though.
 
We took over a domestic from a friend that left the country, she is over 40 years old, married and has 3 kids of her own.
She had been looking after kids before us for a couple of months, her husband is also employed and kids at school.

When my wife was still at home we sent the nanny for medical training including training to look after kids.
You know to learn simple stuff like washing of hands, who to call in an emergency etc.
Training took about 8hrs. they provide them with food etc.

We also pay her well and drop her off at home each day, so we look after her, best we can, we give her children toys and clothes every so often so the relationship is good, after all she's coming from a town ship into a 4 bedroom home, must be tough going back to a shack. (She has been waiting for rdp house since 2001)

We also gave her a workable cell phone as her old one was junk.
Kitted her out with umbrella - walks to work.
My wife has kitted her out with stuff to make her life easier working for us, I mean she is looking after the most valuable member of my family :)

Lots of small things add up
 
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