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Arzy

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So, last week my wife and I did a home pregnancy test and found out we were pregnant, we didn't want to believe this so easily and followed up with a blood test which confirmed it.

We are both extremely surprised and happy because its been a rather tough journey to reach this point.

We were just at the gynae now and did a sonar, result is that we are exactly 6 weeks pregnant and everything is in order. The most amazing thing though was hearing the little heart beating...I don't think that's an experience you can explain to anyone.

Now my question to the other dads or interested parties out there is rather simple...what do I do now? Is there a manual or something for the next couple of months?

I clearly seem to have gotten the basic process right, I just think I'll drive my wife insane by doing everything that's going through my head right now.
 
Due to the increased testosterone production experienced by your wife there'll be a signicant increse in her sexual response,so the only manual I can suggest is the kama sutra.
 
Congraulations Dude ...
You described the exact process that my wife and I went through ...

The first sonar and heartbeat just blows your mind ... I almost went into panic mode when I heard the quick pitter-patter for the first time ...

My best advise to you ... DON'T PANIC <smack smack> and don't over-think things ...

My little one is 15 months old now and the time flies too quickly ... it is all going to be a blur from now on ...
 
Congrats, I'm a Dad 3 times over and each one is great, love my kids.

DONT PANIC and enjoy it. Its a great time you and your wife will experience. You will get lots of advice as time passes.
 
Fristly, congratulations.

- Look after your wife and get ready to start the pampering. She will be like a whale with equal sized PMS in a few months time.
- Start stocking up on nappies and wet wipes now. Buy a bag or two each month because you will run out eventually.
- Try to go on a first aid course
- start looking around at ways to make your house baby-proof. It will be a while before the baby can actually crawl and walk but rather start early
- Google is your friend. There are some really good parenting websites out there.
- Start sucking up to parents and in-laws. You will need them to take care of the baby once in a while so you can catch up on sleep
 
Crowley said:
Fristly, congratulations.

- Look after your wife and get ready to start the pampering. She will be like a whale with equal sized PMS in a few months time.
- Start stocking up on nappies and wet wipes now. Buy a bag or two each month because you will run out eventually.
- Try to go on a first aid course
- start looking around at ways to make your house baby-proof. It will be a while before the baby can actually crawl and walk but rather start early
- Google is your friend. There are some really good parenting websites out there.
- Start sucking up to parents and in-laws. You will need them to take care of the baby once in a while so you can catch up on sleep
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I will second this advice on all points made.

Only thing to ad is too look into "Baby Go Rounds" when purchaseing goods. The Baby industry is a rip off and one tends to buy 10 times more gadgets than required when starting out. You will suprised and greatful at how cheap 2nd hand, unused baby goods are.

I don't know where you are, but one thing that saved us lots of cash and not sitting with unused item till the next one arrived was to rather rent certain equipment/furniture like the hospital trolley. It doubles up as a bath & cot for the first three months and you pay about R350 for three months.
 
Awesome, congrats. I can suggest stocking up on Nappies, you go through them so quickly. Other things which have come in very useful was the walking ring, and a baby camping cot and a pram. Browse around the pampers baby site, they have a nice forum full of suggestions and that. Enjoy every moment of it, it's not long before they become toddlers.

PS: Save up your sleep and start enjoying sleeping late in the morning while you still can.
 
Congrats and +1 to most of the advice above.
It all comes naturally dude so don't stress.
You can listen to all the advice in the world but at the end of the day you'll do what's best without even realising it.

Good luck!!
 
I just read the thread and just wanted to congradulate you. I am obviously not a guy and can't give any advise but children are really awesome. They bring so much joy to ones life....
 
Congrats bru...

Like most said here, DON'T PANIC!! The most important person in this triangle is your WIFE -If she's ok baby will be ok

So my advice is one word - LISTEN.

Also the first year after the birth is the MOST difficult........ then it's all down hill from there:D. Good luck!!!
 
cbrunsdonza said:
I will second this advice on all points made.

Only thing to ad is too look into "Baby Go Rounds" when purchaseing goods. The Baby industry is a rip off and one tends to buy 10 times more gadgets than required when starting out. You will suprised and greatful at how cheap 2nd hand, unused baby goods are.

I don't know where you are, but one thing that saved us lots of cash and not sitting with unused item till the next one arrived was to rather rent certain equipment/furniture like the hospital trolley. It doubles up as a bath & cot for the first three months and you pay about R350 for three months.
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Very true. And don't go for the big brand names. They cost three times as much and baby will puke on them just the same as the cheaper options.
 
Thanks for all the advice and congratulations, we are both very happy, as I said at the start it has been quite a journey to reach this point.

Got lost for the last hour staring at the ultra sound and my wife, still find it rather unbelievable.

Tomorrow is going to be interesting though, we decided to let the family know and we'll be seeing them all tomorrow.
 
I'm actually not all that phased about if its a boy or a girl, I think my wife would like a boy though.
 
I wanted a boy and my wife wanted a girl ... I won that race ... :)

But when he arrived ... all we did was count the little fingers and toes and thank God that he was healthy ...
 
Congrats! I pray for a boy one day i wont be able to handle boys visiting my baby girl i'd go postal, so the safe route rather...
 
Vegeta said:
Congrats! I pray for a boy one day i wont be able to handle boys visiting my baby girl i'd go postal, so the safe route rather...
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hahahaha, I am the same.
I want a boy, then a girl about 2 years later. My g/f says she feels sorry for anyone who has to date my daughter.
I wanna do something similar like the scene from bad boys 2 :)
 
Congrats, hope it's going to be an easy pregnancy and a healthy baby. We used a "wiegie" next to my side of the bed for the first couple of months, then went straight to a camping cot, worked perfectly because when you have to go somewhere you just pack the camping cot and baby is sleeping in his/her own bed. You'll tend to be more paraat with the first one (warm bottles, sterilising everything, stressing extensively) but then the 2nd one arrives and you are much more relaxed. So my advise would be to try not to stress to much over the little things and make time to spend together alone without baby. You might feel neglected because of all the attention to your wife/new baby so be prepared for that. Try and keep your relationship with your wife extra special and pamper her as often as you can. The first 3 months is a blur ... but it gets better after that. Lack of sleep brings out the worse in everyone involved.

But when you look at that little miracle in front of you, you can't help feeling so blessed and honoured and the amount of love you have for that child will make all the difficult times worthwhile.
 
congratulations on YOUR wife's pregnancy. there is NO "WE" in a pregnancy let me make that perfectly clear. a man NEVER EVER is pregnant so where this "WE" comes from is beyond me.
now for the real thing...........as time goes along and the hormones start kicking in, YOU make sure she has everything she needs and get out her way when she says, 'cos it's like that LOL. those hormonals will change within seconds and don't be questioning just accept cos it is so!!!!
and another thing, when she starts feeling ugly and fat it's YOUR fault and when she starts crying, it's YOUR fault so say sorry a thousand times over till the pregnancy is done LOLOLOLOL.
 
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