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Have you ever been involved in an altercation where it ended up in a physical brawl? Why did you fight and do you think you could have handled the situation better?

I have a problem here, my little brother likes (loves) fighting and I don’t understand why because we were never raised like that. My father used to tell us that a brawl isn’t even the last option in conflict resolution.

I only fought once in my life when I was in grade 4, nearly lost my eye as the boy I was fighting tried to use a sharp pencil to stab my eye. Since then I’ve often found better ways to resolve conflict.

I am scared for my younger brother that one day he will kill someone, be killed or paralysed.

He doesn't drink, I just don't want him to fight.
 
Buy him a bicycle, get him to vent all that excess energy and built up frustration.
 
Try sending him to anger-management?

I have fought a few times in my life, Always gave the opponent a good K.O (bullies)
But recently I lost against my brother he punched me in my right eye but that's a whole different story

Then again, when thinking about it, I shouldn't have hesitated, but I did.
zululami said:
Have you ever been involved in an altercation where it ended up in a physical brawl? Why did you fight and do you think you could have handled the situation better?

I have a problem here, my little brother likes (loves) fighting and I don’t understand why because we were never raised like that. My father used to tell us that a brawl isn’t even the last option in conflict resolution.

I only fought once in my life when I was in grade 4, nearly lost my eye as the boy I was fighting tried to use a sharp pencil to stab my eye. Since then I’ve often found better ways to resolve conflict.

I am scared for my younger brother that one day he will kill someone, be killed or paralysed.

He doesn't drink, I just don't want him to fight.
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Get him involved in martial arts or boxing. He can fight in a controlled environment and not face potential jailtime or some dude's armed friends.
 
I would not send him to one of the more aggressive martial arts like MMA, rather something like Aikido which teaches that violence and hurting another should be the last option.
 
BobsLawnService said:
Get him involved in martial arts or boxing. He can fight in a controlled environment and not face potential jailtime or some dude's armed friends.
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+100!

I was also "haragat" when i was younger and was easily provoked into fighting. That is until i started doing boxing...

I found out VERY quickly that i'm not as "hard" as i thought and since i started boxing a couple of years back, i have only been in one fight outside of the ring, which was nothing to do with anger and more along the lines of someone slamming my girlfriend to the floor and trying to steal her bag...

If the boxing/MMA thing doesn't happen, or he doesn't want to do t, he will soon meet his match and have some sense knocked into him, which isn't a bad thing...
 
If he likes fighting perhaps send him to mixed martial arts or something like that so he can constructively focus that aggression and learn how to control it better.
 
You should communicate to your brother the fact that he is not adhering to one of the positive aspects of his upbringing. Stress the fact that he is doing something considered undesirably foreign to your family's way of life - i.e. other's might do that but we don't.

Most of the other comments reflect the usual ignorant and aggressive views expressed in this forum, I would ignore them (except for the tech advice). Your brother should only be directing his aggression in a (semi) controlled environment like MMA, martial arts, etc. if your family experience and a psychological evaluation determine that he has poor aggression impulse control.
You should not be too convinced of the fact that he does not use intoxicating substances as well.
Great day further, and good luck.
 
Dunno how little he is but it's people like him that always end up dead because someone else pulls out a knife or a gun.
 
WatchMan said:
Most of the other comments reflect the usual ignorant and aggressive views expressed in this forum, I would ignore them (except for the tech advice). Your brother should only be directing his aggression in a (semi) controlled environment like MMA, martial arts, etc. if your family experience and a psychological evaluation determine that he has poor aggression impulse control.
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Most? I was the only one who had a stupid post in this thread. Most said he should go the MMA route like you did.
 
MMA is just an excuse to beat the living daylights out of each other.

Try the traditional martial arts where they teach discipline and avoidance. I did kung fu for 3 years and it was more than a year before we got a chance to smack each other. Then the teachers had a go at us and after that we had very little desire to fight.

Even now, I don't feel the need to prove some something. The last fight I was in was because I got my self in to a situation that I should not have.
 
Thanks guys great ideas here. I was at my wits' end trying to help him out. I like most ideas here... Especially anger management and martial arts or boxing classes. He often tells me that sometimes he fights because he wants to, not because he is provoked...

Strange young man.
 
Nerfherder said:
MMA is just an excuse to beat the living daylights out of each other.
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Thats exactly what some people need to get frustration out, and it's better than having the same scenario, except out on the streets where there are no rules and no form of respect for the person you are fighting...
 
zululami said:
Thanks guys great ideas here. I was at my wits' end trying to help him out. I like most ideas here... Especially anger management and martial arts or boxing classes. He often tells me that sometimes he fights because he wants to, not because he is provoked...

Strange young man.
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Each to their own, but i personally found that Anger Management just made me angrier... I kind of felt like, "I'm P!$SED OFF and dont feel like having a calm rational discussion in some shrinks office about it! It's NOT HELPING!!!"

What did help was getting my arse handed to me in a boxing ring! I now consider myself a pretty mellow guy and dont raise my fists unless it's to defend a family member/ friend or myself should a dangerous situation occur. I know it all sounds cliché, but the bottom line is that it DID help me manage my anger and made me think thrice before lifting my hand to someone.

I hope that you guys come right and turn your little brother into the respectable young man that he most probably is! How old is he if i may ask? I was very provocative from 14 to about 18-19yrs old, and then with the help of boxing, mellowed out ALOT as i hit my 20's! I think age has alot to do with it...
 
zululami said:
He often tells me that sometimes he fights because he wants to, not because he is provoked...

Strange young man.
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He's gonna end up on a slab in the mortuary if he does not catch a wakeup. There is enough schit in the world without you going looking for it.
 
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