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sk33Lo

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TelkomUseless said:
sk33Lo said:
I'm currently in a quandary, but too tired (read lazy) to post a new thread.

Heading for divorce, after been married for 12 years, COP.

May have to pepper my angus......
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Same here... 15 years.

Prepare to spend some good money
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From the other thread here: http://mybroadband.co.za/vb/showthread.php/848098-Relationships-Threads

What say the peanut gallery?

In simple terms we've been bickering on and off for a couple of years. It has gotten far worse in the last 18 months, with me being kicked out the house on a few occasions for various actions, and for her actions me walking out for a bit.

Has come to a head now, where there is no will to fight and try save it anymore, as it just gets uglier and nastier each time. And it's taking a toll on our little ones. I am led to believe that divorce has been initiated, however I am yet to see any of the terms, etc.

I have been dragging it out, and mulling it over for a few days....

*sigh


FML
 
For the younger people out there I really can't say I will ever know how that feels but keep strong guys.


Do you guys mind telling us, is there something that could have stopped this from happening. Is it something that you could have picked up earlier in the relationship? or if you talked about the problems earlier ?

Did it happened out of the blue or did you see it coming?


Reason for asking it might help out people
 
3rd parties in marriages are not good, money problems and substance abuse from either side and it's over. Adults these days are like children, they refuse to grow up. Which ends up hurting the real children. Was married for 15 years. I have all the tshirts.
But at the end you know what's really happened. Forgive be kind and shout, next!!
 
As they say - Find a girl that you dont like and give her your house. Save a lot of trouble!!!
 
DTBA said:
For the younger people out there I really can't say I will ever know how that feels but keep strong guys.


Do you guys mind telling us, is there something that could have stopped this from happening. Is it something that you could have picked up earlier in the relationship? or if you talked about the problems earlier ?

Did it happened out of the blue or did you see it coming?


Reason for asking it might help out people
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Well, a combination of factors within our control, and beyond our control. She's domineering, which tends to have me go off the rails now and again.

Add to the timeline, I have been through the traumatic events of a hijacking, a mugging, and victim of an armed robbery in the last few years... nevermind the other petty crime we all put up with in good old RSA.

So not sure if it could have stopped from happening, I do know that I went for counselling to address the above, far too long after it happened.

The associated problems have been spoken about, til the death. But they keep on creeping up like a bad cycle.

Didn't happen out the blue, saw it coming a year ago.
 
Have you tried counseling?

You have a domineering control freak as a wife nothing is going to change her.

Best to just keep quiet and let her have her say. I've seen too many guys try to fight this type of women and both end up losing.
 
WaxLyrical said:
Have you tried counseling?

You have a domineering control freak as a wife nothing is going to change her.

Best to just keep quiet and let her have her say. I've seen too many guys try to fight this type of women and both end up losing.
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I'm going through this. It's reached a point where I dont even have any friends anymore. Withdrew completely from all my car club activities, etc.
 
/sigh

I let slip once on this forum that my wife loves me way more than I love her, but I'm not going to leave her for the following reasons:
1. my kids are too young
2. I'm way too lazy to start a new relationship afresh
3. I don't think I can come right on my own. I need her to keep me sane
4. In my last relationship before getting involved with my now wife, my ex told me that I'm a very cold and distant person. So I sometimes feel that I'm the problem
 
Been there, done that, still have both rings.

Happier than ever now that I'm single, doubt I''ll get married again :D
 
Drifter said:
I'm going through this. It's reached a point where I dont even have any friends anymore. Withdrew completely from all my car club activities, etc.
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Bud of mine accepted this and he's happy. Realized the wife was wise about activities that are not beneficial in the long term.
His so called friends came and went but the control freak is still by his side.
 
WaxLyrical said:
Have you tried counseling?

You have a domineering control freak as a wife nothing is going to change her.

Best to just keep quiet and let her have her say. I've seen too many guys try to fight this type of women and both end up losing.
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Yup. Been a few times.

Even tried one of those "retreat" weekends.....

So be a doormat, is what you are saying? Do I read that right?
 
All I can say to you chaps is,speak to somebody about it.
Don't internalize everything to the point of mental breaks,or psychotic breaks
 
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