Getting Old!!

I have outlived both my parents, in a sense that I have lived longer than they did. I have no yardstick to know what my bloodline is supposed to live to.

I have my own health issues but I don't want to get to the point of being a burden.

This bit in Con Air is so true:

Garland Greene:
What if I told you insane was working fifty hours a week in some office for fifty years at the end of which they tell you to piss off; ending up in some retirement village hoping to die before suffering the indignity of trying to make it to the toilet on time? Wouldn't you consider that to be insane?
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I do not want to live that long. I did not expect to live this long... Anyway
 
IamNoone said:
I have outlived both my parents, in a sense that I have lived longer than they did. I have no yardstick to know what my bloodline is supposed to live to.

I have my own health issues but I don't want to get to the point of being a burden.

This bit in Con Air is so true:



I do not want to live that long. I did not expect to live this long... Anyway
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I think that most people's fear of death is actually the fear of what will happen to their loved ones, if you've been lucky enough to ensure their wellbeing in any event, or not have anyone dependant on you, that certainly will lighten the burden when faced with illness and death.

I saw both my parents pass on and I will never forget the look of peace or closure that came over them when it happened. It's very hard to describe in words. I suspect that death itself is nowhere near as bad or unbearable as the leading up suffering or dying process through illnesses etc.

Side note :

Something that has stuck in my head forever is how a person's body changes almost instantly after death. I can best describe it as a near instantaneous transformation of a life form to an inanimate object. A dead person feels the same as touching a wooden table or other object. Yet every biological organ or physical thing that made up that person and sustained life is still there..... Maybe I'm terribly misguided here, but to me it felt like much more than just a physical thing, it's like the life spark or soul or something non physical in nature left the body and it is that which was the person, not the inanimate shell left behind.

These are just some "out there" personal thoughts from my own experiences btw.
 
I never want to burden anyone and as soon as I'm a burden or can't look after myself I'm outa here.
 
Hard to say. we all had the thoughts of not doing XYZ in our younger days but when we got older we did exactly XYZ. I used to think I'd live hard and fast enjoy and then I became a father. As long as I am not a burden on them I'd like to live as long as possible to see what they become and what they do. However I must clock out before they do.

I find that its the saddest thing for a parent to live to 90s and the child clocks out at like 60.
 
Seen some oldies take a massive hit and get back to being independent fairly quickly and carry on. My takeaway is you may get dependent on someone but good chance you can improve and get back to your two feet.

Saying that dementia is another story. Would want to go out in a bang asap.
 
Both my grandmothers passed away last year. One needed assistance with everything and had no dignity and it was definitely something that made me rethink about getting too old.

My other grandmother just needed assistance with movement. She still had most of her dignity. They were the same age so it's really anyone's guess.

The one who suffered the most was a heavy drinker at one stage and the other one didn't drink much at all. Neither smoked AFAIK.
 
If I had the choice then I'd want to go out having lived long enough to see my grandchildren grow up and to have health that is good enough for me not to be dependent on anybody. The rest I feel is just do you for the most part and the rest should hopefully fall in place.
 
TofuMofu said:
I've seen what untreated cancer looks like...not a good look. Everyone will know.
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I am not saying they won't find out, just they will find out when its probably too late, so you wither and die in 6 months and deteriorate quickly rather than go through 2 or whatever years of various stages to end up the same way.
 
I reckon 75 is a good number to be taken out, but then technology is also ever changing.

At the same time my old man had a stroke and became a paraplegic in his late 40’s and lived to just past 60 and still found joy in his life.
 
both sides I have people living deep into their 80s fairly self sufficient , so post 80s is then i need to worry about.... unless those genes skipped me
 
My mum was diagnosed with Motor Neuron Disease just over a year ago (at age 60). She's now permanently in a wheelchair, cannot move, speak or feed herself. Needs someone else to do everything for her. Her mind is still sharp though. She can do a complicated sudoku faster than most. We got her an eyetracking device (Tobii) so she can browse the net, watch youtube, use whatsapp, etc. Those are the only things she can do.

I never want to be in this position where I'm relying on others to keep me alive. It's crazy how suddenly something like this can happen too. Two years ago my mum was healthy, not on any meds and was running 3 days a week doing sub 30mins 5km. I can't even do that. We only found out about the disease after she started tripping and falling randomly while running.
 
Sad tellings here.

It is one thing to say one will self-terminate and another to do it.

A good start though is a living will. Mine says essentially that if an event occurs whereafter I shall not likely revert to a normal standard of life as I am used to, then "do not resuscitate".
 
Goosfrabba said:
The problem of modern medicine is that it's great at keeping us alive, quality of life be damned.

People who would have dropped dead at 50 due to lifestyle choices are kept alive through pills, pacemakers etc.

I'm all for longer lives but if someone needs to wipe my arse, I opt out
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There's a special place in hell for medical folk who believe in life at all costs
 
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