Of course it’s worse! We have been married for 30 years and I can’t even remember the DATE? Forgetting the anniversary totally is bad but not unheard-of, but forgetting the date (yet remembering the anniversary) is unfeeling, insensitive and plain lame. The whole deception scheme (I am not crazy about deception) is also overly complicated. Nice try (and I appreciate your suggestion) but it won’t fly.
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Of course it’s worse! We have been married for 30 years and I can’t even remember the DATE? Forgetting the anniversary totally is bad but not unheard-of, but forgetting the date (yet remembering the anniversary) is unfeeling, insensitive and plain lame. The whole deception scheme (I am not crazy about deception) is also overly complicated. Nice try (and I appreciate your suggestion) but it won’t fly.
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Okay well if I knew you were married for 30 years I would have given different advice.
Book a cruise for you 2 in December.
And no, there's not a "myriad of things that can go wrong". You go to the restaurant, make a booking for 7pm, ask them if they're able to decorate your table with flower petals/single red rose, choose your table. Pay the guy if they require extra money. Ask who will be serving you tonight etc
Then just pitch up. What can go wrong with that? You planned ahead. That's what planning ahead does. It keeps you from making mistakes.
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Officially get diagnosed with Alzheimer's
That's what I would have done
That's what I would have done
Wedding anniversary.
good luck man...
All I can say is never ever forget her birthday and especially your anniversary... thats the most important thing to her.
Why don't you remind her of what happened on your first day? like almost recreating the event and spoil her etc.
Figured that much - you wouldn't be stressing so much if it wasnt a wedding anniversary - I was just curious as to which one it was - 30 is pretty big - congrats!
You know your wife better than anyone - go with your gut.
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Ah dude, this is ****ing easy.... setup a romantic date. Get a gift. Do everything AS IF it's "the day" and pretend it's a "surprise"
Then when she goes "WTF you *******, our anniversary was 10 days ago!" then you go "Oh? I thought it was today" (remember the sad/dissapointed look)
I'm betting she's not saying anything because it's not the first time this happened and she's testing you to see if you'll come right on your own.
Here's a tip.
Take out your cellphone.
Go to the calendar event setup EVERY DAMN PHONE HAS
*MARK* the event with a damn ring tone and 2 day notice
done
But like I said, you'll probably get points for "surprise anniversary" dinner
+1000bizillion
killadoob
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Well just take her out and buy her flowers and say happy anniversary.
Make her think you just got the dates wrong
. Damn 30 years man and you forgot, did you forget the other 29 times as well?
Make her think you just got the dates wrong
. Damn 30 years man and you forgot, did you forget the other 29 times as well?guest2013-1
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Didn't you read? He can't because he thinks something is going to get ****ed up (like life is perfect or something)... so its best if he doesn't try at all
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I assume your will and testament is in order!
There is no way she forgot! They (womenfolk) live for these things!
I say it's a trap, sleep light my friend, sleep very light.
I repeat, is your will and testament in order.
Ok on a semi serious note.
There is no tactical exit to this situation, damage control is required i.e. it is going to be expensive.
Follow these easy steps and I offer no guarantee for your survival.
Get intel. Ask her best friend if she has said anything.
the friend will propably lie, so ask if there is anything that your wife wants something very badly, shoes, handbag etc. No matter the cost, get it!
It is a guarantee that the friend will immediately phone your wife.
Act as if nothing happened. They can smell fear
Book her favourite restaurant and when everything is in place.
Confess your heart and soul out! Tell her that you are ashamed that your love means so little to you and that this little pitiful token of your appreciation (hand over expensive gift now) means nothing and if she will join you for a dinner tonight.
It could work, or she could have slowly started poisoning you.
8 days should be enough for rat poison to take effect I think.
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There are dozens of things that can go wrong. There’s the law of unintended consequences to contend with. Even IF things are as glib as ‘planning ahead’ (which I doubt) and I pull it off, what then? She will phone her friends and detail my ‘romantic’ character. They will mistily congratulate me when they see me. I will have to lie to them and feel like a s**t. I won’t be popular with their husbands for raising the bar on anniversary celebration. So, get a black mark or reveal the truth. A secret is not much of a secret then. What if it gets back to my wife? Humiliated in front of her friends and I am lying scum. And this tangled web of deception and compounded lies is just because I wanted to weasel-out of a forgotten anniversary, not become a hunted fugitive for the rest of my life. Thanks, but I would rather grovel. Simpler.
