Family drama

[Dreamer290]

Hi all,

Hope everyone is doing good. I wanted some advice and I thought why not ask on myBB.

So I recently got married, and a few days before that was the SO's bridal shower thingy, small thing, about 10 ladies. Anyway, one of the bridesmaids husband went for a covid test the same morning as the bridal shower. She didn't mention it to anyone and came for the bridal shower. She wore a mask in the beginning but then interacted with everyone later on. The next day we find out the husband tested positive and is not well.

So we contact everyone that was at the event and let them know. The bridesmaid decides shes not going for a test and doesn't need to.

I politely give her a call, and ask how the husband is doing and mention it's best to get tested. After all, all the guests were asking too for peace of mind.

Two days later the husband sends us a message to say she's positive. She then sends a message to say her daughter who is a flower girl can't come to the wedding. I respond saying not problem, only immediate family will be there and none of the kids for safely reasons.

I do explain in the message that we had to uninvite everyone because of what happened about the bridal shower and lost out on a lot of money. But I ended off by saying I hope they don't get sick and I'm praying for them. She says don't worry I'm sure the kids will understand. Ps the kids had a part in the wedding.

That was the last we heard from them. We're in a whatsapp group together, they have stopped communicating. On fb they are posting things these passive aggressive quotes about how they will be there for people who are there for them. Unless I'm missing something here, shouldn't I be the one pissed off at them and not the other way around?

Was I wrong to ask her to get tested?

I'm honestly just not sure. But I am the type of person that does not like conflict so it's bothering me. My SO says they owe us an apology because what happened at the bridal shower was irresponsible of her.

What's bothering me is we are close with the kids. They have said they can't come for a lunch last week because they don't worried about the kids and covid. Fair enough... But the day before they posted pics on WhatsApp where they were somewhere their kids were swimming with a whole bunch of other kids. Looked like a public or pool in a complex. So I think they using the kids as an excuse.

The SO says leave it, it's not worth the stress and drama. We should just move on.

What do you guys think I should do? Is it worth reaching out and trying to fix things? Or just leave it.

 

[Mortymoose]

Some people see it as a stigma to be C19 positive, perhaps a little ashamed. Just leave it, in a few months it will rectify itself.

We run a home delivery service for customers that are C19 positive.

Two weeks back a couple with a young son had been all over the country on vacation, posting snaps online without a mask. On their return, Hubby tested positive, family goes into isolation, we get the shopping email.

I realize that the kid plays an indoor sport with a couple of other kids inclusive my offspring, I call the coach to ask if the kid had been playing since the family had returned. Coach reckons not, Moose happy.

Afternoon time, We receive a call from an irate mother to ask if we had mentioned to anyone about their status.... Lucky the call went to my better half and not to me as I can become a vark and be extremely direct.

The coach had called the family to enquire on their well being.....

 

[Quintrix]

People are relaxing because the numbers are going down and the "it won't happen to me" mentality is picking up. She was wrong. You have the right to be ticked off.

But you've communicated with them. Now be there for them and move on. Don't translate facebook posts. They might be in Hebrew. Do what is right based on your principles not on their actions.

 

[Mortymoose]

I spent a week in the Cape, took all precautions only to come back to work and have two of my staff test positive, not from the store but from PArtying at their accom, A source informs me that the Gov Track and Tracing team went around there and picked up a bunch of guys suiping away with my employee, all sent to State isolation.

C19 has not gone yet! Sure there is light, but after all the money I have had to spend keeping my customers and staff safe, sacrificing holidays and family social events like Xmas and then get folk just throwing caution to the wind....Just fecks me off no end..... The additional expense to this business over the past year easily exceeds 120 000....... Bastards!

I was tasked on bringing a friends 24 year old daughter back to Namibia from SA a few days back, the young lass lecturing on how this is all nonsense and it's just like the Flu........ In Scottish in my mind, I get telling myself...." Moose , Haud yer weesht!"

 

[S.Claus]

Would they still be angry if granny dies of COVID ? Explain to them the situation and why you feel they should have notified everyone.

 

[newby_investor]

This sort of attitude annoys me as well.

Do people think that being infected with a disease is something of a blight on their character? No. I don't think any less of you because you're positive for covid.

It's the childish pettiness which makes me think less of you.

 

[6spdmanual]

The SO says leave it, it's not worth the stress and drama. We should just move on.

My advice? Do exactly this. Have a few cold ones, start up a braai and move on. Not worth the stress.

 

[>Reaper<]

Agree with your SO also. Just let it be. Not worth the stress.

If they going out everywhere and not wanting to socialize with you. It's clear they moving on. So why don't you too.

That's my 2c.

 

[maumau]

Probably not socialising with your children because they know you're concerned about COVID.

Act like nothing happened and phone once or twice a week to see how they are.

 

[EADC]

Honestly people who think it's a good idea to have weddings at this time I have very little sympathy.

 

[B-1]

Im with Mortymoose people are very difficult about the "stigma" that's why you rarely see post about people going for testing its mostly post about "I beat covid".
I would just let it go people are smart enough to know who the idiots are in these situations. You don't have to point it out.

 

[scudsucker]

Honestly people who think it's a good idea to have weddings at this time I have very little sympathy.

Some people want their first-born to be legitimate...

 

[HelterSkelter]

Just leave it and focus on the joy of being with your wife, the pomp etc.

 

[Dreamer290]

Thanks for all the responses fellow myBB'ers.

I guess I will just leave it be. I will check in with them now and then. But anything more is probably not worth the stress.

Thanks everyone.