Gifts from past relationships

Devill said:
Rofl :D

Well the thing is people start forgetting the faults of the dead person and start thinking of them as perfect in some cases.

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I agree, there were no horrible breakup, she will never see him with another skank, so he was hers and everything was and stil is good and nice, she forgot about all the bad stuff.

I think you have to stop. I think it's bothering you more than her.
 
bsntombela said:
I don't know if anyone here has ever gone through the same thing, but I'm telling you, a very few people would feel comfortable with your girlfriend holding a teddy bear from an EX tight in her arms after you have a fight..
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Hmm, that's not good. I can see how that bothers you.
 
Mila said:
I agree, there were no horrible breakup, she will never see him with another skank, so he was hers and everything was and stil is good and nice, she forgot about all the bad stuff.

I think you have to stop. I think it's bothering you more than her.
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Having some issues with a BF? :p:D
 
No but the next girl is always a skank in the other girls eyes.... me i have stalkers and i feel sorry for girls that has the same stupid streak as me.
 
Devill said:
Rofl :D

Well the thing is people start forgetting the faults of the dead person and start thinking of them as perfect in some cases.

Have a sit doen with her and tell het how you feel.
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How about sit down, talk the talk and walk the walk. The truth shall set you (and maybe her) free. If the outcome is not the one you liked, it is probably the best. You already anticipated the outcome anyway because of your anticipation to not talk to her.

She will probably just cling like a magnet to another boyfriend to feel sorry for her.
 
Dolby said:
Er. I've heard this so often. According to stats there's a 40% chance chance she's with someone else as well as you. And in many cases, she's with you until someone else comes along that offers her more.

Remember not Mr Right, but Mr Right Now ...
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Im guessing you are single then and have had similar experiences?
 
bsntombela said:
This the thought of it scares the s*** outta me!
And she has said so herself once
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That's pretty insensitive on her part and exactly what I was said earlier about being compared to the dead guy, and having it thrown in your face, being an issue to take up with her.

If it continues give her an ultimatum. Dwell in the past wishing I was him or move on and accept me for me. Simple as that. If she finds this unreasonable then she is damaged goods and really not worth the effort.
 
If it continues give her an ultimatum. Dwell in the past wishing I was him or move on and accept me for me. Simple as that. If she finds this unreasonable then she is damaged goods and really not worth the effort.[/QUOTE]

Hard hitting facts there, no need for one to feel undermined just in the name of "love"...
 
I would break up and tell her to come back when she's dealt with her loss and she's ready to move on. She obviously isn't ready yet and if the relationship is causing you heartache, it's not good. She might be in a relationship to take her mind off him and give her something else to think about, in which case, you don't mean that much to her.

I don't mean to sound insensitive or to drush your spirit but this is the way I see it.
 
supersunbird said:
A real man wouldn't be this insecure...
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Man that's just classic! I fail to see how my discomfort would be classified as being insecure??? the dude passed away 3 years ago, why would I be insecure? perhaps if he'd moved to some other place and might come back...

I just think this "real men" business amongst us is responsible for our male society's main flaws. The sooner we men realize that like women who have feelings, insecurities, etc. the better it is to become a better boyfriend/father/husband/friend!:rolleyes:
 
Women have feelings, insecurities etc?

Link please
 
Real men don't rape...................
Real men drink beer.....................
Real men scratches their balls........
Real men don't whiney whiney like girls........
 
bsntombela said:
Hi,

My girlfriend's once lost an ex-boyfriend of hers in a car accident about 2 years ago. She has dated other guys between then and now but has never kept any of their gifts. However she's kept all the gifts from the boyfriend who passed away.

It really does make me feel inadequate seeing this guys lingerie, teddy bears, watches that he got for her. I've spoken to her about them and she said the only reason she keeps them is because they are of a sentimental value to her. She said that if they make me feel uncomfortable she'd get rid of them, however this has not happened in over a month. Am I wrong by asking her to dispose of them???
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Yes. You're being a douche-bag by demanding them gone.

This guy is dead

How is he a threat to you? She chose YOU above all the losers she could have dated or said yes to. So get over yourself and your "inadequate" feelings!

Why do you feel so inadequate anyway? Might it be that you never bought her gifts like that? So what if you don't? She's still with you.... she's still YOUR girlfriend. Doesn't that say anything?

"Oh *crap in my pants* this DEAD guy is going to steal my girlfriend away from me boo hoo"

pfffff
 
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