And then one day, perhaps a few years down the road, out of the blue she'll say . . . "remember that time you forgot our anniversary" and, before your brain kicks in to remind you of the elaborate deception, her trap will have spring.
I agree - grovel and make it up to her.
30th is a huge milestone, I'm suprised none of your or her friends / family wished you happy's and congrats on the day.
Sure there wasn't a raucous party and you got so inebriated you've forgotten it?
Sure there wasn't a raucous party and you got so inebriated you've forgotten it?
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Didn't you read? He can't because he thinks something is going to get ****ed up (like life is perfect or something)... so its best if he doesn't try at all
lol. well which ever way.. you are going to get screwed both ends. IMO I'd go for that option.
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I'm sorry and I apologize ahead of time because you're older than me but WHAT THE **** IS WRONG WITH YOU?
How did you get someone to be married to you for 30 years and not **** it up yet?
I'm not saying you should LIE to her. Can you read? Are you able to? PUT YOUR GLASSES ON AND READ. Hell, go get lasik surgery or put in contacts or get your grandchild to "PC" it for you...
Organize everything. Get her to the ****ing restaurant. Say "Happy ****ing anniversary baby". Give her a ****ing necklace or something. Then get ready to apologize because she'll obviously go (probably very sarcasticly) "What is this for? Anniversary? We don't have an anniversary!?" OR EVEN "Our anniversary was 8 days ago..."
Well then. What do you say then? Hell, you're old as ****. You should know by now how to interact with people!
Go, "Oh lordie lord lord **** **** **** **** ****, I forgot the date?! I thought it was today!" or ****ing tell her you forgot but hope to make up for it and your stupid ass tonight!
You'll get a ****ing A for effort my dyslecic friend! How can she stay mad at you or be cross with you if you remembered
1) Pretending it never happened will get you nowhere fast
2) Accusing her of forgetting will bring up all the times YOU forgot AGAIN and start a fight
3) NOT DOING ANYTHING WILL ALSO BE SUICIDE
So what the **** is your problem?!?!?!
Are you so ****ing pessimistic in life that if something goes wrong with your plans that you curl up in a little ball and cry? emo much? do you still live with your mother or something?
Like I said. GROW A PAIR.
Take her out to a romantic date. PLAN the ****ing thing because with some sort of plan there is little to GO WRONG.
You're probably this type of guy that will *see* a romantic restaurant then go there one night and they say "Sorry, we're booked for the night"
GEE ****ING WHIZZ, I WONDER IF THERE WAS SOMETHING YOU COULD HAVE DONE TO AVOID DISAPPOINTMENT LIKE THAT!?
And if you care so much what the OTHER guys think about your own relationship with your wife and what you do for her when you **** up big like this then why not go **** them then. See if they'll give you some nookie. I'm sure some of them must have moobs or a nice squishy ass you can sexually please yourself with.....
****ing hell dude.
The idea I gave you will work, but it's up to you to finesse it so that she won't divorce your forgetful ass
Go out to dinner. Give her a nice necklace and say you're going on a cruise or something for vacation. (Like other folks say, make it big because you ****ed up big)
Then WHEN she says you forgot, APOLOGIZE and say yes, but when you remembered YOU ****ING DID SOMETHING OTHER THAN POST ABOUT IT ON A FORUM!!!!!!!
GET
YOUR
ASS
IN
GEAR
AND
DO
SOMETHING!
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On a side note, a friend of mine's boyfriend wanted to propose to her the other night, booked a restaurant a week in advance (they're pretty full) but booked it on her last day of varsity (big mistake guys, but I guess you'll learn that one from experience)
She made a whole deal about how it's her last day and wanted to go out with her friends and spoiled the mood he was trying to create to propose to her.
