Do you want more in life?

[Dolby]

Are you satisified with the usual path that one takes in life IE school > studies > married > 2 kids > dog > white picket fence (with electric fencing) > job for 30 years and die?

Seems that you get people who aren't happy or satisfied with that 'normal'
life and always strive for something more. They have to be different and unique - or they 'fail' in their eyes. They're seldom ready to settle down, otherwise bordeom sets in.

Who are you?

Personally, I could follow the 'normal' path with a little bit of excitement here and there.

 

[foozball3000]

Well, I chose last week to follow a colorful life.. that means I'm not following the 'normal' trend

 

[Devill]

Well if I don't meet the right woman I will be a bachelor for the rest of my life (at least there is then the fun of testing a lot of woman to see if they are the right one )

Don't mind settling down with someone, as long as it doesn't all become routine. I know one or two couples that actively try and make life interesting and I think that is the path I will follow

 

[JK8]

I try to stay away from that "normal" life...
But its not easy!

 

[Keeper]

I am not on that path.... I don't want to have the same story as everyone else.

 

[blunomore]

Well if I don't meet the right woman I will be a bachelor for the rest of my life (at least there is then the fun of testing a lot of woman to see if they are the right one )

Don't mind settling down with someone, as long as it doesn't all become routine. I know one or two couples that actively try and make life interesting and I think that is the path I will follow

How? Please do no post anything inappropriate.

 

[superB]

I want the normal life. I've had way too much excitement in my lifetime.

What I would give to be financially stable, happy in my relationship and in the same place for a few years. Not so sure on 2 kids (1 is enough), but I'll take the dog

 

[foozball3000]

I want the normal life. I've had way too much excitement in my lifetime.

What I would give to be financially stable, happy in my relationship and in the same place for a few years. Not so sure on 2 kids (1 is enough), but I'll take the dog

Keep in mind, a dog by definition must grow bigger than knee-height. Anything smaller is a toy/snake food.

 

[Arzy]

I think it depends on what you define as normal.

I did the entire school > studies > married thing, but both my wife and I have decided that its not time for kids yet...got the two dogs though. Now we carry on building our careers and enjoying life.

At the end of the day life is what you make of it and what one person regards as a normal lifestyle isn't what another would. Someone who is always on the road may envy a person that has settle and the opposite is also true.

 

[Dolby]

Well if I don't meet the right woman I will be a bachelor for the rest of my life (at least there is then the fun of testing a lot of woman to see if they are the right one )

Well, I chose last week to follow a colorful life.. that means I'm not following the 'normal' trend

I try to stay away from that "normal" life...
But its not easy!

I am not on that path.... I don't want to have the same story as everyone else.

So each of wants to be unique and different rom everyone else?

 

[superB]

I think it depends on what you define as normal.

I did the entire school > studies > married thing, but both my wife and I have decided that its not time for kids yet...got the two dogs though. Now we carry on building our careers and enjoying life.

At the end of the day life is what you make of it and what one person regards as a normal lifestyle isn't what another would. Someone who is always on the road may envy a person that has settle and the opposite is also true.

+10000

 

[Dolby]

I want the normal life. I've had way too much excitement in my lifetime.

You don't think have that excitement in your life makes everything else seems boring in comparison?

I know people that have had a - er - different life that they battle to function in 'normal' life. It seems they have become used to action and happening in their life and want more.

 

[Mila]

Took the road less travelled...not satisfied yet have not seen enough of the world.

 

[Devill]

How? Please do no post anything inappropriate.

Get your mind out of the gutters

No I mean like the one couple I know went sailing/living on a yacht for 16 months.

The other couple climbed Kilimanjaro and took a 3 week african trip through Mozambique and botswana after that.

Both couple also do things like fun runs, triathelons and although they are close to their thirties (both the couples) they will never turn down a "plaas-naweek" or paintball with us younger people

So each of wants to be unique and different rom everyone else?

Did you see me saying im not bothered as long as life doesnt turn into one big routine?

 

[superB]

You don't think have that excitement in your life makes everything else seems boring in comparison?

I know people that have had a - er - different life that they battle to function in 'normal' life. It seems they have become used to action and happening in their life and want more.

I relish the 'boredom'. The other way to look at it is that because the 'normal' is in complete contrast to anything else I may have experienced it then in turn becomes exciting. This is based on the assumption that anything new / different is exciting.

Realistically though, I'm exhausted from my life. Do I get bored every 2 weeks or so? Yeah, I do. But I dont see socialising and / or going for dinner / movie / drink whatever as chasing the 'excitement'. 8 times out of 10 I'd rather be at home (preferably with company and a dvd). Now that I'm living on my own I'm having to adjust to only having my own company on a daily basis. Its a process, but I'm really starting to enjoy it. Hell, I even turned my ex down for dinner the other night - that's saying a lot!

Speaking of which... *gets breakfast*

 

[Dolby]

I don't mean socialising, movies, dinner, drinks and the like.

I mean things like getting into a job and 12 months into it, they're not happy and need to get out and do something else - something different. Or they get engaged, and 12 months later realise they still want to mess around and call off the engagement.

More complex things that what you're mentioning

 

[superB]

I don't mean socialising, movies, dinner, drinks and the like.

I mean things like getting into a job and 12 months into it, they're not happy and need to get out and do something else - something different. Or they get engaged, and 12 months later realise they still want to mess around and call off the engagement.

More complex things that what you're mentioning

*shrug*

You're clearly very cynical and afraid. I wonder if you'll ever be happy with someone or whether you'll forever be questioning their motives and loyalties. If you let your fear drive you, you may find that that same fear drives away the ones who love you.

Plus, I'm a firm believer that if you love somebody enough and you KNOW, without a doubt, what you want from them, you take the risk, you put your cards on the table and you go for it with everything. I'm more afraid of thinking back in 10 years and saying 'what if' than I am of getting rejected now.

 

[Nocturnity]

*shrug*

You're clearly very cynical and afraid. I wonder if you'll ever be happy with someone or whether you'll forever be questioning their motives and loyalties. If you let your fear drive you, you may find that that same fear drives away the ones who love you.

Plus, I'm a firm believer that if you love somebody enough and you KNOW, without a doubt, what you want from them, you take the risk, you put your cards on the table and you go for it with everything. I'm more afraid of thinking back in 10 years and saying 'what if' than I am of getting rejected now.

Truer words have not been spoken!

 

[Picard]

A wife, house, kids and a dog sounds quite exciting to me.

 

[Keeper]

I try to stay away from that "normal" life...
But its not easy!

I read this post again and i think you nailed it 100%.

It's quite difficult to buy a house without getting married 1st, and kids before that is hard too. you need a job to survive and most study to get a job in the 1st place.

so in essence as much are you're trying to avoid it, it's inevitable really.....

unless you win the lotto - then it's no job, massive house, and girls girls girls! but in the end you'd probably get married and have kids as well...

Hope this post makes sense?