Got to the restaurant and....(her words)
"He thought the restaurant would be more romantic with flowers and candles and stuff, especially with having to book in advance like that, he wouldn't have asked anyway"
What the **** is wrong with you guys these days
If I want to have a romantic date I go:
a) *phone a friend* "Recommend 5 restaurants with awesome food in <insert your SO's favorite foods"
b) VISIT EACH ONE TO FIND OUT WHAT THE ATMOSPHERE IS LIKE (I usually get to the 2nd or 3rd one and decide)
c) If there's no candles or flowers *ASK THE ****ING MATRE'D, that's what they're there for! Organize it so that you GET THOSE THINGS
d) Buy a bunch of flowers, keep it in the freezer depending on how far ahead you bought it, I usually get the florist to do a special bunch with her favorite flowers in there combined with some of mine
e) SUIT THE **** UP / smell nice
f) BOOM, Restaurant time
Oh and the fun bit is to tell her what to dress up as and then not tell her where you're going and that it's a surprise!
It's not that ****ing difficult, especially if you want to propose (or make up for a ****up like our OP here)
*expecting* restaurants that are so busy you have to book a week in advance to be romantic without ever being on the premises or making special arrangements is ASS FORWARD way of thinking.... OF COURSE STUFF WILL GO WRONG!
She made a whole deal about how it's her last day and wanted to go out with her friends and spoiled the mood he was trying to create to propose to her.
Got to the restaurant and....(her words)
"He thought the restaurant would be more romantic with flowers and candles and stuff, especially with having to book in advance like that, he wouldn't have asked anyway"
What the **** is wrong with you guys these days
If I want to have a romantic date I go:
a) *phone a friend* "Recommend 5 restaurants with awesome food in <insert your SO's favorite foods"
b) VISIT EACH ONE TO FIND OUT WHAT THE ATMOSPHERE IS LIKE (I usually get to the 2nd or 3rd one and decide)
c) If there's no candles or flowers *ASK THE ****ING MATRE'D, that's what they're there for! Organize it so that you GET THOSE THINGS
d) Buy a bunch of flowers, keep it in the freezer depending on how far ahead you bought it, I usually get the florist to do a special bunch with her favorite flowers in there combined with some of mine
e) SUIT THE **** UP / smell nice
f) BOOM, Restaurant time
Oh and the fun bit is to tell her what to dress up as and then not tell her where you're going and that it's a surprise!
It's not that ****ing difficult, especially if you want to propose (or make up for a ****up like our OP here)
*expecting* restaurants that are so busy you have to book a week in advance to be romantic without ever being on the premises or making special arrangements is ASS FORWARD way of thinking.... OF COURSE STUFF WILL GO WRONG!
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(note the bolded part in your quote plox)
And people like HIM... that's who
Being married for 30 years to someone who's devoted her life to him and then can't even pick up the courage to organize something romantic with a present or think outside the box "because it might fail" and then sit on a forum procrastinating instead of doing damage control.
Seriously. Loads of stars in my post but what the hell?
When I say "grow a pair" I mean start acting like a man and lead. She's waiting for him to make a move, and by throwing it in her face saying "she forgot" is a DUMB move at best.
Like I told him, if I knew he was married (for 30 years) then I'd give him other advice. Obviously pretending you got the date wrong won't really work in this instance but everything up to that point is solid and would at least show her he loves her enough to remember which MONTH it was in.
At least defuse the bomb a little and because they're in a public restaurant ALL she can do (at best) is be pissy towards him in a sarcastic backhanded way pissed off women tend to act if they can't scream or shout.
But no. His solution is to do nothing because something might not go perfect and "OMG what if I raise the bar for romantic evenings to my other guy friends, they going to be so pissed off at me"... what? Are you 10?!
Never mind the fact he wants to challenge a woman to a fight that he has a history of doing this for for "forgetting once"...
I'm pissed off because a person like this can get a woman to marry him and stay with him for 30 years when I can't. I certainly have the balls to put out there and give it my best shot every time.
I have the humility to admit when I'm wrong whilst bearing gifts to make up for my screw up. I'm romantic, thoughtful, know how not to piss her off and treat her like a queen.... yet... there you go.... this guy...
Hell, this year my dad almost forgot.... what did he do? Big bunch of my mom's favorite roses and chocolates saying "Happy anniversary hun!" to which my mom responded, "Don't lie you forgot!" (this after she's been telling me the whole day how he forgotten and she's not going to say anything until he doesn't want her to do something again and throw it in his face as her "trump card")
He shrugged it off and said he would never forget and told her (they work together) that it was too busy-a-day to organize something while she was around in the shop the whole time. They both laughed it off. Because he did something even if it wasn't first thing in the morning and 8 at night.
Anyway. Just pisses me off.... **** off. My penis is huge.
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